My boyfriend said that he didn’t care if I wore a bikini and other men saw me is that normal?

[xJayleenx]

Does that mean that he thinks that my body isn’t attractive to other people? Lol. Tbh I might be too shy to wear any bikinis

[blueonblack22]

It’s always a “damned if you“ or “damned if you don’t” shit t*st when it comes to how a man should react to other men noticing their gfs/wives.

I listened to Doc Love years ago about this. He said that men should take it as a compliment if other men notice their gfs/wives just as long the other guy is respectful about it. It’s often possible that the other guy had no idea she was taken (I have approached women I didn’t know were taken in the past). It’s affirmation that boyfriend/husband lucky to have an attractive and in demand woman. But if the other guy is being an aggressive dbag or worse he’s hitting on her and already knows she’s taken that’s a whole different story. Now the boyfriend/husband has to get tough or his wife/girlfriend will see him as disinterested in her or worse push over.

Also he should be dating a woman that he can trust when nobody is watching her. Will she do the right thing if another attractive man approaches her?

It’s okay if she has a conversation with the other guy. But any kind of “connection” beyond that is unacceptable. But he should trust her not to do something stupid.

But there is a really gross and stupid shit t*st some women do to their bfs/husbands. Some will intentionally put themselves in scenarios where they other men will likely hit on them and they want to see how their boyfriend/husband will react. They like the jealousy and drama. They think it’s some sort of bullshit “test” to see if their boyfriend/husband really loves them or not.

However a man would allowed to intentionally do that and get away with it. That would be considered cruel and ridiculous because it is.

So ladies don’t do that. The drama isn’t worth it. It will hurt both you and your man in the long run.

[fantasticass]

I'm a boudoir model. My boyfriend loves it when I wear a sexy bikini. He just sits and smiles because he knows what "every guy is thinking ".😎

[Paige90]

@fantasticass doesn't boudoir mean you are a nude model?

[Iron_Man]

The best thing to do when you have these doubts with your boyfriend is just talk to him. You have known him for a long time now learn to communicate where you don’t have a fear factor of asking him questions. Everybody asks questions it’s not like you do it constantly so if you have a doubt or not ask a question and get an answer you have come a long way nobody really last as long as you when they’re young like you starting out in a relationship like that. Look at the site here all these break ups everywhere in just about every question.

[Aerissa_Jade]

You could always do what I do, take him with you to pick out a bikini. Some places, will let you try them on in a changing room. Not all do this though, there are others that you can't try before you buy.

I would take him into the changing room and try them on until he told me which one he liked best for me to go out in public in.

Normal guys don't freak out over their girl being in a bikini, controlling ones do. They want to control what you wear and other aspects of your life.

It is normal for him to be okay with it.

[DermalPunch]

Actually it isn't but some men are very egotistical and see women as objects. So if your being objectified by other men causes envy and attention for him then he gets an ego boost. Men by nature are territorial and when he wants to have a womam for himself and keep her he isn't trying to flaunt her. That's why men who cheat have the wife who is demure and not glamorous then the mistress is the shiny penny.

One keeps him grounded thenother feeds his man-child ego. Not a guy who treats either of them well in general.

[Jamie05rhs]

Most girls complain if he DOES object. Your complaining that he DOESN'T object.
Men really can't win!! 🤷

[xJayleenx]

I’m just used to jealous hispanic men because I am hispanic I’m not upset just wondering as usual 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

Okay

[Jamie05rhs]

You're (sorry).

[SarahSizzle]

I think he just trusts you and isn't the sort of person to control what you do or stop you dressing how you want to! Sounds very normal and healthy! I live in the UK and it's very common when we go on holiday to places in Europe and I'm often topless there on the beach and my husband doesn't mind! You wear what you want to, if someone tells you not to wear something or to change who you want to be, then they're not the one for you!

[Luffy1990]

It sounds like he isn’t the jealous type and would understand if you get a few stairs while wearing a bikini (I would stair if I bumped into you in real life if that was the actual situation). No he is more confident you won’t leave him for someone else. I bet your body would look amazing in a bikini, but don’t go outside your comfort zone. Jay do you even own a bikini?

[Red-Blaze]

If it come out in part of conversation, ya that is normal, even if rare
I mean pepole seening your body dose not control your heart, and if outhers are jellues of what he got, but he trust you to be loyal that dose not seem to me like an issue that he simply may trust you

[888theGreat]

Are you drunk or just can't spell?

[Red-Blaze]

@888theGreat just can't spell in English its bloody hard

[Catarine]

If he doesn't have problems with you wearing bikinis at the sea he is a normal man. He could either not be a jealous type or he would like for others to see that you are sexy but his.
It is weird tho that you wrote he didn't care, it's weird phrasing. If he doesn't care about you that's a red flag.
Don't be shy about wearing a bikini, it is normal to be swimwear if you are next to water in the summer

[Vegasrunner]

@Catarine Way to create a problem where there isn't one.

[Catarine]

I don't see it. The way she said it is weird. If it's true that he doesn't care she should know thats not great. If its just bad grammar she will know its not a problem because its not true

[Catarine]

@Vegasrunner I forgot to tag you

[AviatorTom]

Lots of women wear bikinis and men look at them. It sounds like your boyfriend is not the jealous type. In fact, it may be that he is very proud of you and your body, and enjoys the rush when other men look at you... knowing that you are with him, not them

[peedy]

Well look at it this way you wear a bikini to the beach or pool there are a lot of other people there wearing their swim wear they can look at you you and him can look at them everybody can see everybody
At that point what does it matter
Had a friend a long time ago and after several beers we were talking about strip bars and he said " it doesn't mater where you get your appetite jyst make sure you go home for supper"
Had a girlfriend that told me she wants a guy who doesn't look at other women I told her she'd better go to the morgue to find a guy
My point is everybody man or woman is going to look and there's nothing wrong with it its whether or not you act

[RealMarek]

You’re making a leap of logic here. A lot of people wear bikinis, so I don’t think what should come to your mind is that he is the jealous type but thinks you are unattractive in a bikini so it doesn’t matter if you wear one. He could just as well think you are attractive in a bikini and wants to see you wearing one in a place where it is appropriate to wear one.

[designer1]

My boyfriend is the same way. He may just deeply trust you and trusts that you can handle any advances from other guys appropriately. He’s just not the jealous type. I get why this may feel frustrating bc it does for me sometimes but it’s just the way he is.

[Wish4UrB00ty]

Yeah that is pretty common. Most guys likes seeing how much others enjoy the view of their girl. At least when she is showing off or when he is showing her off. Haha! It shows that he is confident and that is good. I would suggest wearing what you are comfortable in and slowly pushing yourself to being comfortable in what you feel most sexy in. And if it turns out that you don’t like the extra attention then tell him and hopefully he will respect that.

[fantasticass]

You are correct. A man being confident within himself is truly the answer.

[Twalli]

Here's my view in relation to other guys seeing my girlfriend in revealing clothes. I would like if she turned them on. I'd find it amusing if they fuck their hand thinking about her. They'll be fucking their hand wishing they could fuck her while I'm fucking her. Since I trust her completely, I don't have fears about her leaving me. Your boyfriend probably sees things in a similar way.

[Sjoerd85]

I have told my wife that I like it if she shows a lot of skin where others can see it. Could be in a bikini, or entirely naked. This is not her being not attractive, because I know she is... It is more about making other guys jealous of me; me being the lucky guy to have her, and proud of it.😉

[Guy13]

It sounds like he is hoping that you will show your physicality off a little bit. And I think he likes the idea of other men checking you out. Lots of guys are that way until the girl starts liking it too. Jealousy never crossed his mind...

[ZackBan]

I mean a little underlying jealousy might exist but generally bikinis are so socially acceptable that it's only right for a boyfriend to be supportive about it

[Massageman]

If you don't want to wear a bikini, here are one one-piece suits that would certainly get my nod:

Basic revealing one-piece- in turquoise to boost that tan-look!

[Still-alive]

he's basically saying he trusts you and not being a controlling type

[xJayleenx]

Oh okay I just thought maybe it’s normal to be a little jealous 😂

[Still-alive]

its normal. he's probably the type to not show that side to you. which is admirable.

[Beatrix7]

to me it sounds like he trusts you not to go behind his back if another guy likes your body so he doesn't care if you do wear the bikini and wants to let everyone see he has a lovley girlfriend

[weysally]

some men like\ to show off their processions or what they think is only theirs

[rienna888]

Okay but did you ask him or he just randomly said it

[xJayleenx]

I asked him

[rienna888]

You’re beautiful, I think he’s saying that to make himself look confident. But it could be he’s also a confident guy and he sees you as trustworthy. Don’t ruin it though lol

[DiegoO]

I go for this rule. If she doesn't tell me how to dress, I will not bother telling her what to wear. If she does tell me how to dress, I will beg her to stop telling me how to dress. My point: I am not concern over that, because by the time you like someone, part of that is liking the clothes they wear.