Does my guy friend like me?

[Anonymous]

So there's this guy that I like. We have a common friend group and we're always near each other due to the placing of our surnames (which dictates groupings and such). Over time, I develop feelings for this guy. I can't help but to think if he also feels the same. The thing is, I don't know if he likes me as well or is he just being friendly. During group conversations I catch him glancing at me when he talks. He makes sure that he touches me when initiating small talks (though he's a touchy person with some people as well). When saying goodbyes, he always says it to me in a group setting. If there's an event coming, he chats me out of the blue if I'm coming. He picks seats near or beside me. Chats a lengthy amount of message if he wants to talk online and makes sure to add another topic unrelated to the first one. My close friends always tease me with him even though I didn't say that I like him yet. He isn't in my inner circle so some of the things I listed are very confusing for me. I haven't had any relationships prior to this so I don't know whether or not these are hints or he's just being friendly. So does this guy like me or should I stop imagining things?

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My friends told me before that one of the reasons they teased me with him is that he isn't the one to message first online. When they knew about how he always texted me first, asking questions or updating me on something going on at school, they would fuss all over it. He's a somewhat shy guy.

[PrettyPriya]

There isn't enough there to definitively say yes he does. He very well might, but it sounds from your details that is his personality. You may be seeing what you want to see since you are into him. You even mention that a lot of the things that he does, he also does with others.

Now, does that mean 100% for sure he is not into you? No, not at all. I would just think there would be some other typical signs of flirting. Most of what you describe sound more like friend behaviour than a guy flirting behaviour.

If there are other indicators of flirting, you can use the update box and update the question with more info. Otherwise, I am going to have to lean towards that is the type of person he is and not so much flirting.

You could always flirt with him and see what happens. However, if he is a genuinely touchy, feely type of guy, you may not be able to decipher if he is flirting back or has an interest. The sure way to find out is to ask him to do something together, outside the group.

[PrettyPriya]

Ref update: So you mean that your friends are saying that the teasing from him is to try to get you to make the move because he is a bit shy and won't be the one to initiate contact? Am I getting that right?

[Asker]

More like, "we sensed a spark between you two" but yeah, that's another point that they would like to tell me. Unfortunately, I'm afraid I still don't have the courage to make a move or tell him I like him.

[PrettyPriya]

Okay, do you two talk online or text or anything? I might be able to help you nudge him. I need some more info about your communication though.

[Asker]

Yep we talk online. Mostly about school and if we're going to attend classes. Teasing here and there (mostly picking fun at me being late or other backhanded compliments). He sends 😉 and ♥️ often. Confused the heck out of me when he doesn't even use it within group chats or from whom I know he messages.

[PrettyPriya]

That is defo flirting in messages. Teasing and poking fun is pretty classic flirting. So are the emojis. Now, there are some ways you can try to nudge him to ask you.

I would suggest finding something that might be of interest to do one on one. Maybe like meeting up for a lunch or coffee. Something like that. Then, you can start mentioning about "how BAD you are wanting to go to __________ place for a coffee and NONE of your friends are free". Start dropping hints and stuff like that.

See what comes back. If he seems to be dancing around it, just push a bit harder. "Have you ever been there?" and so on.

[Guy13]

Firstly, Risk vs Reward or Rejection is a part of life. I sleep much better Risking and knowing where she stands rather than wrinkling up over "should have". It took once to figure that out.

If he chats with you in person then when in group lean in and say something slightly humorous or cheesy for his ears only. Even I know you like those one-one chat moments together. This tells me or him that he is doing the right thing,... and you get it.. appreciate his efforts.

I am pretty aggressive so I would have already gone..."do you not feel this vibe.. it is different experience for me... you want to pass this by or proceed to the next level, Woman/Man in your case." That's it... no more leading on your part this way the "Man" reveals his abilities and inabilities. The best thing ever is in the pause of "next level" statement her head leans back or to the side and she goes, yeah, and I ask her out or he asks you out in your case.

Risk and know...

[WaterIsland]

Sounds like you should ask him to do someone just one on one, away from the group.

[boobliker]

well it looks that way so why not ask him?

[In_Trance]

He's already jerked off to you dozens of times.