Is This Poem A Good Example Of Toxic Masculinity?

[anon1903]

Funnily, i've heard men say all of the above. every line i have heard coming from different mouths.

It also undermines a man's worth.

[Smoothing]

I don't think it's an example of toxic masculinity. It is an example of how men are actually just like women. Clearly the guy in the poem was abused. He still doesn't get the full scale if the issue but he gets it enough to the point where he doesn't want to talk about it. But it is the only experience he can use to relate to the fact that the girl is a virgin.

After him revealing a little, the girl becomes intrusive. He tries everything to put the subject matter to rest but the girl won't let go. He finally gives in and tells all.

It also reflects the fact that guys don't expect to find a virgin after their teenage years because teenagers fuck like rabbits in some societies.

All in all, it portrays a man who meets a girl that can unknowingly hurt him by revealing to him he was abused by a 34 year old woman when he was 12. Moral of the story is, if the guy doesn't realise he was abused, don't tell him. You will hurt him.

On the one hand though, the guy is trying to flirt with the girl but the girl is not flirting back because the flirting is triggering all the wrong memories in the girls head. In stead she is curious to know the age of the older female who broke the guy's virginity.

The guy is like a glass that could break at anytime but he is walking around like titanium.

[anon1903]

Still a better story than Fifty Shades lmao

[Smoothing]

From what perspective are you comparing the two?

[anon1903]

I was trying to make a joke. Geez.

[Smoothing]

😂 😂 😂

[anon1903]

But come to think of it, in Fifty Shades, Christian's trauma is romantised in form of "hot male character, the Dom"

[WonderBell99]

MHO!!

[Smoothing]

Thank you @WonderBell99

[Smoothing]

Yes agreed @anon1903

[AimeeKyle]

It really is ridiculous how we keep creating new terms to confuse everyone….

masculinity is a noun
The quality of being masculine; masculine character or traits.
The state or quality of being masculine; masculineness.
The degree or property of being masculine or manly; manliness
the trait of behaving in ways considered typical for men
the properties characteristic of the male sex

Toxic masculinity is a ridiculous term. We actually need more masculinity in the world. He apparently didn’t have an appropriate roll model in his life if he’s talking such smack from when he was 12.

What you have shown above was created by a wanna-be attempting to show off to someone…. Not sure who exactly, maybe others within his group that also missed out on having a positive influence in his young life. A sad state of affairs that unfortunately seems to be an ongoing trend.

Ultimately though, call the individual or individuals for how they are acting and what they really are…. Toxic masculinity isn’t it.

[Dnc_21]

Spot on...

[Ευδεμονια]

I think honestly it is. The man there is an example of toxic macho, very arrogant and irritating. I sincerely don’t stand this type of people, regardless of their traumas, that don’t justify their behaviour.

[StrongMale]

First off, we need to stop using the term “toxic masculinity”. It’s a label and it’s overused and highly offensive. FYI.. I don’t talk like that, and I don’t know any guys who do.

[anon1903]

Then you must be living in utopia or something

[StrongMale]

I’m not. I live in the real world, with decent, good men (and women) for friends. I’m not arguing with you. Just offering another perspective is all. ☺️

[Kaneki05]

Granted only 4 girls replied but it's an irony how they all say yes. But some of the males question it right. And it's ashame they don't see why that it is.

[exitseven]

It is a guy spouting a bunch of BS. He probably wouldn't know what to do with a woman.

[scooogy]

I'd rather say it's weakness. He sounds like a male prostitute.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Seems like it. Sure sounds like he’s verbally bullying the narrator about his virginity.

[genericname85]

no, it's an examample of "a toxic male". there's no toxic masculinity.

[Blackcosmo]

Yeah

[pizzalovershouse]

Depends on the persons perspective

[Jennz6]

Yes, I think so

[DavidRaul]

Looks like it

[anton_dee]

He says all that.

I say he's an asshole...

[Debbie14217]

yes it is

[WhitneySnow]

Yes. It is.

[Jamie05rhs]

Probably, yeah.