Is it just me or guys tend to like a girl more when she is more reserved?

[CubsterShura]

Okay so I'm the loudest and most talkative open book I know. But in the recent months I'm becoming a bit more introverted sometimes for a multitude of reasons, I may be having a bad day, or just overwhelmed or whatever reason. So I'm more quiet and less friendly/open. Usually I open up later if I do start feeling more comfortable with time.

I noticed that if I meet new guys when I'm my natural outgoing self I make guy friends but when on the days when I'm more reserved, even on the days I'm absolutely not in the mood to be approached at all I still get guys hitting on me or showing interest in me.

I feel like part of it is just when a guy sees me being more reserved and thinks that's how I am but later get proven wrong by clearly seeing me being outgoing later on it surprises them and makes them more interested because they realize there is more to me than they assumed.

I honestly am not a fan of it. Most of these days I'm just depressed or stressed or whatever and genuinely not in the mood to be approached, so being approached the most when I'm at the worst possible mood for that is... just not good. Kinda makes me feel like I'm wanted only when I'm having a bad day and that sucks. I get it that these men mean no harm and they can't read my mind and I don't think any of them are evil either I'm just saying that this situation sucks.

[AlphaGhost]

You kinda answer your own question here. I am really sorry you are depressed recently but guys don't know this and when they see beautiful 22-year-old, they gona take their chance.

Modern woman especially "White woman" have become very flashy, where they religiously follow generic beautiful woman definition, Ex: Kardashian Pandemic. Which trust me majority of guys hate and don't give a F about, but you are exactly opposite of that (making a guess based on our history), reserved and exotic. Which makes you stand out among the crowd and that leads to multiple guys noticing you and asking you out.

Its unpopular opinion according to new uni-gender-NAZI movement BUT "Guys like things they can't have, and odd things capture men attention faster". Furthermore, confident women intimidate cuz we assume she already has boyfriend or in relationship.

That's the best I can do cuz its odd question... to reiterate "Yes reserved girls are preferred"

[ChiTown33]

You ever heard the saying, "better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool then to open your mouth and confirm it"? I'm not calling you a fool. But I am saying we all (both men and women, and especially women), Take impressions of people. And the less these people do through things such as talking. Then we are forced to create our own perceptions of who they are with the little information that is provided. And since it's coming from our own brain we tend to mix in past experiences and pre-concieved notions that are frequently wrong.

This is why I'll tell any guy that will listen, that is having trouble getting dates "KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT". The less you say, the better chance you have of not ruining your chances. Answer her in short answers and don't volunteer any more info then you have to. If she's talking to it's an opening. Let her write the story.

[lilyanony1]

I think it depends on the guy. I'm very quiet and people just don't bother with me. When I was more outgoing people talked to me more.
I can only assume its my lack of confidence I've lost a lot... But the things I have are of very little value to today's society

[Chris_u006]

Materialism is not the meaning of life.
Family and friendship is.
/LoneWolf

[lilyanony1]

Thank you for your comment.
The current guy I'm dating is very popular and although he makes time for me his life is very social.
Am I jealous? A little...
But does he give me reason to be no.
He reassures me that the qualities I possess he likes, does he wish I was more outgoing probably.
But it's not that I can't be, I just find peace owny own. People have taken advantage of me a lot.

[Aelleden]

I like independant girls but not the ones that scream super loud and try to act bad and mean and super controlling.
It's quite hard to explain, confident shy independent is usually why I like the most, a girl that knows what she likes, live her life but still a bit shy

[Massageman]

You explained it perfectly. I like the same kind of gals.

[CubsterShura]

When did loud become synonymous with mean or controlling? I'm neither.

[Aelleden]

I like humble girls and usually humble people are not the loud ones that brag super loud of themselves or try to get attention from everybody around by talking louder than anyone.

[Aelleden]

Maybe you're not but that's the vibe I get from people like that.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Guys are more likely to be attracted to a girl who is showing more skin because it usually means she's saying she's single, as opposed to when she's covered up more (which usually implies she's not single)

[CubsterShura]

I never show any skin from neck down lol

[ericclayton]

It seems to me a mixed bag. Some guys like a feisty woman, some like a more submissive woman. In your culture, it's probably different.

[CubsterShura]

I'm in a city full of people from all around the world lol but it's predominantly white

[BLP11520]

I can only comment on American women, some women here are more open and friendly while others have their guard up. If I were single I would go for more open ladies

[BJP21]

Not only is that a good strategy thats also smart.

[msc545]

You are right in that people cannot read your mind. Tell them what it is you want.

[Grond21]

That sounds draining and discouraging

[CubsterShura]

It is!!

[Grond21]

I am sorry. Especially because your natural level is so fun

[Kelly6]

That does sound true

[EaterPeter]

Me too, I guess