How to not let people treat me this way?

[Anonymous]

I want to make something clear, I'd never let someone do this to me outside of work. I'd never let someone walk all over me, and I'd never let someone treat me like shit. I just need to know if I'm being too sensitive.

I've been working in Healthcare for 5+ years as a CNA recently switched to the hospital setting. I work with nurses instead of other CNAs. Last night I was helping a patient to use the urinal in bed, and the nurse said "that's going to spill all over him" I ignored her and kept doing what I was doing. Guess what? It didn't spill. It bothered me cause I feel like they can be bossy at me at times. What are some boundaries I can set where they respect me more? I've already had to stand up more than a handful of times at them when they were being this way. I want to be assertive, confident and respected. Or am I just being too sensitive?

[SnowedIn]

You asked the question so I'll answer you honestly: you're being too sensitive. Any time (ANY time) a person starts a new job, the people already working there will tell the new person how to do things. Even if you come with experience and credentials and everything else. Think about it: a new CEO gets questioned on what they do by all the employees and stockholders and the board. A new president gets castigated by everybody and they don't know where the bathroom is yet.

The BEST way to get people to not treat you that way is to be nice, respectful and do your job AWESOME. Let them see how well you do your job. They will soon start to say, hey, that new girl, she's pretty good at her job.

[Asker]

I've been here for 7 months.

[SnowedIn]

Okay. Your original question said "recently". That's not 7 months. But that's neither here nor there. The second paragraph of my answer stands and is the answer to your question.

[nitsuj86]

It might be rude, and you might know what you are doing, but to me, it sounds like you are being too sensitive.

Ok, they said something to you, it didn't happen, sounds like everyone moved on. Maybe the next time they see you do that, they won't say it again. Since they saw you handle it. If they have said it multiple times, then you have the right to be upset.

One comment, get over it. Be professional, even if they aren't. No one is going to respect you if your cry anytime you feellike you have been "disrespected".

If it becomes an issue, take that person aside and explain to them that you don't like it, and to please stop. If they continue, then you can talk to your manager.

Anything other than that, you are just looking to have a pity party for yourself.

[Anonymous]

You could've responded with "It's (going to be) fine"

People respect you if you're a valuable person to them for whatever reason: you're fun, attractive, good at what you do.

Not because they set "boundaries."

If you're annoying, unattractive and not really good at life, AND you're trying to set "boundaries," now you're just doubly annoying and off-putting. Just shut the fuck up. (Not talking about you personally)

Point is, you don't need boundaries when you have leverage, and you can't set boundaries when you don't have leverage.

So just keep minding your own business with a positive attitude. Don't start a conflict.

[spartan55]

I think so, unless you have some more glaring examples than the one you provided. That being said, I would have been pissed that the comment was made Ina patient's presence. This makes everyone there seem unprofessional. What have you done to set some boundaries?

[Asker]

What's what I'm asking, lol.

[spartan55]

I'd wait until seversl comments were made and pull aside the offending party. Use the professionalism angle because, that keeps it at a macro level.