Why did he lie about watching a show I was interested in?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy I was talking to about a show I was currently watching when he asked what I was up to. After I told him he said he was surprised that I’m into soap operas. He then asked if he should check it out and I told him yeah and told him what streaming service it’s on.

The next day he told me he checked it out. I was excited so I asked him which episode did he watch to start up a convo. He then tells me he watched 10 episodes but couldn’t explain to me what happened in any of the episodes. So I shrugged it off and asked about a character who had a main part in one of the episodes and who’s been on there for awhile now. He couldn’t recall who I was talking about so he asked what season was I on. And since it’s a soap opera, they have at least 50+ seasons and I told him I’m on their recent episodes since I’m caught up (Been watching since I was a kid).

I explained that to him that the show came out since in the 60’s and they only have recent episodes from this month. He then says “Oh yeah I’m on the older season. I watched it on a secret website”

After that I just left it alone. I didn’t wanna accuse him of lying or bringing it up, but why would he say he watched it when he clearly haven’t? And on top of that he couldn’t even explain any storyline of the “10 episodes” he watched.

And I know it’s not a big deal but I take lying seriously, even if it’s something small because he didn’t need to tell me he watched the show when he didn’t watch at all. I don't know if he thought I’d be more interested in him or what but it made me distant afterwards.

[SteveSmith1985]

No, I agree that lying even about small things is a big deal. There is no "good reason" he lied to you like this. It's not ok. His intention was certainly to impress you, or otherwise get closer to you. But it's a messed-up way for a person to attempt to do that. Lying for that reason... is definitely still a red-flag. It's unusual. Especially a lie this stupid and easily uncovered. It's dumb, but its also problematic. If he's willing to lie about this, what else is he willing to lie about? What else HAS he lied about already. If he's willing to tell such a bald-faced lie about something so unnecessarythat's not going to be the only lie he came up with to try and impress you. For me, this would call into question everything that person had told me about themselves. Does he really have the education he claims? Does he really work where he says he works? Are those stories from his past real? or just more bullshit he made-up to try and make you think better of him.

I agree. This is a bigger deal than it appears. Only a certain kind of guy would ever pull something like that. The kind of guy who thinks it's ok to tell those kinds of lies. In his mind... he'll lie to impress you, and... if you don't catch that lie... what you don't know can't hurt you. That's... not the philosophy you want in your man.

[Anonymous]

If it’s like the young and the restless or bold and the beautiful I don’t blame him for going blank, I used to watch that with my grandma all the time, she watches it religiously to this day and I’ll still feel lost lol. But although I don’t blame him for forgetting stuff, 10 episodes is excessive to say he remembers not one thing. To which I’d say he probably lied to impress you and gain your interest, making himself relatable. The only times I’ve seen guys do that is when the goal is to get laid.

[MementoMori777]

Maybe he put it on and watched it by bits while he was doing something else