Hello. I spend an amazing weekend with my boyfriend. The problem is we didn't see each other a whole week and we basically hang out like everyday. Now I have work and college so I am pretty stressed and every moment with him is a complete heaven. Today he told me that he's going to go home. I asked why, he told me that he need to do some paper work and later he told me that he will be playing games. I don't know why but I feel sad because of this. He had a whole week for himself and he can't stay a couple of extra hours with me? Tell me what do you think about this.
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Woman spends 5 days doing stuff she wants to do with girlfriends/alone. The second she is finished having all of her fun she goes to her boyfriend & says, "What are you doing!!! Why aren't you spending time with me and paying attention to ME? Are you cheating? Are you gay? Are you mad at me?"
Boyfriend: Believe it or not our schedules are not the same.0
He might just be an introvert. Even around people I like, (as an introvert myself) I find it really hard to spend more than a few hours at a time in someone else's company unless they don't mind us doing separate things.
Girlfriends vs video games has been a struggle since they were invented and depending on your communication levels, and his priorities, it can be extremely frustrating, especially in a long-term relationship.0
Some people have different social requirements. His social battery may be empty and gaming is how he recharges or even just having some alone time. I wouldn’t take it personally unless it’s a constant habit. Maybe ask him if you can play with him. He might be open to teaching you how to play34
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Yes especially if when you are with him bitch about him playing said video games.0
A lot of guys have a video game addiction. It's like a social media addiction.
I am recovering from my gaming addiction. Many people don't take gaming, porn, or social media addiction seriously.
And the companies that produce the games work with psychologists, so they know how to get you hooked on these media.
I feel like he isn’t intentionally doing it to you. Guys and girls are wired differently. He looks at spending the weekend with you and, not in a bad way, thinks “we just spent the whole weekend together and it was amazing, but I gotta spend some time to myself” or whatever, not thinking your side of it.0
Guys need time to themselves and time with their friends. If he has no choice but to spend all of his spare time with you, he'll get bored. You have to learn how to spend spare time away from him. It's not healthy to expect to be with him every second you're both free. You develop an obsession and then he'll actually be bored of you. You need time to miss each other. So give the guy an inch. Don't go crazy over it.23
I don’t know. I would speak to him about how you feel. But he has the right to choose what he does with his time.
Just talk to him about it. Maybe he had work to do and then play video games later?0
In a healthy relationship, he should be making time for both. Maybe he thinks he is giving you enough time, if you don't then talk about it with him, tell him that you would like him to give you more time and see where things go.0
Games/Girl is an inverse relationship. Guys/Girls of Convenience scare me.
It is one thing if a test or online meeting 8:30am meeting presentation etc.0
Play games with him? I remember trying to get my wife into WOW. She took like two hours to select her characters hair. Once in game she didn’t want to kill any of the low lvl creatures. I gave up.0
Dump his ass. Get yourself matter real adult men that can actually interact with you and not play like a 8 year old.0
He doesn't have to spend all his time with you. Geez, get a grip of yourself. The dude has his own life as well. He wants to handle some paperwork and play the game.
It's not good to be clingy the way you are because it can be smothering. So just relax. He'll come back, but let him enjoy time to himself sis. You can always go see if you wanna be under him so bad.7
I told my girlfriend I was going to be busy playing my x box last year during no nut November, she started walking around topless, then she started masturbating with a vibrator.0
Sometimes playing video games has a de-stressing effect. He probably just needed a way to unwind while being alone. It’s pretty common and nothing against you.0
Okay, well I was all set to give you advice, but your update seems to indicate you no longer need it. Good luck.10
If you don't enjoy playing video games, why are you dating a gamer?
Gamers prefer other gamers.0
So basically you want him to designate every minute of HIS free time to spend it with you?0
Omg. That’s a guy think. My ex use to be like that too. Maybe we are just too needy? Lol.1
Meanwhile. You have people who are still single and you’re complains about how much you get to see your boyfriend0
I would say give him space it's okay I don't believe he's running from you
I myself needed 2 days for video games the girl was clingy0
people need their alone time... don't take it so personally...0
well, maybe he's a bit introvert and he needs "him" time, ya know. It's ok I think. But good communication is in order...10
Probably not. Everyone needs some alone time once in a while. My partner understands that and also understands it's how I deal with me having mental issues. She understands that I need time for myself, but it's not because I think any less of her or don't want to be around her it's that if I've had a really hard day (like for example when my uncle passed) I need to be alone. I isolate so that I don't make a fool of myself and or hurt people around me due to my mental/emotional health issues.