Why does he text me once a day, everyday?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend messaged me a few weeks ago. He told me his girlfriend broke up with him and was hoping him and I talked. I agreed and we met. We went out, had dinner, drinks, and made out too.

After that I asked what he wants from me and he told he can't be in a relationship now. I understand that 100%. Next, he told me we can be friends if I am ok with that.

I said we can try. Now he texts me every day. Once a day to say that he is hoping I am doing well. I respond and he doesn't say anything else. Then next day is the same thing.

What's going?

[Anonymous]

He hasn’t had enough time at all to process the breakup. He is afraid to be alone but is not ready to dedicate himself to anyone, including to you. So he is halfassing it.

[Opinion Owner]

He wants the security of having someone “on deck” and has established that with you, but he isn’t emotionally invested in you yet the way he should because he can’t be. So the best thing I’d do is just try to have a frank conversation with him about this.

[Asker]

I am giving him space and keeping the conversation at friends level.

[spartan55]

He is keeping you around for sex.

[Asker]

I wonder how he will pull that off since he made it clear that we are friends only?

[spartan55]

So because he said it then it has to be true... right? He won't have to pull anything off. You think he's just going to flat out tell that's what he wants? 😂 I have some land in Florida to sell you.

[Asker]

Then he's an idiot. I would be open to be romantic with him but since he said friends only, I lost my interest.