I found out that the guy I've been talking is also talking to other girls. Do you think I should stop talking to him?

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Or should I just go on and try? We're not in the date stage yet. After all, at this stage, I could talk to other men too.

RavVid · Accepted Answer

It is getting more ambiguous than real life used to be. Say it was at work and there was a guy you liked and he would talk to other girls as well as yourself. You would quickly be able to assess if he was cracking onto them as well as yourself. Probably if he was showing sexual intent towards other girls you would back away. The reverse for a guy. On the other hand it is quite plausible to talk to a girl without sexual intent because you like them in a friend way. Online all that non verbal information is not available.

I think the answer is you should establish what your own boundaries are.

If you think it's OK for you to talk to other men then it is OK for him to talk to other girls. If you think it isn't OK for you to do that than it isn't going to be satisfactory to you if he does. What is OK to you isn't going to hurt you is the main point.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

If a guy treated you as being exclusive when you haven't even had a first date, most women who discovered that would think that the guy was desperate, needy, clingy, and not a man worth having. Looking for a partner - at this stage of the game is a competition to get the attention of a potential partner. When I hear women who want to back out at this point, I always wonder if they are simply afraid of being in the competition, afraid of being rejected.

And that fear of rejection is what most guys deal wth EVERY time they are approaching a new woman.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

I personally don't like that type of dating. I like to exclusively talk/get to know someone 1 on 1 without trying to juggle other people. If we don't hit it off then we can go our separate ways, but it really sucks when you're in the talking phase and you began to like and connect with this person only to find out your just another rotation in their circle and they're still window shopping/looking for better options. Feels like you're time is wasted and you've been let on if you end up liking that person.

I feel like this type dating should be called adhd dating. Not having the patience to get know someone, how can you when you're seeing/talking to 10 different people at once and consuming all these different energies and personalities ant getting them mixed up?

Paulalove98 · Accepted Answer

If you're not officially in a relationship it's not cheating but if you guys are together together and he's STILL doing that, then I'd cut him off but people talk everyday, and you're not tied down or in a committed relationship till you both say so and agree upon that.

coachTanthony · Answer

Always assume people are talking to other people and you should as well until you find a great connection.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

If you snooze you loose & if you like him tell him before you are yesterdays news.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men almost HAVE to do this because honestly women are very sketchy. Like I've had women profess their love and tell me I'm perfect and try and see me every single day for a week and then all of a sudden... I find out they are married, or they ghost, or whatever... then forget all the ones that are more slow and just decide they don't want anything serious and it's just sex... I mean as a man if you don't keep a few in the lineup you will generally have a poor dating life.

Where I won't date a woman who talks to other men. Like the day I go on a date with you or fuck you, if you see someone after poof I'm gone. This is because women don't need a lineup. They can get a date instantly any time. So if she's playing the field she's a ho and I'm not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

@Midgetmcwidget just blocked me because I guess she doesn’t like people disagreeing with her, so I’ll put my ADDITIONAL comments intended for her below…

The facts of this matter are these:
1. The guy the question asker is talking to is also talking to other girls. (Nothing is stated about his “intentions.”)
2. They’re not a couple yet.
3. They haven’t even dated yet.
*** 4. The question-asker admits “at this stage, I could talk to other men too.”

So — based on #4 — if it’s ok for the question-asker to talk with other guys, then why can’t he talk with other girls too? (They both should be able to.)

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

I think you are insane to even be asking us what you should do in this situation! You’ve NEVER even been on a single date with the poor guy, and you are asking strangers if you should demand a commitment from a guy you have never been on a date with. Do you even see how insane that is? You are upset because a man, you’ve never even been on a single date with is talking with other women! Now that you read it, do you see how crazy it is?

KansasX · Answer

He can talk to whoever he wants, and he can sleep with whoever he wants as well. He does not belong to you!

I have talked with many guys knowing they were having sex with some of my girlfriends, but that never caused an issue between any of us. IT'S CALLED LIFE!

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

People being single can see as many people as they want to see, we all have our own way of finding a relationship. I would commit to seeing just one person at a time. A friend is comfortable dating multiple guys at a time until she found the right one. Your guy might be the same, or maybe he's not looking for anything, and it's just 'talking'.

Pohjolan · Answer

Wut? Are people this detached after Corona?

All that means is that the guy is not a super introverted hermit isolating himself from the rest of society.

Besides why would you stop talking to him anyway? Its not like you have a restricted daily word limit.

hugo135 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with talking to more than one person as long as you haven't lead the other person to believe otherwise. Talking is about getting a feel of the person, to decide if you want to date or not. So talking to more than one person is actually not just fine but recommended, so you don't put all your eggs in one basket.

TopTier · Answer

Men have to talk to multiple women because its a numbers game. Unfortunately that habit carries over once we get into a relationship. Thats just the way it is.

If you talk to multiple men as a woman, thats a red flag. You have no need to.

Anonymous · Answer

"not in the date stage yet" you have every right to your feelings, but he's not your boyfriend so he can talk to whoever he wants, and the same for you. if you want to make this "dating" serious with him, you have to have a talk.

ZenJen444 · Answer

He's not obligated to you, he doesn't owe you anything and it's really none of your business who he is talking to. He's not married to you. You chose not to date around. He's smart enough to know you're not working for him so he's dating around until he sees who is compatible to him.

Anonymous · Answer

If you believe he’s worth it then yes you have to fight for what you want. I mean to a point. But you have to understand that you’re competing w other women for someone who is probably a good man. We shouldn’t all assume that we just deserve something cause we’re special. You have to compete everyday even if you are in a relationship to maintain that relationship. He hasn’t committed himself to you so you have no real reason to be upset.

Ehjoh1 · Answer

You should talk to him if you want to and he doesn't cross your boundaries. If you're more into monogamy and don't want to rush yourself into multiple guys at the same time then you should stop talking to him because your values on dating differ too much. It's better to talk to just one guy you like instead of all this hypergamist slut bullshit.

Adaeva · Answer

Do him a favor and stop talking to him. Of course, if you are not even dating, he should keep his options open and so should you. However, your controlling attitude make you bad news.

Marica70 · Answer

How long have you all been talking? Dating? Are you actually invested in this relationship? We woman also need friends who happen to be men , who will be in our lives for years to come… you will be surprised when you are my age how many of my dear friends where once guys who I used to speak to and date…

Guy13 · Answer

That's probably never going to stop and i would not expect him too. Why not speak with him... How will you ever know if there is a connection? Wasted opportunities stay upon the mind...

Lis-the-librarian · Answer

Dating around isn't all that great in my opinion.  Building deeper connections with multiple people. Many people view it as okay, so its common. Personally i wouldn't keep dating somebody like that.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You just said you're not in the dating stage yet. So why should he commit when you aren't committed to him? My advice is to get a little bit more aggressive and pin him down and find out the truth of where you stand.

Summeroflove · Answer

If neither one of you are in a committed relationship I would make a move on him before it’s too late

Pudsmucker · Answer

So you're really not in a relationship. Does this guy have a life and can he not talk with other women. Take a deep breath. If you do not have a ring on his finger it should be okay talk and associate with others. Don't ruin your chances.

CA4444 · Answer

No that’s normal for a guy only women get emotionally invested way too soon I guess…

NathanDavis · Answer

if you're really interested, then you will... if not, then you won't

christinerose28 · Answer

If u haven't even met him yet for a date and he is still single then he can talk to other women just u go talk to other men aswell

Avicenna · Answer

No, you cannot expect a guy to treat you as if you’re exclusive when you aren’t even dating

sheikalana · Answer

If you guys are not exclusive means you can talk to whoever you want.

Anonymous · Answer

Don’t girls always talk to multiple guys on the side while talking to one dude. This is nothing new. I’ve learned as I’ve gotten older. There’s no way a girl talks to one guy while she’s testing the waters.

loveslongnails · Answer

Why would you stop talking to him? Why would you stop talking to other men if you're not even dating him yet>?

Blackmoonsns · Answer

If you both are single, and not dating monogamously you can't be upset.

BJP21 · Answer

This is one of the issues with online dating and the many issues it creates before you get a chance to establish any form of relationship.

SlavicThor · Answer

Carry on talking to him and carry on dating other guys if you both click and it works out you'll find out

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Yes you should stop unless he is just a pig guys only do that to girls so don’t show enough interest in us

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

You should define the relationship like we are either doing this or we’re not

OccultItalian · Answer

Well no, it's just normal. It's strange if he stops to have girls friends when he's with your

Alex8736 · Answer

go with plan b and talk to other guys time is too precious to waste

TallAnon · Answer

You're just talking to him? Of course he talks to other girls then. If you want something exclusive, you should work towards it.

prosmind · Answer

Before taking any decision better to analyse why does your boyfriend ignores you (if it happens), or do you want to control him?

Anonymous · Answer

All guys do that. If they say otherwise, they are lying.

Anonymous · Answer

Your not in a dating or relationship phase just talking.

iamnash · Answer

Talk to other people I mean you’re just dating you’re not in a relationship

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would never assume or even expect exclusivity till verbal confirmation.

msc545 · Answer

Everyone should have the right to talk to anybody they want whether they're attached or not

Twalli · Answer

Keep talking, until it becomes serious, there's no harm.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Are you and him exclusive if your not then you can't be mad

Midgetmcwidget · Answer

Yea, he's a tramp and a player

Anonymous · Answer

don’t try anything. He is a cheater and you don’t need that shit

AsaKyo · Answer

I think you should stop talking to him

Katyalov · Answer

No dont stop talking to him

Jennz6 · Answer

Not really sure?

krin_m · Answer

If you are just talking, no reason to stop,

Anonymous · Answer

You're not REALLY 26, are you?

In_Trance · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

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jimmy2 · Answer

I would

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