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Women put up a big barrier of entry in the early stages of dating. If the man is truly interested he has to be cautious and self aware of his behavior. Hence he’s often on “best” behavior.
But in reality men much more often are forced to do things that don’t come natural to us in the early stages of dating. Women are like “oh be yourself” well no shit it’s easy to say that if you are a woman (especially an attractive one) and are used to men approaching you. All you have to do is 1) dress well and look good 2) not be TOO over the top crazy.
Men will also usually tolerate a lot more crazy/unfair behavior than vice versa in the early stages. We are basically on a job interview and on the hot seat. The woman gets to decide yeh or nay in most circumstances in the first few dates. Most women have no idea how much power they have here. Many abuse it.
Anyway I am not saying it’s okay for guys to go on cruise control after they get past the woman’s initial “tests”. But again most guys know if they acted as they normally do in the early stages then most would get rejected (unless the woman was initially interested before he approached)
It comes down to self-awareness. One thing about men that women tend not to understand is that men very much operate on the assumption that you are going to feel comfortable voicing your concerns after a relationship has been established. Women don’t think that way… the gesture of thinking to ask is important. And men struggle to understand that the vast majority of women aren’t going to feel comfortable speaking up about things on their own. In the same way that it is a man’s job to be receptive and encourage you to speak up about your feelings, it’s your job to do so.
so, the answer to your question is that it’s a little bit of a maturity thing, but mostly it’s a “that’s just how men are“ thing.
I read through some of the comments here and I see the same old pattern - they're blaming you for picking the wrong men. They just throw it back on you, because they don't like their gender being criticized.
I never dated guys who were not caring, did not treat me at least reasonably well. There were all sorts of issues, and young guys are flaky as shit, but they at least put in effort to try to be the guy they know they could/should be.
My advice is don't put up with shit, and date older. Which is no problem, because just about all guys like women younger than them.
sounds like you're talking to the wrong men! for a period of my life, i only met selfish guys. i was very depressed, and a lot of them would say “oh that sucks…” and/or try to sleep with me afterwards.
a good male friend or boyfriend DOES care, maybe you just haven't had luck finding them. but they do exist. i met them eventually, just hold onto humanity. 😮💨
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Why are the men you meet so crap at caring? Probably because you aren't setting boundaries in the beginning and don't have a good picker. Maybe even look at red flags as yellow and probably think deep down this is what you deserve but still complain because the above is just simply too hard to do
I’ve been called a good person quite often. But I find I do this quite often too. For me personally I’ve wondered why I do it, I think it’s because of insecurities, after finally getting comfortable with someone I just find it’s easier to talk bout what happens in my head
Im a dude same as others and that repeated statement is true, our mental healths ignored, personally I find I’m not comfortable talking to my family about things as it’s oft ignored same with some friends. I find generally girls are happy to listen, it’s a different outlet for me and gives me someone to vent to rather then bottle it up.
Depends on the guy. But if you’re sexist. You’re going to chase all the good men off. Which is why you’re stuck with the bottom of the barrel. It’s harsh. But it’s the truth.
I don’t want a sexist woman who has a problem with men. I do care. A lot of other men care. Some people are narcissistic. There are women who display these same behaviors.
I know that’s not all women and don’t hate all women.
It’s repulsive to a good man. When someone has a problem when men.
Hmm this sounds like a big miscommunication to me. If the woman is bothered by how the man is interacting with her, then it's important to tell him that she's bothered. Keeping quiet will only make things worse. Good communication is key to a successful relationship.
Of course if the guy still the same thing after being told what's wrong, then the issue persists.
To answer the question though, I'm sorry but I feel this is generalizing. SOME guys and some people do that. Everyone is different. Not every guy is selfish in a relationship like that.
I know it drives me nuts , I get treated horrible because I am hitting 30. They want that stupid younger woman that can't offer crap at the table. Men should ask them selfs this , This lady is sweet caring and loving yeah wife potential? She is the one? but NO. They all want stupid younger woman that dont know how to cook , clean or much
Seems like the men YOU pick are garbage. I know a bunch of guys who would never act like that with their girlfriend. Unfortunately it's the same guys you ladies are not attracted to. So I'm gonna have to stop you when you say men in general are like that. Because not all of us are.
Because they're comfortable and can now show their true feelings or themselves. It happens a lot in relationships for men and women. You just get so use to each other that you feel lije you don't have to impress or go out of each other's way to feel special to each other again. That's the problem with relationships Sometimes, you gotta keep the spark going and maintain your love and intimacy for each other.
Because we´re differently wired and some of us show that in more and some in a less extreme way so to say. Meaning some guys have more problems showing empathy and compassion than others.
One of the problems is that many guys learn sublimely in life that a guy either asks for help or starts to talk if he has the need to, since we don´t communicate by body language we can´t read that if a woman tries to communicate using just that.
It’s the quality of the men you’ve been around, assuming you have treated him well and his behavior just changed from being comfortable. I’ve experience it too, but more so with men that aren’t really looking for much depth in the relationship or who are toxic.
It starts when men are made to feel worthless like their point of view or instinct is inherently wrong so they ignore the ways they can help because it’s always called out for being condescending to women when men help women. This is probably where is apathy is coming from. He is not going to naturally regain his sense of caring without being explicitly told what he should do first. As annoying as it is, you will have to have a talk with him about what you need from him. He is not going to figure this out on his own by giving him the silent treatment while you tell us, the internet, all the gory details.
Bad men don't care and Won't care. Good men however will. When I'm having a bad day or a problem I'll try to fix it myself, but he will do his best and find a way to get himself involved just to help me solve it. It's annoying sometimes, but he cares and that's what matters.
Maybe because they are being themself and being real feeling like feeling home already.
If you don’t like it it’s better to break up because if you are looking for them to change it won’t happen.
Also you have flaws too.. but we aren’t aware of them.
I am the first to admit that I tend toward being more logical than emotional, but part of that logic includes being considerate of those whom I have chosen to love. In your situations, it sounds like you nailed it: they got too comfortable and took you for granted. The truth is that if they had truly loved you, they would have been focused upon what is best for you. Perhaps not every second of every day, but in general.
Its not our job our job is to and provide and protect kinda hard to care when your out hunting or fighting off would be harm to doers and food thieves
PS) men are expandable you can lose a lot of them and the population won't suffer women are the other are more important to the species population
Because women don't actually like it when men care. Women hate emotional men, they hate attentive men, and they hate needy men. If the guy you're on about started caring, you'd stop caring. The hilarious truth is women like be treated poorly, and men who treat women too well get stepped on by said women.
They ain’t, it’s ironical that 7 out of 10 women who claim they aren’t loved, cared for or have been cheated on treat their men as shit. How a man behaves is a reflection of a woman’s attitude towards his ego. Women, If you don't wanna to hurt a man's ego, treat him with respect, admiration and appreciation and he will treat you as a queen, unlock a man’s hurt. Otherwise be disrespectful, argumentative, equal, feminist, controlling and cease to exist.
Seems to be common in men and I can't figure it out either. I know I'm attractive, but I keep getting passed up For men like that and remain single. I guess I'm just built different I would always make a woman feel loved, cared for, cherished, protected, and valued. So there are men out there that are not like that I guess we are just a rare breed
The good thing is only the ones you have been attracting are "so crap at caring". Meaning there are million men out there good at caring. Perhaps you should do better at attracting men who can provide the care you want.
Men naturally lack empathy. If their mothers don't teach them it as babies/childern they will never learn. They might be able to pretend for awhile to care just to get into the relationship but after awhile their true colors show.
Cause they don't truly care, they just put effort in the beginning to reach their goal and once accomplished... well you know
