Guys, what do you bring to the table apart from a pay check?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I'm a leader - I take charge of problems and I make decisions - and I have an excellent track record of making good decisions.

I am very protective, and not just hypothetically, but very much in practice. I always make a point of placing myself between her and any potential danger, whether that's walking down the street, being in a public place, or whatever. I maintain situational awareness, and I've probably already thought through 3 different plans if something goes wrong in any situation.

I'm "handy" and not afraid of physical work. I can fix most things myself, and I have lots of experience with tools and machines. I can design and build things. I'm not helpless and dependent on others for the basics, and often not even for more advanced things.

I'm emotionally stable, and I remain calm and cool in most situations. I've been called "grounded" and "my emotional rock" by women I've been with - they can count on me to be fair and rational, even when they aren't being so.

I'm very loving, and very physical. I prefer that my girl is within touching distance whenever practical, and I have my hand on her as much as I can, whether it's holding hands, rubbing her back or thigh, or having her cuddled up against me.

I have wisdom. I can see the bigger picture as well as the fine details, and I know how to keep things in perspective, and how to keep the overall goal in mind.

I'm resilient and persistent. If I encounter a problem or a setback, I recover and I keep moving forward - I don't give up or spend time on pity parties. Setbacks are a normal part of life, and something to be avoided when possible, but overcome when avoidance isn't possible.

I'm a good listener, and I have 40 years of people coming to me for advice, so I'm good at getting to the root problem rather than getting lost dealing with symptoms. People who follow my advice nearly always report success, and people who ignore my advice usually report failure.

While I'm a realist, I'm also optimistic and I have a generally positive attitude. I'm aware of the real problems and issues, but I almost always believe that there is a solution that, at the very least, makes things better, and often something that can solve the problem entirely.

I have a sense of humor, and I'm not easily offended or over-sensitive.

I believe that everyone has something of value that I can learn from, and I'm not afraid to learn from anyone.

While I'm certainly not perfect, I have morals and values that are fairly high, while still being realistic about the nature of human beings and the world as a whole.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

In no particular order:

An interesting personality
High intelligence and problem solving skills
Life experience (though I'm far from a "master" at it)
A spine/backbone
A strong sense of humor
Good listening skills
Care and affection towards the right woman
Respect (which isn't as common as some women think)
Intimacy
Engaging and intriguing conversation
Creativity and art
Physical protection and safety, plus hand to hand combat skills
Good work ethic (hard working)
Responsible mindset
Bravery
Loyalty
Reliability
Leadership experience
Money management skills
Time management skills
No children
No divorce baggage
No history of cheating or non-monogamy
No debt
Clean sexual health (no STDs)
Masters degree in English

... And maybe some other stuff, too.

Guys, what do you bring to the table apart from a pay check?

I just DON'T bring height, chiseled abs, a handsome face, a 7+ inch penis, or a high bullsh*t tolerance to the table. Sorry my name isn't Tyrone or Chad. And yes, I know not having any of those things instantly makes me a 4 or less out of 10 with so many modern women nowadays.

Now I expect Barubie or some other GAG girl to immediately dismiss everything I've said here cause she thinks she knows me better than I know me.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I like guys with good ideas and dispositions and manners - but kindness is the most important - far more than income or social circles.

pewter_moon · Accepted Answer

For someone as angry as you sound they don’t need to bring anything.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Physical protection, a sense of adventure, good conversation, I'm a good cook, and I'd like to think I'm a decent kisser and lay.

coachTanthony · Answer

Wow the amount of simpin comments is staggering. She will find out through my actions not words behind a keyboard.

HighValue · Answer

Paycheck, health, dental, vision insurance.

Physical protection. (I am big, strong, and can fight very well.)

Logical successful problem solver.

Can also solve most emotional problems/conflicts.

I am very good with kids, especially ages 7 and older for helping them manage emotions, make friends, relieve stress, and for academic success.

I know how to cook.

I am good with time management and have good organizational skills. (That is one of the main reasons why household chores are very easy for me when others think they are difficult or time consuming. They just have poor time management and organizational skills.) I could teach a potential partner how to get things done more efficiently.

I am loyal, trustworthy, affectionate, and bring 7" + where it counts. :P

I keep other people's stress down by using humor.

I have no contact with any ex (no drama).

I know how to repair some things around the house.

I can setup most technology devices at home. (Home theatre, TV, gaming, etc.)

I can build some things with wood. (Table, storage chest/Minecraft style chest :), shelves, etc.)

SnowedIn · Answer

Empathy. Silence if you want it, conversation if you'd like it, advice only when asked (or you're going to hurt yourself). I know how to dress, can and will give you a compliment, be honest when you ask for it and silent when you don't, and will be your champion for whatever you're doing. I'm going to appreciate you for being you and celebrate our differences. I won't blindly agree with you but I'll respect our differences. I'm okay if you have strength and success. And, literally, I can bring food to the table; I can cook. Not Michelin Star worthy, but you'll enjoy it and want more.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I cook, do all grocery shopping and all weekly meal planning, do dishes, fix dishwasher, fold laundry, fix washer and dryer, clean house and cars, vacuum, fix the vacuum, do all preventive maintenance on our cars, repair all house fixtures, plan all vacations and activities, manage finances and pay all bills, invest in my childrens education, invest in wifes education, teach my children, play with my children, help with homework, put my kids to bed every night, do all lawn work, repair all lawn equipment, teach my wife and kids music, repair all my own music instruments including tuning our piano, and give wife good sex.

My wife is a stay at home mom. I work full time. Literally.

ohsheeT · Answer

Friendship, love, passion, stability, insight, common sense, patience, happiness, the ability to see things and either comment on them or let them be because it's your business or her business, character, making sure she feels secure deep deep passion intimacy a soft touch communication whether it's verbally through my eyes through my body language understanding and commitment I'm sure there's a dozen more things I mean the biggest thing would be just me because not only all the above but morals values and ethics and the understanding of not trying to be right but putting myself in that person's shoes and seeing it from their eyes it's just I mean there's so much more I mean there's just so much more it's so deep I'm just me and at the same time it's not about me it's about the person that I'm in love with or that I'm with but trust love respect there's I can go on and on character that's probably what it is character

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

A good time, I have almost limitless energy, I love doing stuff. I'm funny and take care of things.

I deal with stress very well, if a car breaks down, I can probably fix it, if not, I have 3 mechanics who will do the work for next to nothing. When a water pipe in the house breaks I know what to do. I've had to start over in life so many times that literally nothing phases me. We could lose our jobs today and still I can take care of us with my other sources of income.

I look good, I have a decent family, I can probably get along with your family and none of my family members are bald. So I think I'll age like a fine wine.

Finchie40 · Answer

My love and loyalty, Respect and honesty, Removing selfishness and temptations , Chores around the house , cleaning and making dinners , making sure she is ok , protecting her , and letting her know my heart belongs to her , I like a girl that wants to be a team , Her and I Vs the world , My money is her money vice versa , the bills are paid we have food and clothes , all I ask for his intimacy and affection and for her to be loyal and loving to me , Not running around screwing other guys , She accepts my flaws like I accept hers , That’s what makes Love grow , it won’t always be perfect but when you find someone that stands by you like you stand by them that’s the best relationship anyone can ask for , because with out any of that , there is no relationship, you are best to be single and live your selfish lifestyle

lightbulb27 · Answer

As yet, I don't work. I'm converted to home maker now, so I bring $ I've saved and thus some investment income.

Emotional support and someone to talk with and gain support.

Help raising the kids, again, more emotional support.

I take care of house duties so she doesn't have to think about that stuff, as she doesn't want to. Includes upkeep of house and machines and managing workers.

I partner to enjoy trips/vacations and excursions that otherwise, may not be as fun.

A bed partner and that's many things.

Support during rough days, accidents, family changes in the lifecycle.

I'm a decent cook, I get the meals ready for the week which saves time and some $.

Does she NEED me... no. She had kids already, doesn't need that and she could do all the aboe herself. It can mostly be outsourced. Does she want me. That's her choice and seems yes, I add some value to her life and she does to mine.

Chthou95 · Answer

This is what men bring to the table in general

· They give you children

· They protect you and your family and will die for you

· They're there for you when you need support

· They will be leaders and make decisions because most women prefer a man that's in the leadership role

· They sexually will do whatever they have to do to make you feel good and satisfied

· They'll teach the sons how to become men and how to navigate through life more effectively

· They'll be there for daughters and show her she doesn't have to be insecure

These are the fundamental things a man brings to the table in a relationship

Sixgun77 · Answer

I'm a good cook, a good shot, and I know how to catch fish all year long (even without modern equipment. I have skills and knowledge that can help keep us going in the event of social collapse.
I take care of her when she's sick and am willing and able to keep our house in order.

I'm crazy in love with her, so I bring that to the table too. I sort her emotionally and give her career advice when she needs a sounding board. I also provide intimacy and company.

In short, I support (in ways other than financial) and protect.

worldscolide · Answer

Besides a paycheck? Let's see.

I have a good personality
I stand next to my wife no matter what (I have her back and support her)
Im handy with tools and can fix most anything.
I can cook.
I love animals, sometimes more than humans lol
Strength of character
I don't back down unless I'm wrong.
I can and do admit when I'm wrong.
I'm always there for her.
I'm loyal (which a lot of women aren't and unfortunately a lot of men aren't)
I treat her better than I treat my self.

My wife has aspergers syndrome.. And that is something I deal with on the daily.. Her brother once told me "she's my sister I love her in spite of her condition" my response was "well I love her, including her condition." which makes me a better man than most.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

A Costco gold executive card

a big spoon

9.5 in penis ( that will poke you all night)

a jeep and a motorcycle

the word of God

slightly over 6ft

a 195lb St. Bernard ( that still thinks it’s a baby and can just jump on people)

my grandma’s fried chicken recipe ( won second place at chicken festival in Nashville)

my Victoria secret and playboy magazine collection ( because I’m a man of culture)

a personal mechanic , carpenter , plumber and electrician

also I have to drink alcohol everyday or else I’ll die

And juicy fruit ( yes the gum)

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Protection, security, killing spiders and insects, taking out the trash, getting things done that need to be done, like oil changes, grass cutting, sometimes the honey due list calls for house remodeling and repair and we got to do that. Lifting heavy things that women can’t lift, cleaning things that women don’t want too. In some of my experiences, that includes then house and laundry. Most women nowadays don’t know how to cook, so a lot of the time we end up learning how to do that and spoiling a woman… so yeah, the list of what a man brings to the table most of the time in the experiences I have with some women and my friends relationships, outweigh HEAVILY what a woman actually brings to the table. Which usually in a lot of cases is just a warm body. Which is fine, for some men, but most others do their own thing and just need a companion for a night or two, that’s about it.

ARecruitedPerson · Answer

Emotionally security. I make sure the people in my life are mentally well, and make it known that they don’t have to say something if they don’t want to, but if at any point they need to or want to, they can let me know. If there’s one thing I know for a fact I provide, it’s that. I was blessed with three people willing to do just that for me when I was younger, and it taught me the unbelievable value of that. So now I strive to do just that.

Pohjolan · Answer

Let's see.

- I bring home meat.

- Protection. (I have a strong protective instinct to the instinct to the extent that I risked my life to defend a homeless hobo. Think what I'd be willing to do for my girlfriend. Also while I don't claim to be though guy some of my instructors are.)

- Transportation.

- Kinky sex. (optional)

- My handyman skills.

- A cute dog. (not optional)

- My firefighting and first aid skills.

- Ability to move around heavy objects.

- My outdoorsman skills.

- I'm a good listener.

- DIY wine, cider. jams and jellies.

- Reaching objects on high shelves.

- Opening jars and wine bottles.

- Mushrooms. (not that kind of mushrooms).

- Fish.

- Jokes.

nawtee_me · Answer

I do not bring my paycheck to the table. I have a lot to offer but if I am going to get in a relationship it won't be because of money. I don't have a problem with giving, in fact if I am in a relationship what is mine is hers too. However, I have recently started two potential relationships and both ended quickly because of expectations of money. As I said if I am in a relationship what is mine id hers too. But don't expect me to give you money before we even see each other for the first time. I do not being my paycheck to the table at all...

hahahmm · Answer

What do you bring to the table besides some holes & breasts? That's the #1 question men are asking about women and all most of you women can do is talk about things that don't matter to a man. If you can't even sit at the table, don't worry about what he's putting on it.

DaySpring · Answer

In my opinion, this question is hostile and so are your responses to people's comments.
It certainly looks, to me, like it comes from a hostile place.
A friend can bring kindness into my life but that doesn't mean I don't want a girl who also brings kindness to the table.

Romance, romantic companionship, sex are things your friends cannot bring. I don't consider a sexual friend a friend.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

You have asked this question before. Any reason you are doing it again?

Emotional stability and support, leadership, humor, ambition, loyalty, companionship, security, morals, family values, a home, handyman skills, compassion, great listening, cooking, cleaning, to name a few.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Supper, usually. The baby. Craft supplies. Uh... the mail. Flowers. Light bulbs, batteries, cleaning shit. Painting shit. I brought a turtle once. ... enthusiasm? Appetite? If we're getting metaphysical with it. Prolly more I can't think of. 🤟

xJeremyx · Answer

I like to believe that I bring emotional support, confidence, trust (in our relationship, aka no cheating), level-headedness, intimacy, joy, love, quality time, and emotional presence.

And I also bring (reasonable) expectations for her to live up to. I want her to contribute as much as feasibly possible, and I will do the same as well.

chocolatesinpockets · Answer

Genuinely answering, my warm down-to-earth personality, I'm friendly, hygienic and look I'm being honest here and not a troll, certainly as much as my stable income, gratefully, I also think I am okay in the looks department.

I mean, I really like my biceps, even myself I like my biceps and think I'm very lucky with my genes. Hooray.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

I bring to the table:

-Open to anything besides criminal activities

-I am good in leading trips that are exciting and adventurous. So that we arrive safe to home. I love to take trips and visit places where I've never been and discover everything.

-Physical protection

-Understanding and very caring

Well that's it :)

Lionman95 · Answer

An organised and financially stable life.
I never had problems with the police, never done drugs, don't smoke. I have driving licence, currently without a car since I live in a big city and public transport is cheaper than using a car.
I can cook and clean most stuff on my own.
I also prefer giving a message over receiving one.
I'm generally curious and prefer reading over playing video games.

Lliam · Answer

Stability, trust, empathy, compassion, comfort, strength, security. A partner in crime. A confidant. A helper and trusted best friend. A protector.

Someone to go places, do things and have fun with. Someone with whom to share your joys, sorrows and concerns.

He encourages you to pursue your hopes and dreams. He is romantic, adores you, and satisfies your sexual needs.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Nothing. Given that women get equal pay for equal work now, my paycheck doesn’t even mean that much! Ell oh ell! I got a weiner, but my batteries aren’t rechargeable! Ell oh ell!
If you are happy and healthy, every other meaningful human connection can be made through family and close friends.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

I’m a good listener. I’m thoughtful and romantic. I care a great deal about your feelings. Although I’m really good at reading body language, I prefer not to have to read your mind and you tell me. I’m honest so if you ask me if you look fat in that dress…. also I was a child through parent’s divorce so I’ve learned to be loyal. I’m very driven and because of that I’m a great motivator.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

First of all. What I do with MY money is not up for debate. Unless I have a joint account with what would exclusively only be a wife.

So that completely rules out this question, cause these days majority of women, excluding a small percentage that understand where money comes from and what it takes to acquire large sumps of money.

Expect the man to literally pay for everything they need and more specifically want. Nah.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I assume you mean relationship wise?

: Obviously lead her in the ways of the lord Jesus Christ and the Bible.

: Try my best to love her.

: Offer protection.

: Be a helping hand of support.

: Be there to encourage her.

: Sexual pleasure.

: Respect her.

: Bring another prospective of wisdom.

: Loyalty and honesty.

: Being fair.

: Willing to share my finances.

BigschlongEnergy · Answer

That’s not How that Works I don’t bring a paycheck to the table that paycheck is mine not yours If I decide to buy you something that will be Of my own Will.

Qdbrown · Answer

Bring to the table? I kick the table over and tell the woman what I want and if she doesn't like it, I leave.

RavVid · Answer

Well a pretty damn good pay check. A large apartment. Good at orgasming girls. Reasonably good at listening to you. Have a cleaner. Can't cook so don't expect that but undemanding in your cooking Will do dishes if you cook.

Anonymous · Answer

Supportive, listener who provides a shoulder when needed, a foot or back rub when needed. If home first, will make dinner and clean the house. In short, a simple guy who understands when my SO needs something.

KIK

Summeroflove · Answer

It’s almost Thanksgiving. Turkey. Ham. Mashed potatoes. Sweet potatoes. Pumpkin pie. All kinds of pies and cakes. Mmmmmmmmm. Hot rolls. Mmmmmmmmmmm. Sweet tea. Soda.

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Depends on partner. If you highly value them, see/desire a future with them, and what you get in return (e. g. appreciation, happyness, fullfilment, purpose, etc)

NathanDavis · Answer

I'll just say that it would be needed... way more than a table at least a six stories building, lol

Mr1derful · Answer

I share the home work! In fact I cook or grill 90% of the time. I clean 50%, includes cleaning, laundry, dishes, shop, run errands, shuttle my child around, etc. Also, take care of the home maintenance, yard, cars, etc.

stratford · Answer

I'm genuinely not sure how to interpret this question. Are you suggesting that guys are pretty hopeless apart from providing cash, or are you asking what good things we bring to the world?

I'm not sure this is a gender specific question?

MountAverage · Answer

Emotional support, empathy, companionship, humor and lots laughing together, my thoughts and perspectives, a deep level of intimacy, my music, my heart.

AviatorTom · Answer

Someone to share life's experiences with, to listen to you, to grow together. Whatever we can make together.

WarrenH · Answer

This is an immature and narcissistic question.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't bring a paycheck to the "table." My money is MINE, not hers.

But what I do bring to the relationship is Love, Companionship, Loyalty, Trust, Caring, Friendship, Support, Intellectual Stimulation, Romance, Fun, and Adventure.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Good personality an nice to people Sept the jerks that I have to out up with in public I will tell them to stop ruining others day sense there day sucks dont put your pain onorgers who dont know you

Sixgunsound · Answer

It varies between individuals, some thing that people who think in terms of dialectics don’t seem to understand.

TroyDT2 · Answer

Nothing. I'm eccentric and difficult at times. But I do have a pretty big house (inherited) and I can teach her to surf, play piano, play guitar, and defend herself so I'm not totally useless.

Ryfyle · Answer

A passionate disgust for modernity and its lust for mediocrity. And lets face it, you are blatantly lying if you didn't want a man with a fat paycheck.

Apple1996 · Answer

Half of these guys don't even have a paycheck to bring to the table 😂

NerdInDenial · Answer

A life of adventure and security. Do you like to dress up and go to balls? I got you too...

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Jokes, spontaneous songs a keen mind and a phat cock LoL how's that?

genericname85 · Answer

who said i bring a pay check to the table? xD

shortster · Answer

Peanut butter cup pie.

YourFavoriteFriend · Answer

I bring sweets! Lots of them! What's your favorite?

Anonymous · Answer

If we remove the paycheck from the equation, as well as the female equivalent (sex), I bring a hell of a lot more to the table than most modern women.

Rangers · Answer

Security, loyalty, love, support and safety, what do you bring to the table aside from headaches?

loveslongnails · Answer

So I asked my S. O. and she said "you've made my life fun". I said "ok, that's enough of an answer for now". LOL

admles · Answer

Love Support Help with all housework Physical protection Taking care of my stepson including the majority of school run Empathy Patience Respect

red_knight · Answer

Morals, fam value, culture, manners, respect and clean reputation. I can cook, I'm great with my hands, very well respected, honest, fun, adventurous and straight forward

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

What kind of stupid question is this? You just want to look at people bragging about what strengths they think they have? No one needs to validate shit to you princess.

Anonymous · Answer

All you have is your body. So money is all I need.

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