I like wearing heels but my boyfriend is shorter than me when I have them on and he gets defensive. Is there a solution?

[Tanisha69]

Should I just do what I want or wear flats to preserve his ego?

[SnowedIn]

If you like them, yes, you do what you want. Yes, his ego is important and pleasing him is one (just one) part of a relationship. BUT. He needs to please you. Please is a two way street. Here's my worry: if this is what's he on about, this is a red flag with flashing strobe lights. I see problems ahead. Not only is his ego way too sensitive, he's also trying to control you. The solution is that you keep wearing them and he either grows into it or not and, if not, you two figure out if it goes forward. But you changing that for him is wrong.

[MystiKaL]

That's his insecurity, not yours. The funny thing (in a good way) is that you're quite happy to wear heels and don't seem bothered about your boyfriend's height.

Talk to him and say that if it doesn't bother you, why should it bother him?

I wouldn't advise you to stop wearing heels because of his insecurity.

(And I'm not tall myself, before you ask)

[Edentina]

I noticed I am going to be the first female to give a response so here it goes.

You can wear your heels as much as you want when not with him but when you two are together, if you really love him and how he feels matters to you, a compromise can be made. After all, if he was in your shoes 😀 on a different issue, you want want him to take your feelings into consideration

[Chazmatazz269]

Depends on what is more important to you, the shoes or the boyfriend. We make small compromises in relationships, if we want them to last. But if you’re giving up something that is very important to you, then resentments will fester and the relationship is doomed.

[Adam1978]

It's not about his ego. It's a matter of practicality. You don't need heels, it's bad for your feets and if you don't need it to reach the height of the man. Why would you use it? To make him look smaller? To make your interaction harder? To harm your feets? To attract longer men?

[Guardian45]

No, DON'T wear flats to preserve his ego. You will not feel happy subconsciously knowing you have compromised your values. His ego needs to GROW UP! A REAL man's ego DOESN'T require flats to feel good! For example, my 5'7" friend dated a woman who was 6' for two years; height was NEVER an issue. Oddly, this couple looked very comfortable and kewl together!

[abc3643]

Yes, get a new boyfriend.

Rock those heels, girlfriend! (And, like him, chances are you are taller than me already.)

[Berethor]

You should wear flats, guys don't like feeling short and heels are unhealthy anyway.

[Kinkyhubby]

If you like them, wear them. Maybe a smaller heel will do. If you really love him, and he won't change, then you might have to. I love a woman who wears heels, n I have dated taller woman.

[boggboss]

Either he learns to live with it or you change what u wear to make him happy

[FunkyMonkee]

Make him wear heels! I used to wear 2" heels in high school.

[AndersLars]

Heels with pantyhose? It would look great on the feet in the photo. If I wasn't 1 xper, I would like to write to you :)

[NamerOfStars]

Have HIM wear heels, too. Problem solved.

[Wise4myage]

Stop wearing heels so often.

[Tanisha69]

I guess.. I like heels tho

[Wise4myage]

That's ok, just don't wear them all the time. :)

[Anonymous]

Why would he care? I don't get this one.

[In_Trance]

Get him heels too

[Anonymous]

Change the boyfriend

[Tanisha69]

I love my bfthats not happening