Have I blown this? If not how do I fix this? Possibly asking guy out second time?

[newgirlontheblack]

I asked a man who I used to work with out to dinner. I really like him. When I asked him out I was nervous and asked him out under the guise of a business dinner. Essentially, I told him hat that I had some job related questions and could he meet me for dinner. We had a great time- he laughed whole night. I haven’t heard from him since. Part of me thinks contacting him again is desperate and just give up. But another part of me thinks he really thought it was just a business dinner and if he knew I was interested he’d be into me. How should I proceed? Do I just let this go?

[spartan55]

Okay, I assume this was a former boss? If you invited him to a business dinner then that's how he treated it. He has no clue you are interested. None. And there's that word again... desperate...it is never desperate to let a guy know you are interested. Never.

[newgirlontheblack]

I really like him. Not a former boss, but a guy whose former working relationship with me would make it very hard for him to make a move on me without looking like a creeper. On one hand, I think that he could very well like me too and just not be able to make the move. On the other hand, I think if he did like me he’d find excuses to reach out to me in non romantic ways just to keep the conversation going. Being a woman is really hard. I get that men face rejection, but as women we are socialized not to make the move at all

[spartan55]

Well you will likely need to socialize out of it. In a colleague dynamic the man would be crazy to pursue a woman in today's climate. We have too much to lose.
Guys learn to deal with rejection at an early age. If we don't, then we never have a girlfriend. We don't get to opt out or use excuses. I have no problem taking the lead and asking a woman out, but only if I am certain she is interested. If she just shows and expects me to do everything then forget it.

[spartan55]

There's no reason you can't ask him out (except for wanting to avoid rejection)

[Guy13]

You lied and misdirected, therefore, he is not following up with a "ask out" invitation. You are stuck until he misses that kind of interaction. Yeah, pursuing him further would look very desperate.