What do guys mean when they tell a girl "you're mine" but you're not dating?

[Anonymous]

Recently a guy I know said this to me. We don't have any kind of romantic relationship so I'm not sure why he would feel possessive over me and say that. We've only known each other for a couple of months and sometimes he does or says some questionable things but he's not actively trying to get in my pants so I'm not sure if he was saying it as a weird way of flirting or if he's just really possessive over people in his life or maybe I'm just overthinking it. Why would a guy claim you as his when there's nothing going on between you?

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds to me like an attempt (and a poor one) at flirting with you. That is how I would take it. Some context as to how/when it was said would be helpful. You can always use the update box to update the question with that info.

You mention he says some questionable things at times. Maybe he is just a bit socially awkward in certain situations and doesn’t know what to say so he says some strange things. I would not worry about it if you are certain he isn’t trying to get in your pants. Just be careful about that since lots of guys might not seem like they are but have ulterior motives and hide it well.

I doubt it is a possessive thing to be honest. That would be really weird and I doubt he would have many friends if he acted like that around them. I’m going to stick with the socially awkward at times and don’t worry about it too much.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

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This is a big red flag!!! Any man who arbitrarily declares that you belong to him is a possessive type that sees women as objects to be owned. DO NOT PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP with this person. I mean unless you enjoy violent outburst, stalking behavior, jealousy and controlling personality.

[RockyHammock]

Could be his way of getting you to see him as a dominant partner. Or depending on context, it could have been a joke in poor taste.

The time to set boundaries would have been right after it was said

[RavVid]

Well maybe he wants there to be something going on between you.

Or he might be playing some head game. A guy I know did that for a while - they are still married last I heard.

[PhantomMenace22]

As other people have already said it's probably a poor attempt at flirting. It means that he wants to date you and he's probably going to ask you out soon.

[Hassan_8]

What possessive? You are overthinking it too much

he is simply trying to flirt but he isn’t good at it

[spartan55]

I don't think it matters why. It would be smart to stay away from shitheads like that.

[Mayo503]

Maybe he feels he got to protect you because lots of men might try and hit on you…. And he might have feelings for you which you don’t see… or he’s a good friend

[Slay256]

He just wants you to know he likes you that’s all. Saying “You’re mine” is far fetched at that point since y’all aren’t a couple yet but he’s just saying he likes you.

[Anonymous]

Could be a test. He could want something between you and is seeing whether you value him at all.

[Pegases]

He just deosnt flirt well.

[In_Trance]

It means he's a massive douche

[boredomdude8]

Sounds like a domination fantasy.

[Jamie05rhs]

Block him!

[Anonymous]

He is hitting on you