he's scared.
I ask him if he was scared of me or scared of
himself and he reply that "I don't know know I'm just
scared" I’m confused 😕
I am also confused. Usually I'm pretty good at this, but this... is a new one.
First of all, let me say that you're an exceptionally patient woman. Or maybe persistent. Most women would have scoffed and said "fine, forget you then" the first time he said he was scared. I'm in disbelief that those words actually came out of a guy's mouth when a woman asked him out. At least he's honest (I guess).
But I feel like there must be a chunk of the story that's missing here. I doubt you saw a guy you thought was hot, walked up to him and asked him out... he said "I'm scared" and then later, you try again, and same thing. There must be more. If there is, it would be helpful in figuring this out. Were you guys friends? Is he flirty? how do you know each other etc.
If there really ISN"T much more to this story, then it sounds like a guy who (for whatever reason) is simply scared of going out on a date with you... and if he's said that twice... I don't think there's anything else to do but just "leave it" and move on. 🙂
We’re working together and he’s giving me a ride home everyday, besides whe chat on Snapchat everyday and I’ve told him that I have a crush on him.
And so after you've asked him out, and he says he's scared... and you drop it (for now)... how are things between you afterwards? Is he uncomfortable after having that exchange? or do things go back to normal?
Is there any... like idea that's he's going to think about it and get back to you? or does he say "I"m scared", you say "ok", conversation over? or is there supposed to be a follow-up of sorts?
He won’t say anything he’ll just change the subject and behave like nothing happens
I'm sorry I can't give you a more hopeful answer, but to me, this sounds like a guy who (for whatever reason) simply isn't interested in dating you. I think all you can do is to "leave it and move on". You made clear your intentions, you even gave him a second chance in case he regretted how he handled it the first time. Both times you were, basically rejected. (rejected in a weird way, but rejected nonetheless). I think in this case, you can take "I'm scared" to mean "no thank you". I'm sorry.
I admire your patience, try taking the friendship angle first and see if that works.
I did and he seems to work thank you
You're welcome and good luck.
Might be scared of intimacy. It's not you, it's him.
He’s probably scared of both. Be patient with him.
Yep thanks 😊
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Be calm, be persistent be logical. I was terrified. Most guys are not accustomed to the 'shoe being on the other foot', so they don't know how to respond. Just go slow and address his concerns one by one. In the end, like me, he'll think 'what am I afraid of?' The answer was nothing, so I dated her and didn't look back.
Sounds good thanks ☺️
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He doesn't trust you with his heart. You most likely have multiple red flags over your head that he has picked up but he doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he puts it on himself as being 'scared'.
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Ay be just have a natural interaction with him but flirt a little and help him get over his fears.
Yea that what I’m doing
It’s good you asked him out.
Shows your direct side.
Give them time if they do talk to you more? 😊
He's probably just shy
Yea I noticed it
So what are you gonna do what's your plan
Don’t know, I’ll keep trying cuz I love him
Awwwwww
scared of getting hurt by you
Yea make since but I won’t hurt him cuz I love him
logically he may know that but emotionally it's hard for him to grasp
You are so amazing 😍
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