Guys, Do guys get desperate if they're not married by 30?

[Anonymous]

Do they start feeling lonely? Do they start dating women they don't find attractive?

[HighValue]

No. Often after 30 is when guys are at their best. They are often stronger, more wise, in a better financial situation, and know what they want out of life. The best part if you date a guy 30 + is that you can see how he will be long term by then, especially physically. If they are still in good shape by then it is because they have good long term habits. If they are going to go bald or gain 100+ pounds of fat, it'll likely have already started and be obvious at that point. Pretty much you will know what to expect in the long run instead of dating them in their early 20s and just hoping that they turn out to be one of the good ones.

[Asker]

Wow that's amazing!

[inhua]

no. this is when most guys have their most options.

men don't generally age as much as women and their fertility is tied to their mortality. the only loss a man has by their 30s as opposed to their 20s is his athleticism. outside of that he should be more financially stable, much stronger, much smarter, much wiser, more mature, more confident etc. traits that women find attractive in men

[Asker]

They get bald and fat...

[Pohjolan]

Getting fat is optional though.

[Asker]

@Pohjolan most guys get fat af

[inhua]

maybe in their 50s guys get fat though that's due to them no longer in their searching phase. a guy in his 30s who is fat was already fat in his 20s. fat guys aren't out here doing the searching

[Asker]

No. I know skinny guys that turned fat. Like how do you let yourself go? 😵

[Pohjolan]

In USA but that's more a cultural thing than related to age.

[FilmGuy93]

Um... I would say that there is some pressure. Nothing compared to what women feel though

[Daviddd5412]

I feel depressed when I see people my age starting families already. I feel even more depressed when it's younger people. It's not good to feel that way, I wish I didn't. Sometimes I can't help it though.

[DarkWinterNights]

Desperate? Nah. Disappointed though. I would have loved to have a family, but society deprived me of that possibility. So I’m finding purpose and meaning in other ways.

[Asker]

How did society do that? Are you sure it wasn't your bad attitude? 🤣

[DarkWinterNights]

What type of attitude, qualities and values does society glorify? And what makes you think I have a bad attitude?

[Asker]

I'm asking you a question, chill. You're going to date society or an individual?

[Jamie05rhs]

I will never date someone that I don't find attractive. I guarantee you that.

However, it is true that I will consider high 6es now, while in my younger days I would only date 10s.

[Asker]

10's in your opinion?

[Jamie05rhs]

I didn't quite understand your question.

[Asker]

Oh that u date girls who are 10's in your opinion?

[Jamie05rhs]

No; I said I USED to only date 10s. Back when I was in high school.

[Jamie05rhs]

Or... I WOULD have dated them if I had dated at all! 🤣. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Hence the not dating part. 🤪

[Asker]

10's in your opinion? In your eyes?

[Jamie05rhs]

Correct. It's all subjective. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[Astarlessnightsky]

No, why would i. There is no max age on anything in life.

[Asker]

True

[Danny_dan92]

I’m turning 31 soon. I’m desperate for money and gains. Not pussy.




When I was younger I was the opposite

[Asker]

So you don't want a wife and kids?

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve lost hope to be completely honest

[Asker]

Why?

[Danny_dan92]

Dating and relationships in today’s world is basically impossible. Cheating happens all the time, it’s just a matter of time until someone better comes along

[Asker]

Find a good Christian woman!

[Danny_dan92]

Ehh… I don’t think that’s gonna change anything

[Asker]

Ohh you're the cheater? I see.

[Danny_dan92]

I’m not, I’ve been cheated on by a girl that claimed to be religious. She even forced me to go to bible study with her.

Get this, she was not only cheating. But she was fucking her sister’s husband

[Asker]

Then she's not Christian. She's not following Christ. She followed her own will and desire and it lead her to sin.

[Danny_dan92]

Yep. Major sin

[Danny_dan92]

I dated the mother of the devil apparently

[Asker]

You should look at the heart when choosing a partner.

[Danny_dan92]

Mind is just as important

[Asker]

Well yeah that's what I meant

[Danny_dan92]

Good. Can’t date a dummy

[Asker]

Lol.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, it be like that Miss

[Asker]

Ima follow you

[Danny_dan92]

You look familiar

[Asker]

My username?

[Danny_dan92]

Yes. I remember we argued before

[Asker]

We did?

[Danny_dan92]

I think so? It was something about having females as friends or something along those lines

[Asker]

Lmao I literally don't remember... whatever I followed you.

[Danny_dan92]

It happens. Sounds good

[Asker]

You were in the military?

[Danny_dan92]

I am in the military. You wanna pm me or something?

[Asker]

Sure 😊

[PatriceONeal]

No we make more money and younger women are attracted to us when they weren't when they were younger. 30 is when the power shifts between men and women.

[Asker]

But if you're not married do you feel lonely?

[PatriceONeal]

No I have all my money and don't have kids that get taken from me or a woman leeching off my wealth.

[AmeerX]

I liked average women before but now I want a better looking Women at least 7.5 .

And character wise I want a hardy woman, not someone who will be a drama queen or gold digger

[RavVid]

Nope. I have decided getting married is too great a risk to my assets. Not going to.

[Anonymous]

Desperate for what? After 30 you're getting a woman that has been worn by about a dozen other guys. That in itself is already lowering his standards. Would you pay full price for a used car?

[Asker]

Think like an adult not a juvenile.

[Opinion Owner]

I could say the same to you. Do you not even see how trollish your question is?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not sure desperate is the right word but after 30 it gets a little bit more concerning I think for a lot of people.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I wanted to get married by 25 but yet hasn't happened, not because I can't find someone decent but because I'm financially not secure to where I feel I can provide for a family to my liking.

[Asker]

Understandable

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

I don't want marriage

Marriage is a monetary sham

I also don't want kids. I can't stand them

[Asker]

Who hurt you?

[UncleBilll]

I am divorced and much older, I like the freedom of having sex with who I want

[LiamJHayden]

I'm two and a half years away and not even remotely desperate or thinking about it.

[Pohjolan]

I for one do enjoy my freedom.

[Asker]

So no wife and kids?

[Pohjolan]

Yup.

[Lunatic1]

Nope. I'm 31, never married and I don't care

[BeMuse]

Nope.

[Asker]

What if he's ugly?

[BeMuse]

Not being married is kind of a goal for a lot of men...

[Asker]

Then why do I hear all these men crying about being lonely?

[BeMuse]

Most men like women. Most men like sleeping with women they find attractive. Most men like spending quality time with women they love and that love them. Most men will stay committed to and enjoy women they care about for very long periods. That said the entire institution of marriage, pageantry of marriage, absurdity of women’s fascination with jewelry because of corporate marketing, legally binding contracts that give us no benefit and create many legal and financial risks and obligations really don’t help to improve our lives. It’s sad that a lot of women can’t believe in respecting and being loyal to someone just because they love you. They think there has to be a financial exchange of jewelry (i. e. a dowry to buy the women), then a financial expenditure to declare they love each other in front of a crowd of people. Then a legally binding contract/license/tax paid to the government so that the court system will rob men of what they have worked for their entire life, and jail men if they do not pay things like child support stripping us of our God given freedom so that women are willing to commit to a good man. Slavery is never a goal of free men.

[BeMuse]

The guys that are lonely are maybe single. Maybe they are heart broken. Maybe they are sleeping with women they don't really love. Maybe the are in unfulfilling unloving relationships. That said, getting married, doesn't solve any of those relationship issues. It's like being in an abusive relationship and just getting married because she got pregnant. The problems will still be there, but you just created more problems for yourself.

[Asker]

So you're cheap?

[BeMuse]

Nope, I just don't date prostitutes like you.

[Asker]

I'm a woman. I don't date prostitutes.

[BeMuse]

Nice projection though. You're the one for sale. You're the one with a price tag on your neck. I can't be bought unlike you.

[Asker]

You're the delude one. I'm not a gold digger like you!

[BeMuse]

You've already admitted there is a price on your head, by calling me cheap because I would be unwilling to purchase you. You can't turn back the wheels of time. We already know what you are whore.

[Asker]

No stupid. You think that's how you keep a woman. You're dumb ass hell.

[BeMuse]

No, that's how you specifically are obtained, not women. Trying to use women as a shield for your individual behavior is a sad show You're the one that think men are cheap for not buying you. I specifically talked about respect, trust, loyalty, love, which are all sentiment things. Those were things that you overlooked. You focused on the money and a man that honed in on a man that would be unwilling to pay you money. That's the difference in our principles.

[BeMuse]

*and honed your focus on a man...

[Asker]

*yawn u seem unhinged

[BeMuse]

No, you just got caught in your own lies and proved wrong. You realized you were wrong and a money grubbing whore who made false accusations about me and you were unable to manipulate your way out of the situation. Rather than taking responsibility for your behavior and lies, you started trying to use personal attacks.

[Asker]

I'm a virgin you, dumbass. And I have never used anyone for money. Go back to watching p*rn, you loser!

[BeMuse]

Yet you're still for sale like a bale of toilet paper.

[Asker]

That doesn't make sense! Go back to your p*rn, loser!

[BeMuse]

Sure it does. You're trying to sell yourself, but no one is willing to pay for you. You're a bad saleswoman that has overpriced her product. You're a selfish, self centered narcissist that thinks too highly of herself. It's pretty simple. You must also be pretty dumb not to understand that.

[Asker]

You don't even know me. You're thinking of your mother!

[BeMuse]

Why would I want to know a whore like you? You've already made it clear that you value money and money alone and that respect, trust, loyalty, love, someone that cares about you is all irrelevant. You confessed that already.

[Jmmmfi4]

I'm extremely lonely

[In_Trance]

Nope

[KrakenAttackin]

Hell no.