If a guy says “I care about you” after you say you’re going to k*** myself… is it just bc I said that?

[Anonymous]

I said it as a joke in disguise… but I was deeply hurt bc we were going to stop talking and he didn’t want to fuck me anymore bc he sees me as a friend now…in the beginning that’s what it was supposed to be..(we didn’t have sex )

[SteveSmith1985]

No, I'm sure he meant it genuinely. He does actually care about you. But caring about you doesn't necessarily mean that he wants anything necessarily in terms of a relationship, or necessarily even friendship. But I certainly think he meant genuinely that he cared about you.

[Asker]

Care doesn’t leave. If you care about someone you wouldn’t leave them

[SteveSmith1985]

That's untrue. There are plenty of instances where that's not true. That sounds good. But that's some little-kid-shit. Life isn't as simple as that. I don't know your situation at all. But I do know that "Care doesn't leave" is an overly-simplistic crock of shit. (no offence). It's fairy tale stuff.

[spartan55]

Saying you are going to kill yourself as a 'joke in disguise'? Oh my...

[Asker]

What about it?

[spartan55]

That's a fucked up thing to say, not to mention very manipulative.

[smashleyy]

using suicide as manipulation to keep someone in your life is really messed up. seek some help

[Asker]

It wasn’t manipulation

I really felt sad

[smashleyy]

it was manipulation. sadness doesn’t excuse it

[Asker]

It’s not manipulation if you actually felt that way. So it was not an excuse. It just really hurt

I was not trying to manipulate him

[smashleyy]

Dress it up however you want. Regardless of feeling sad or depressed it’s not an excuse. Seek help from a professional you don’t put that weight on someone’s shoulders when they no longer want to be apart of your life. That is manipulating someone into staying

[Asker]

Maybe. Whatever

I told him that I hope something happens to him.

[SnowedIn]

Joking about suicide? That's messed up.