Why does it seem like if you’re too kind/respectful to women they think you’re gay or the nice guy?

I know this doesn’t apply to all women but I’ve noticed that the women I’ve been respectful with in the past seemed turned off or disinterested. It’s kinda weird because as soon as I started disregarding them viewing them as an object or belittling them in a way they seem to want me more. Does treating a women bad make them value you more or something?
Why does it seem like if you’re too kind/respectful to women they think you’re gay or the nice guy?
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