Just FYI I’m a virgin, but had phone sex with my ex. He was very pushy, coercive, manipulative, controlling etc and truth be told, I was depressed when we began dating, insecure and had weak boundaries. My ex was into all sorts of weird things (like listening to me pee) and I went along with it because yes, I was hanging onto his approval + was suicidal and was very naive/inexperienced back then. At some point I told him to stop, that his sex was weird, that I’m not sure I really loved him, that I am losing attraction to him etc and he would psychologically manipulate me in my depressive state, neg me, etc. I take blame for being weak and pitiful back then too. I ended up cheating on him by sexting someone else out of spite. I was traumatized and emotionally damaged, but have since resolved my childhood trauma, am a lot more confident yet pleasant to be around, more mature emotionally and sociable etc. I’m now dating someone new, am still a virgin technically but I’m wondering if I should tell him about the stuff before him to be honest and transparent, or to only bring it up if he asks, or what. Thank u
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