What does it mean when a guy gets teary eyes after threatening you?

[Jessy1998]

My boyfriend kinda threatened to hurt me after he found out I was kinda like rough with our boys one is 6 months the other is 2. But yeah I saw his eyes get teary...

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@Jessy1998 What are you crying about? Your boyfriend threatened to hurt you, he didn't hurt you. And he only did that because of YOUR actions.

You after all don't see any problems with your actions of "kinda like rough" with a 6 month old infant and a 2 year old toddler. What is WRONG with you? These are infants that depend upon you. They can not defend themselves from your harmful actions.

Furthermore "kinda like rough" with a 6 month old can potentially be delibating or even fatal. More than enough infants are KILLED yearly due to shaken baby symdrome.

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Seriously if you can NOT see the flaws of your behavior you should think of leaving your children and seeking help before you cause them serious maybe even fatal harm.

And since you are pretending to be the victim - when you ARE NOT - you're likely only going to end up fucking up your boyfriend's life as well.

[DizzyDesii]

Teary-eyed after threatening you? Ehh thats scary. A lot of abusers do that so you’ll stay. But then you also sound like you might be a bit abusive yourself. Spanking a kid of say 2 years and older on the bottom is one thing, but like what were you doing to them? Shaking them? That's kinda fcked up. And the other is a 6 month old? I mean thats kind of inexcusable to even punish a kid so small. You’re supposed to say stuff in that sweet babyish voice like “No no no, don’t do that” or “No, no no don’t hit/kick mommy”. But i’m afraid to know what your definition of “kind of like rough” means. If your guy only threatened you because of your behavior towards his kids then his reason is slightly justifiable but whats yours?

[Pyrofox]

Doesn't want your kids to fear you cause of the trauma. Typically boyfriend's and guys in general are a little more sensitive to what parental figures are like from a kids view cause more often than not guys experince a little more intimidation and roughness growing up. So as a result when men and or boyfriends get a chance to raise kids they dont' want their offspring to go through that same experince. If they can help it.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

The most immediate reason for angry tears is probably that you feel hurt, embarrassed, betrayed, or unjustly treated. When you get mad, your body produces a flood of hormones that stimulate strong reactions in your body — everything from a racing heart to sweaty palms to short-term memory loss. In response to the elevated stress level, you may cry.

[FilmGuy93]

Because he hates the fact that your behavior has made him upset enough to make threats against you? I imagine that the guy probably doesn't want to be threatening you.

[Anemone978]

Because he doesn't actually want to hurt you he just hates your behavior and doesn't want you to do it again...

[Jessy1998]

I think the same too

[BlackBeauty90]

@Jessy1998 - Your 6 month & 2 year old can't defend themselves. You can defend yourself and you rightfully deserve an ass whooping for "being kinda like rough".

Do your boyfriend & boys a favour and get lost. You'll ruin all of their lives.

You already admit to being potentially abusive to them and yet you cry "victim".

[Anonymous]

He threatened to hurt you... why are you tolerating that crap?

I wouldn't be with a man who is capable of hurting me let alone verbalising it.

He's crying out of guilt... if you let that comment slide, then you're a mug.

He will do it over again and one day may yurt you infront of your kids.

What a great example to set

[BlackBeauty90]

@kerrylouise - are you simple minded? She admitted to being rough with their children. Many men wouldn't just threaten to hurt her for abusing kids, they'd kick her worthless ass out the door.

[Opinion Owner]

Not even going to respond to your comment

[BlackBeauty90]

@kerrylouise - so you SUPPORT the ABUSE of INFANTS. My, my my. What a charming woman you are.

[Opinion Owner]

She said she was 'kinda like rough'. No one said that was ok. But not one of us commenting saw what that 'rough' looked like.
I'm not going to analyse someone's words. Either way, don't start commenting to me saying I'm for child abuse!
Who do you think you are

You don't deserve another reply from me.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@kerrylouise - kinda like rough with a 6 month old infant can be debiliating or even fatal. Have you heard of shaken baby syndrome? It kills far too many infants because of shit parents.

For the boyfriend to react as he did means that she was not playing little games. Never mind threatening harm is far different than causing harm and yet you seem to be okay with her causing possible harm to a 6 month old infant.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@kerrylouise - to be honest I am not surprised. Your profile says the UK and the parenting standards leaves very much to be desired. Some UK "parents" treat their dogs better than they do their children; particularly among council house / welfare / lower income goers.

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@kerrylouise - furthermore the boyfriend's response is fueled by strong emotions the fact that he is teary eyed means he doesn't want to cause harm to her which may be more than she can say about her conduct towards her own offspring.

[Jamesier]

Get out! Think before you talk! Scaredy cat... Anonymous 🤢

[BigWhiteWolf87]

@Jamesier Troll

[LiamJHayden]

Did you even read it? She abused the kids.

[Djaay]

Opinion owner... And you didn't SEE what " kinda like rough " looked like either. But you are analyzing someone's words... all the other comments words to be exact. Words didn't manifest his emotional state, her ACTIONS did. That's the proof in the pudding along with her actual addmision , NOT
your Sexist actions turned into words.

[Jamesier]

@BigWhiteWolf87 calm down. Wasn't talking to you. Was talking to the person of whose nonsense we are commenting on.

[humanearth]

Probably thinks your abusive to them and your most likely sitting on the fine line of going to far with your so called "Roughness"

I am not there and did not see what happened. But going by your own words. In my opinion I think your abusing your kids

Maybe its the wording you have chosen. But that's what I think

[Anonymous]

2 years old and 6 months old? How can you be rough with such tiny species.
They came to this temporarily realms 2 years ago and the other one 6 mit hrs ago. Yet a grown ass adult is rough with them.
I mean do you have any other hobbies?
Be careful with toddlers til they reach 5. If you want to have a lovely family and them say hi to you when you are an elder give them some love. It’s free

[Anonymous]

Because they’re two defenseless infants. I don't know what “kinda like rough” is, but if he felt the need to defend them from you then I’m sure you were out of line and it hurt him. I don’t wanna say do better but yeah, do better.

[Jessy1998]

Yeah that's what he said that he's gonna defend them

[Opinion Owner]

He shouldn’t have to defend them from their mom. I think you should do whatever is necessary so that this doesn’t happen again.

[Jessy1998]

Okay. You're right 💯

[slatyb]

"I was kinda like rough with our sons" You both need counseling.

[OfMiceandMen]

Means he doesn't like being put in that kind of position and it hurts him that you're being rough with them and he has to step in and say something that is against his character.

[Cheaterssuck]

What do you mean, you were kind of rough with a six month old and a two year old? Your boyfriend probably got tears because of the way you mistreated those tiny innocent little ones. You really need to check yourself because getting "rough" with two small babies is not normal.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

He's hurt that you would do that to your guys' kids. He's angry, but also sad.

(I don't know what you did and I'm not judging you, but it sounds like that's what he was thinking)

[4ngelic]

he got mad and threatened you just because of the emotion. once he calmed down cos he loves you he feels really really sorry

[sunflower00]

What do you mean you were ‘kinda like rough’ with your babies? He probably got teary eyed because he thinks you’re abusing his kids

[Pete671]

It means imho that he really cares about his boys/your boys but he is unsure about how to care for them, he sounds a bit scared about how you treated them, but doesn't want to hurt you either, the chap sounds like a keeper to me, just mho,,,

[LiamJHayden]

You got rough with babies? He probably got teary-eyed because he now realizes that you are not what he thought. If I were he, I'd take the kids and request that charges be filed against you.

[ShiftingMonke]

Because he was overcome with strong emotions.

[Djaay]

That was a direct and accertive WARNING of crossing the boundaries of discipline. 💯🚩. Be carefully you don't force him to choose the children's defense over your actions.

[Mangospacho]

It means he knows what he’s doing is wrong but does it anyway - classic abuser.

[Minahh]

He's faking it. Those are crocodile tears. Don't get fooled.

[Minahh]

Also under no circumstances you should get rough with the kids 🥴

[OddBeMe]

That he’s got mental issues. It doesn’t bode well for you. Best scenario you get a black eye. Worst is a true crime podcast.

[Anonymous]

Lol same thing it means if a girl did it. Enough with this generalization of males.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know that’s weird that pic is Nicolas Cage, but looks like a John Cena wave

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Maybe he had a rough time growing up and he doesn't want the kids to experience this same.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And oh yeah my mom was this same to my dad. But i bet it pretty much more understandable if it's a gender reversal

[Aiko_E_Lara]

*thesame

[Anonymous]

He threatened you for abusing your children, if it was me in his shoes, you be in a sulphuric bath

[Anonymous]

It means he wants you to be a better mother.

[Anonymous]

it triggered his ptsd from childhood trauma from him being abused as a child

[JosyJosy]

Because as a father he's also hurt by this.

[Brando10222]

He loves you as much as he loves the kids

[Mayo503]

Maybe he feels hurt …