I’m a sophomore in college and there’s this senior guy that always would stare at me and wouldn’t break eye contact but never approached me and seemed nervous. I always found him cute so I would stare back and eventually started to have a crush on him. I hadn’t seen him on campus in 3 weeks but ended up finding his Instagram on our school Instagram account he was tagged in and he was playing guitar, and I’m also into guitar so I thought since I like him and he’s obviously attracted to me and we have the same hobby, why not give him a follow? Both our accounts are private and my profile pic is recognizable so he knows who I am. However it’s been 5 days and he hasn’t accepted or declined my request yet although I did notice he accepted other requests since his follower count did go up. I don’t get why he won’t accept or decline my request already but my guess is either he has a girlfriend or he’s super duper shy but I’m still really confused on why I’m being put on hold regardless. Why would he do this?
Guy is attracted to me but hasn’t accepted friend request?
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If it’s been 5 days, you should unfollow. For whatever reason he hasn't added you back but has added other people, that's not something you deserve and you shouldn’t wait around for that.
He could be nervous, overthinking why you added him, or is concerned what it will look like or something if he follows you back. Either way, he's pretty much making it clear that he's staying on the fence with you, and you should leave him alone. Retract your follow request. He might notice and feel shitty about it or not. But just give him his space.
Yes you’re right at first I thought maybe he didn’t see my request yet but on the same day I sent the request, he accepted two other people but not me. I woulda thought he would’ve accepted me or even followed back since he clearly is into me but I think most likely he has a girlfriend but even then he shoulda just decline or accepted me already🙄
Right. If he really IS into you, he sure is acting pretty immature by not accepting your request. You don't want a guy like that. You want someone who will act consistently and accordingly, not somebody who does one thing but behaves another, or does confusing things. Drop that dude.
Probably doesn’t recognize you or not really interested like you think. Attraction doesn’t always mean interest/pursuing..
but maybe change your photo and un private your account. See what happens…and talk more in person.
My profile pic was an emoji of me then I changed it to my face to make it more recognizable so I think he knows it’s me. If you want I can give you the signs he gives that shows attraction so then him acting this way most likely means he has a girlfriend I’m pretty sure
Girl I’ve been in your shoes… going through it now. It is def possible he is dating someone
A guy was showing signs of attraction towards me and I thought he was interested but he kind of started avoiding me and that’s when I found out he was in a relationship
It’s so annoying because I’ve dealt with a guy like before last year who was in my math class and kept staring at me and then a few months later he stopped for a while and this was because later had a girlfriend but was still staring at me but wasn’t until I followed his insta and accepted it that I founded out he wasn’t single so he was kinda a player. Sorry to hear that you’re going through it too, it sucks. Keep attracting these non-single cute guys ugh😭
Yeah I think the guy who did that to me was a player too… tbh. He’s a nice looking guy with many qualities so he has options.
But when this guy was showing “signs of attraction” they were in fact not official yet… but when they were starting to get serious I think that’s when he started to back off a bit… but I was so confused
I remember talking to a guy (small chat) and he was giving the guy a stern look.. like 7ft away / directly across from us lol
So I don't know
Isn’t it weird how he won’t just accept or reject my request already? I don't know to me that shows that attraction was there but something is holding him back. Maybe he really does have a girlfriend or maybe he’s super shy but either way, he accepted other requests from other people since then but not me 🤷🏽♀️
I would undo the request.
Tbh the stare thing might mean some attraction but that’s not enough to determine if he’s actually interested … if he actually spoke to you, complimented you or tried to actually get your attention … doing more than stare..
I would honestly undo the request and try and talk to him in person… just say a friendly hello/smile… get to know him
Sometimes people will simply not accept your request bc they don’t know you… personally.
He may have a girlfriend/ may not … but you won’t know until you somehow try and get to know him
But take it from me…. If a guy likes you he will let you know… he’ll do more.
'obviously attracted to me'... how so?
Well everytime we come across each other on campus he stares at me for seconds with his mouth opened and eyebrows raised and doesn’t look away and one time I was walking to my bus and he saw me and slowed down his car next to me and it seemed like during those seconds he was deciding whether or not to give me a ride but eventually he drove off. Was thinking of talking to him whenever I saw him again but after trying to follow his Instagram, I don't know
Forget stupid Instagram, unless you want nothing to happen.
I want to approach him but I Hadn’t seen him on campus for days so I thought maybe we could talk online but he hasn’t accepted me yet and now it would be super awkward if he cross paths in person
Why is that?