"You can call me whenever you want I'll be always there for you" after sex? Did he friendzone me?

[Anonymous]

We had sex again. Then we were about to sleep by naked cuddling. I told him he cannot be loyal he said "I can be? You make assumptions about me. But no worries you can call me whenever you want I'll be there always for you"

Did he friendzone me?

[FilmGuy93]

Is there any reason you have to believe that he is friendzoning you?

[Asker]

We had casual relationship. Then I told him I wanna date him. he reached out he said he wants to me date too. We met again have this conversation. So it was confusing. Does he has feelings too or friendzone?

[FilmGuy93]

It seems like he does have feelings for you, but your question about his loyalty threw him off

[Asker]

Are you sure it's not friendzone?

[Asker]

He might using me for sex? I don't know I'm a little paranoid

[FilmGuy93]

Has he done anything since the last we spoke to make you believe that he is only interested in having sex with you?

[Asker]

Well, he is very sexual so I don't know

[FilmGuy93]

Get out of your own way and accept that something good has happened in your life

[Asker]

Weird 🤷🏻‍♀️ If we are already dating (as we agreed on) why he says "you can call me whenever you want"

[FilmGuy93]

Because that’s what you say to someone when you want to reassure them that you are available to them as a support system. I have to say, I’m a little surprised you have questions about this. Is this your first relationship?

[Asker]

It's not. I'm European he's American. So I cannot figure him out. What do you mean? Can you be more specific?

[Asker]

He's older also American. There is age gap and cultural difference. It's hard to tell

[FilmGuy93]

I would be happy to clarify my comments, but I wouldn’t know where to begin. What specifically do you want me to speak more about?

[Asker]

Doesn't that "support system" sound like he might hoping for friends with benefits?

[FilmGuy93]

No. That’s just what a healthy relationship looks like. You should care about the people you have sex with. You should want them to be happy and do well

[Asker]

That is my concern. Weather if he said that simply because we have sex and sees me as friend or he has true feelings for me. If he hasn't he wants me for friends with benefits.

[Asker]

No because we did had casual relationship. Then I wanted him he didn't want it first. Then I cut him off. After I cut him off he reached out and said he wanna date too. So I'm not sure if he friendzoned me again.

[FilmGuy93]

Well he definitely doesn’t take you very seriously

[Asker]

I was cutting him o, he pursued me. He said "What am not doing for you" I told him "we have no the same intentions" he said "yes we have"... Then I was like OK. We met again we had this conversation

[Asker]

He pursued me... He said he wants dating too. After we have that "dating" conversation, him inving me over + friendzoning me isn't absurd?

[FilmGuy93]

He wants you around but doesn't want to commit to you. I hate when people do stuff like that.

[Asker]

He said "I can be loyal... You make assumptions about me. Guess we're not that level yet"

Do you think he doesn't want to commit, at all? Or because our dating stage is new?

[FilmGuy93]

He might genuinely be able to commit to you, but that doesn’t really matter much, if the upshot is that he isn’t already doing it.

You two have been at this for over 4 months. You should have more clarity by this point.

[chivalricious]

Sounded like he's hoping for friends with benefits? If you get a benefit from it (that relationship), go for it. But if you're hoping for love, there are more checklists and red flags you still have to work with. It's still too early to have a solid conclusion.

[Asker]

What is red flag? It was casual relationship. Then I said to him I wanna date him then he reached me out he said he wants to dating too. After we had sex again about twe had this conversation. So it was confusing for me. Like does he has feelings or friendzone me?

[Asker]

Which red flags?

[Asker]

Hii?

[Asker]

Hello?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

LMAO! Like, how is it possible that you come to this conclusion? The guy LITERALLY said that he'll always be there for you. Does this sound like a friend-zone to you? Also, why the fuck do you make conclusions about him not been loyal?

[Asker]

We had sexual relationship. I told him I wanna date him& cut him off. Later he reached out he said he wants dating too. We met again have this conversation. If we're already dating why he says "no worries you can call me whenever you want"?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Because... you can call him whenever you want! I don't get it, what's your problem? He said that he wanted to date too, so he doesn't only want sex.

[Asker]

No, I wanted date him first. He didn't want to. He was also not texting me. So I cut him off and moved on. After I moved on, he started reaching out "I guess you're mad at me" "I want to date too" "we have same intentions" etc he wanted to meet. After we meet we hang out, slept together again... While we're in his bad we have this conversation "you can call me whenever you want"? I was naked in his bed I was like WTF

[Asker]

Hello?

[Alperengin8]

you wouldn't be friendzoned if you had sex with me

[Asker]

Lol this doesn't answer my question

[spartan55]

You should be stupidzoned for saying that.

[Asker]

What? Why?

[spartan55]

Why would you question his loyalty? What are you basing that on?

[Asker]

I asked what he meant. Not mine. If you not gonna answer the question why you're on this website?

[spartan55]

That's an original line there... thanks for the advice. 😂
How is "I told him he cannot be loyal" what he meant... YOU SAID IT, not him. What are you talking about?
I am answering your question, but I can't do it with only limited info? Get it?

[Asker]

We had previous conversation. He said "you cannot love one person it's biologically impossible" I said What about being faithful? (because I'm possessive) . He said of course you can if you love someone. Then we went to bed. I told him I guess he's not able to be faithful then he said " I can be? You make assumptions about me. But No worries you can call me I'll be there always for you?

So that he said to me very confusing.

[spartan55]

Your reasoning for throwing that label on him is so convuluted... he's probably at a point where he is deciding if your pussy is good enough to deal with you being such a pain in the ass.
Pro tip: no guy will put up with a possessive woman for long. I would get that resolved first.

[Asker]

Bro what are you talking about? I don't want him if he wants me for the pussy anyway. That's not the way how build love and romantic relationship. You disgusted me really

[Asker]

you have mental issues bro you assume me being pain the ass lol I'm definitely not being in the ass, I am loving woman wants to be old school monogamous relationship. Go to therapy

[Asker]

+ Good pussy and good sex don't make a guy fall in love. Stop thinking with your dick. Use your brain

[spartan55]

Lol... who said anything about love BRO? Who said anything about a relationship BRO? Not me, so go make up some more shit I didn't say...
"A loving woman" who admits she is possessive... 😂... yeah, and I'm the one who needs therapy...

[Asker]

Obviously my wish is love- romantic relationship if I asked did he friendzone me? Me wanting old school relationship and trying to figure him out, doesn't mean I'm pain the ass.

[spartan55]

LOL... you want an old school relationship and figure him out first... uh, you already had sex with him, too late.