Guys, what makes a guy not initiate sex?

[Anonymous]

ok imma be real i’m 23 and still a virgin. I've openly liked guys and they have liked me back but the furthest I've ever gone is literally just make out. when I've liked someone i openly express that and dont hide it so i’m just curious to why every single time the guy never initiates anything further? not saying i even care to lose it but literally everyone ik has sex like its not a big deal or just so easily and i forget people do that like every day lol and I've liked MULTIPLE guys and they all have not tried me. or when they do its when i dont like them anymore and i dont care to see them. right now this one guy I've made out w consecutively a lot out at like bars etc and made it clear i kinda like him and he is flirty and returns the favor but doesn't do anything futher. i’m just curious from a guy’s perspective? like does any of that make sense? all i hear is thats all guys think about. sure I've def had multiple guys try me but its from no one I've liked or even care to be around. so yea whats ur input

[MementoMori777]

Only thing I can think of would be hygiene or not sexually attracted to you but considering he was making out with you that second possibility just sailed

[Asker]

hygiene hahah he has told me i smell good and stuff and has said things like i’m gonna marry her to other people so yeah

[MementoMori777]

Then he might be taking things slow, still wouldn't explain why every guy you've been with tho

[Asker]

ik its so weird? well I've liked like 3 guys one was extremely emotionally unavailable the second one came back and did try me but i didn't like him and now this is the 3rd. I've known him for a year and weve been flirty for a year straight but thats it lol he has made a comment tho like “you never come home w me” soo? I don't know weird

[MementoMori777]

Next time take the offer to go home with him i guess

[Asker]

yea i guess its just weird he assumed i wouldn't. its always the wrong guys trying me or people i dont care about or like. maybe i also just like guys who are too emotionally unavailable too idk💀

[MementoMori777]

It's not that, it's just that it's harder for men to initiate nowadays without looking like a creep so it can be that he doesn't want to make the first move, touch the dude or something, give a sign, if that doesn't work I don't know what to tell you