My boyfriend said that he didn’t care if I wore a bikini and other men saw me is that normal?

Question

Does that mean that he thinks that my body isn’t attractive to other people? Lol. Tbh I might be too shy to wear any bikinis

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

It’s always a “damned if you“ or “damned if you don’t” shit t*st when it comes to how a man should react to other men noticing their gfs/wives.

I listened to Doc Love years ago about this. He said that men should take it as a compliment if other men notice their gfs/wives just as long the other guy is respectful about it. It’s often possible that the other guy had no idea she was taken (I have approached women I didn’t know were taken in the past). It’s affirmation that boyfriend/husband lucky to have an attractive and in demand woman. But if the other guy is being an aggressive dbag or worse he’s hitting on her and already knows she’s taken that’s a whole different story. Now the boyfriend/husband has to get tough or his wife/girlfriend will see him as disinterested in her or worse push over.

Also he should be dating a woman that he can trust when nobody is watching her. Will she do the right thing if another attractive man approaches her?

It’s okay if she has a conversation with the other guy. But any kind of “connection” beyond that is unacceptable. But he should trust her not to do something stupid.

But there is a really gross and stupid shit t*st some women do to their bfs/husbands. Some will intentionally put themselves in scenarios where they other men will likely hit on them and they want to see how their boyfriend/husband will react. They like the jealousy and drama. They think it’s some sort of bullshit “test” to see if their boyfriend/husband really loves them or not.

However a man would allowed to intentionally do that and get away with it. That would be considered cruel and ridiculous because it is.

So ladies don’t do that. The drama isn’t worth it. It will hurt both you and your man in the long run.

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

The best thing to do when you have these doubts with your boyfriend is just talk to him. You have known him for a long time now learn to communicate where you don’t have a fear factor of asking him questions. Everybody asks questions it’s not like you do it constantly so if you have a doubt or not ask a question and get an answer you have come a long way nobody really last as long as you when they’re young like you starting out in a relationship like that. Look at the site here all these break ups everywhere in just about every question.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

You could always do what I do, take him with you to pick out a bikini. Some places, will let you try them on in a changing room. Not all do this though, there are others that you can't try before you buy.

I would take him into the changing room and try them on until he told me which one he liked best for me to go out in public in.

Normal guys don't freak out over their girl being in a bikini, controlling ones do. They want to control what you wear and other aspects of your life.

It is normal for him to be okay with it.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Actually it isn't but some men are very egotistical and see women as objects. So if your being objectified by other men causes envy and attention for him then he gets an ego boost. Men by nature are territorial and when he wants to have a womam for himself and keep her he isn't trying to flaunt her. That's why men who cheat have the wife who is demure and not glamorous then the mistress is the shiny penny.

One keeps him grounded thenother feeds his man-child ego. Not a guy who treats either of them well in general.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Most girls complain if he DOES object. Your complaining that he DOESN'T object. Men really can't win!! 🤷

SarahSizzle · Answer

I think he just trusts you and isn't the sort of person to control what you do or stop you dressing how you want to! Sounds very normal and healthy! I live in the UK and it's very common when we go on holiday to places in Europe and I'm often topless there on the beach and my husband doesn't mind! You wear what you want to, if someone tells you not to wear something or to change who you want to be, then they're not the one for you!

Luffy1990 · Answer

It sounds like he isn’t the jealous type and would understand if you get a few stairs while wearing a bikini (I would stair if I bumped into you in real life if that was the actual situation). No he is more confident you won’t leave him for someone else. I bet your body would look amazing in a bikini, but don’t go outside your comfort zone. Jay do you even own a bikini?

Red-Blaze · Answer

If it come out in part of conversation, ya that is normal, even if rare
I mean pepole seening your body dose not control your heart, and if outhers are jellues of what he got, but he trust you to be loyal that dose not seem to me like an issue that he simply may trust you

Catarine · Answer

If he doesn't have problems with you wearing bikinis at the sea he is a normal man. He could either not be a jealous type or he would like for others to see that you are sexy but his.
It is weird tho that you wrote he didn't care, it's weird phrasing. If he doesn't care about you that's a red flag.
Don't be shy about wearing a bikini, it is normal to be swimwear if you are next to water in the summer

AviatorTom · Answer

Lots of women wear bikinis and men look at them. It sounds like your boyfriend is not the jealous type. In fact, it may be that he is very proud of you and your body, and enjoys the rush when other men look at you... knowing that you are with him, not them

peedy · Answer

Well look at it this way you wear a bikini to the beach or pool there are a lot of other people there wearing their swim wear they can look at you you and him can look at them everybody can see everybody
At that point what does it matter
Had a friend a long time ago and after several beers we were talking about strip bars and he said " it doesn't mater where you get your appetite jyst make sure you go home for supper"
Had a girlfriend that told me she wants a guy who doesn't look at other women I told her she'd better go to the morgue to find a guy
My point is everybody man or woman is going to look and there's nothing wrong with it its whether or not you act

RealMarek · Answer

You’re making a leap of logic here. A lot of people wear bikinis, so I don’t think what should come to your mind is that he is the jealous type but thinks you are unattractive in a bikini so it doesn’t matter if you wear one. He could just as well think you are attractive in a bikini and wants to see you wearing one in a place where it is appropriate to wear one.

Twalli · Answer

Here's my view in relation to other guys seeing my girlfriend in revealing clothes. I would like if she turned them on. I'd find it amusing if they fuck their hand thinking about her. They'll be fucking their hand wishing they could fuck her while I'm fucking her. Since I trust her completely, I don't have fears about her leaving me. Your boyfriend probably sees things in a similar way.

designer1 · Answer

My boyfriend is the same way. He may just deeply trust you and trusts that you can handle any advances from other guys appropriately. He’s just not the jealous type. I get why this may feel frustrating bc it does for me sometimes but it’s just the way he is.

Wish4UrB00ty · Answer

Yeah that is pretty common. Most guys likes seeing how much others enjoy the view of their girl. At least when she is showing off or when he is showing her off. Haha! It shows that he is confident and that is good. I would suggest wearing what you are comfortable in and slowly pushing yourself to being comfortable in what you feel most sexy in. And if it turns out that you don’t like the extra attention then tell him and hopefully he will respect that.

ZackBan · Answer

I mean a little underlying jealousy might exist but generally bikinis are so socially acceptable that it's only right for a boyfriend to be supportive about it

Sjoerd85 · Answer

I have told my wife that I like it if she shows a lot of skin where others can see it. Could be in a bikini, or entirely naked. This is not her being not attractive, because I know she is... It is more about making other guys jealous of me; me being the lucky guy to have her, and proud of it.😉

Guy13 · Answer

It sounds like he is hoping that you will show your physicality off a little bit. And I think he likes the idea of other men checking you out. Lots of guys are that way until the girl starts liking it too. Jealousy never crossed his mind...

Massageman · Answer

If you don't want to wear a bikini, here are one one-piece suits that would certainly get my nod: Basic revealing one-piece- in turquoise to boost that tan-look!

Still-alive · Answer

he's basically saying he trusts you and not being a controlling type

Beatrix7 · Answer

to me it sounds like he trusts you not to go behind his back if another guy likes your body so he doesn't care if you do wear the bikini and wants to let everyone see he has a lovley girlfriend

weysally · Answer

some men like\ to show off their processions or what they think is only theirs

rienna888 · Answer

Okay but did you ask him or he just randomly said it

DiegoO · Answer

I go for this rule. If she doesn't tell me how to dress, I will not bother telling her what to wear. If she does tell me how to dress, I will beg her to stop telling me how to dress. My point: I am not concern over that, because by the time you like someone, part of that is liking the clothes they wear.

turnpost · Answer

This is reallly culturally dependent. In my culture that is a massive red flag that he doesn't care that you are showing off your body to other men. In my culture your body is your husbands chioce and The guys body is with the Wife choice. Hence why women buy mens clothing when they are older for there husbands lol.

Western Feminist women generally say its your body your choice.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I want other guys to see my girlfriend's rocking body and see the look on their stupid faces when they realize she's with me

Redstang88 · Answer

Seriously you need to get out of your own head, this is getting ridiculous  It means everyone wears bikinis and he’s not a jealous insecure control freak

Leopard23 · Answer

Depends on the bikini, some are more revealing than others. My wife doesn't wear a thing bikini or go topless when we are with our family.

Mangospacho · Answer

There’s not a problem with that. A lot of people wear bikinis to the beach or pool. I’ve never seen someone following their girlfriend around with a towel trying to cover her up so the alternative is much worse.

AimeeKyle · Answer

It means he has no worries/ trusts you…. and may / potentially want to show you off.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think it just shows that he's secure with himself.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Nobody can ever read others perfectly so I try to give people the positive self affirming assumption, which is, he knows your loyal and love him deeply, so he does not feel jealous when or if you go in a bathing suit.

RHK36 · Answer

Means exactly what he said. Women need to stop reading into men's actions. Most men don't think like women. If you have a question about his actions or anything really, just ask him.

Paige90 · Answer

Most guys like it when other guys look at their girlfriend or wife. Wear as small of a bikini as you can and I promise he will go wild!

Guardian45 · Answer

LOL! Oh, my goodness! I'm gonna pack you up and take you home! You're just way TOO CUTE!🤣

ALL he's saying is that won't try to control what you want to wear. Clearly, he loves you, and you still lack confidence in your beauty!

QuietVerbena · Answer

It just means he’s not super jealous. He’s not saying your body’s not attractive.

melanieeeB · Answer

It means he has a stable ego at least in this scenario and that's good

burlen · Answer

I guess he meant wear whatever you want. It is your choice and not his.

spartan55 · Answer

No, that's not what it means. Stop being so insecure.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Another relationship Kobayashi Maru. If he is okay with it, the girl will think she is not attractive. If he objects, she will think he's jealous and controlling.

Sasha0426 · Answer

He’s fine with you wearing a bikini and if men look at you, oh well. However, there’s a fine line between just looking and them touching you.

loveslongnails · Answer

I agree with weysally on this one. I think he wants to see your body AND he's showing you off.

Freyke · Answer

Looking at this logically, unless you have a private pool when going for a swim, people are going to look. He can't do anything about it

FunkyMonkee · Answer

What do you think you should wear, a full suit of clothes and a barrel?

Dargil · Answer

He does care. He likes showing off his trophy.

Jackblue · Answer

I think he just recognizes that it is not his place to tell you want you can and can't wear, he doesn't own you, and he knows that.

Likes2drive · Answer

Actually, it’s normal for a lot of guys because they get to show you off in way and say look who I have

worldscolide · Answer

Uh yeah, its normal. the only reason a man would be bothered by that is if he was insecure.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Bikinis aren't a big deal. If go to the beach right now all the women there are wearing bikinis.

John_Doesnt · Answer

No that's not normal. It usually means he is cheating on you or he is having homosexual thoughts.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

No. He trusts you enough to not do anything uncouth.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

It means other guys seeing his girl looking hot strokes his ego.

OddBeMe · Answer

Um no. As I’ve said to my many gfs (few) and now wife: wear what makes you comfortable and happy. Bikinis can be comfortable and people should be happy to show off their bodies in certain circumstances.

Xtendable · Answer

He might say he doesn’t care, in an attempt for you to be of the opinion that it’s not a big deal and be more comfortable

Summeroflove · Answer

Come on. These questions are obviously trolls

midnightcavern01 · Answer

He's happy and wants to show you off and is confident enough that'll you be OK

Adaeva · Answer

It means he is proud of you and is thrilled when other guys see what a lucky guy he is.

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Sure, he's proud that he is able to show you off to others.

TallAnon · Answer

Seeing you in a bikini > Letting others see you in one

sheenagwapa · Answer

it's just a bikini so i don't think it's a big deal

misogynistic_pig · Answer

It's normal for beta men to have bitch girlfriends.

gangster123 · Answer

Depends different people have different choices.. you might want to do what you like.. he may or may not like it..

Juxtapose · Answer

A real man isn't going to worry about his woman cheating on him because he's smart enough to choose a woman who has a fucking conscience.

Amur8711 · Answer

Sometimes with the proper clothing we like showing are girl off.

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