Losing him or what?

[Anonymous]

i predict the expected. his friend tell me that the guy i was having break from to be friends first and he want to know me better from there. his friend don't want to let me know because he tell his friend not to tell me anything and he would give me his answer in the evening. but technically, we are broken up right? or are we able to be together again?

[DoctorSex]

Do you instigate the break or did he?

If he instigated it, he may get back to you, he may have other things he has to do first and can't afford to give you the time he believes you deserve... That's if you're sure he's genuinely still your friend.

If you instigated the breakup, it should be done done. According to every law in the male bible, to let you back in violates the code of conduct.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex

[Asker]

he was the one that asked for it. and it was the reason he don't want me to be treated as rebound. so will we still be tgt?

[DoctorSex]

Ah, so he recently just came out of something?

His mind is all over the place my dear. Go easy on him. He probably thinks you're cool however it's likely that he got with you because he needed to know that he's still attractive as his self esteem was probably really low at the time.

Maybe (as hard as this may seem) be a little more gentle and empathetic. He technically shouldn't have jumped straight with someone else, but logic goes out the window when a person is in a bad place.

Also, ask yourself whether being attracted to a man at his worst point, is healthy for him?

Wait for him to be back to a healthy space mentally and honestly that may be awhile. So it's probably best that you move on, spend some time grieving, listen to all the songs you need to, then move on.

Kind regards,
DoctorSex