What does it mean if a guy says things were rushed?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been on and off with a guy for several months. Things ended badly and we agreed to try things again on a fresh note. We were going to have a conversation addressing everything bad that happened before prior to engaging in anything. We went out for Halloween; and then ended up hooking up. He didn’t text me for over a day so I messaged him and asked if everything was okay and if last weekend was appropriate and I’m getting worried. He replied and said he’s been thinking and he doesn’t think it was appropriate and he apologizes. And things were definitely rushed. Does this just mean he lost interest and doesn’t want to try again? What do you guys think? I’m starting to feel physically sick/hurt from that thought and I feel like that’s what it means :( I asked if he still wants to talk and he hasn’t responded as of yet.

[BarryLiverstone]

It means he isn’t ready for the relationship to be tried again

[Asker]

Gotcha, so no dating or anything? And I should just leave this be?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya give him space this week and check in close to the weekend

[Asker]

Gotcha. So like, I should take this as a sign that he isn’t interested in me and move on? Or just genuinely want to slow things down and talk

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s him saying he regrets you all going too fast and hooking up. He wants space and freedom so give it to him and see if by the weekend or next week he misses you.

For you, best to move past him and find someone else in case he’s done

[Asker]

Okayyy. I’ll try to move on. I’m just struggling to understand bc like if you genuinely want to be with a person would hooking up be an issue? I don’t know if I should be positive and assume he just wants to slow things down or a sign he doesn’t want to be with me

[BarryLiverstone]

You said you broke up. So for him it means moving on and if you hooked up he feels like that’s right back in the relationship. So he’s regretting it and wants to move on

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way ya hooking up is an issue. You understand?

[Asker]

We broke up before but we had agreed to try again. He said he wanted to try again and focus fully on me, but discuss everything that went wrong before to make sure it worked the next time. We hooked up before we did that, which is what I don’t know if he means by we rushed things or he just lost interest and decided he doesn’t want to be with me after hooking up. I thought he wanted to be in the relationship again but if he genuinely wanted to move on I guess that’s different. I guess that’s what I’m trying to distinguish? I don't know :( I feel sad lol

[Asker]

Why was hooking up an issue? Like if we’re interested in each other? Is this the issue he means (moving too fast)? I’m always so dumb with this stuff

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya I see why you feel sad. Sounds like he isn’t ready to try again. Best to move on and if he does wanna try he will reach out

[BarryLiverstone]

Cuz hooking up
Is sexual and intimate and floods old emotions and feelings. It’s an issue as he’s broken up with you and feels guilty for all that

[BarryLiverstone]

Not sure if I’m helping fully. Feel free to follow me if you wanna ask more about it

[Asker]

Gotcha, so because he still wants to be broken up, he thought it wasn’t right to hook up? I think that makes sense. Makes me sad but that makes a lot of sense. So I really should just assume he’s not interested at the moment, and it’s not about moving slower/talking and getting to know each other?

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya cuz if he really wanted to talk you all would have talked