Can a guy still like a girl even if they take hours to respond?

[Chill_girl1]

So I met a guy at Uni and I found his Instagram and we started texting and then he asked for my number so we started texting on messages. In class we have said hi to each other and he moved to sit next to me. His not dry at all and he sends long messages, he continues the conversation because he has asked me questions and seems like he wants to get to know me. I recently asked him if he wanted to go see a movie but I said it subtly and he said we should and told me when he was busy and when he was free too.

The only thing that I am confused about is sometimes he would respond to me quick but most of the time it is slow replies but he still writes a lot. Like now he just messages me like 1-3 times a day but most of the time it's once or twice a day and so I don't know if he is interested in me. What makes me confused is he said yes to the movies but he doesn't text me as much anymore or reply quickly like he used to at the beginning. I do know that he is busy with Uni work as he does more subjects then me, he also told me he has restrictions on Instagram so he doesn't go on it as much and told me he deleted TikTok.

So I am not sure if he could still be interested in me but is just busy or not go on his phone much due to his work. But if he wasn't interested in me then why would he want to go see a movie with me unless he is being polite or just wants to as friends because I don't know. But should I continue to text him and go watch a movie with him or not bother if he doesn't bother to send messages quickly as it doesn't take long to send a message.

My friend also texted him on Instagram to see if he would reply to her and he didn't so is that a good thing if a random girl texts him and he doesn't respond. Because he responded to me when he first didn't know me, but now he won't respond to a girl he doesn't know. Like you know if a guy is interested in a girl they won't make an effort to get to know other girls. But I am not sure what to do.

[misogynistic_pig]

A man can be interested in a woman, even if she is slow to reply to his messages.

However, I tend to promote the idea of ​​the independence and autonomy of man, and therefore, happiness or a sense of personal worth should not be based on the attention or interest of another person.

Men often prefer to focus on their own life and personal goals rather than seeking approval or attention from others, including women.

Therefore, a woman's response to a man's messages is not necessarily a measure of her personal value or attractiveness.

In summary, although a man may be interested in a woman who is slow to respond to his messages, I tend to emphasize the importance of independence and focus on one's own life instead of seeking attention from others.

[Chill_girl1]

He is the one that takes ages to respond to me and if men are independent now well they still text the girl they like and have girlfriends.

[mommymommy]

On one hand, I do like when she answers quickly because it's nice to know she's at least showing she likes me but on the other hand, sometimes quicker texts, can come off as "weird" or whatever because they're not thought out. On the other hand though, sometimes it's better to hear what comes out at first thought, since it's usually what you actually believe, not what you think we want to hear

It's all up to you ultimately, but, to me, the fact that you're replying at all, is what'll make me the most happiest

We all know guys and girls can't be "just friends". Not replying at all, proves it

[Anonymous]

I dont respect people who say they are not busy and then take hours to respond

[Chill_girl1]

He doesn't say that but he leaves me on delivered like half a day

[Opinion Owner]

he's trash

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, absolutely. Life gets in the way of text messaging. It's not like the guy doesn't have other stuff going on.

[Anonymous]

If you were actually TALKING on the phone instead of texting, you would know exactly how he feels and you wouldn' be asking this question. Texting is the easy way out for people who don't have the confidence to talk directly, or who simply can't be bothered. You have brought this problem upo yourself.

[Chill_girl1]

Well we just met at the start of Uni so it is a bit early for that, if I ask to call and he says no well then I still have to see him for three years. It's not that simple.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually, it is that simple, but you seem to be looking for an excuse. You need not respond to me, but do be honest with yourself.

[Summeroflove]

Some people are just busy. If he doesn’t show interest at all though. It might be a lost cause. Don’t waste your energy on someone who won’t put time into you.

[Chill_girl1]

No one can ever be too busy to respond to a text. You can even respond when your laying in bed before you go to sleep or when you wake up. I find it hard to believe that people are busy 24/7 especially when you see there active and your on delivered still. It literally takes a minute to send a text, it doesn't take up much time and if a guy likes a girl they will make time for her and time to text her, but I don't hear from him because he only texts once a day.

[Summeroflove]

You’re right. Sometimes it’s hard to respond immediately and sometimes you don’t hear your phone.

But if someone is flat ignoring you. Yeah he’s probably not that interested. Especially if you’re trying to reach him for something important.

But if someone is contacting me at times they know are bad times. Like 3 am and it’s not important. That does upset me now

[Summeroflove]

Also people who blow me up all hours of the day and night. But I assume you’re not doing that lol

[DontEvenUnderstand]

texting people sucks; its difficult to convey expression and conversations don't flow naturally, so most people just use text as the medium to actually meet someone, he's lost interest in texting you, but not lost interest in you.

[DontEvenUnderstand]

or at least that's how I view texting.

[Chill_girl1]

But if he hasn't lost interest in me, then why would he loose interest in texting me if he liked me. Because for me if I like a guy I wouldn't loose interest in texting them.

[DontEvenUnderstand]

as I said, from my perspective I hate texting, and I imagine he does too. I mean think about it, this sounds like you've hit off pretty well with this dude and you even arranged to meet up. plus I know a ton of guys that use app restrictions to manage themselves, so his excuse is plausible. just meetup with the dude then guage how he views you from that. and don't take texting too seriously, most people dont.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, the two can still love one another.

[Chill_girl1]

But how?

[mattc007007]

Yes lol We are busy and have other interests besides women.

[Chill_girl1]

Yet guys have girlfriends and all that, I don't know where girls find them.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sounds like he’s being polite and he’s not really into you. Do you like him?

[Chill_girl1]

Then why when I asked him out he said yeah

[BarryLiverstone]

Because that’s a fun activity to do with people. You said you were subtle. So sure he likes movies right?

[Chill_girl1]

I said we should watch a movie some time and he said we should and so I suggested we could watch a movie that is coming out and he said he is busy 5th-7th and anytime after that he can. Why would he even bother to go then. We aren't friends either so it can't be as friends

[BarryLiverstone]

Because that’s how you make friends. By going to activities you enjoy together

[BarryLiverstone]

If he was into you and he wanted to date you then he would act on those feelings

[BarryLiverstone]

But if you believe he’s Into you then feel free to tell me why and I’ll try to help

[Chill_girl1]

Tbh I don't know, I mean he talked to me first in class and that's never happened before and when he went to sit in his usual seat he went and moved next to me and then the next week he sat where I sat the week before. He isn't dry either so I don't know

[BarryLiverstone]

Here is my advice. Right now there is no excitement or passion as you and him are just “maintaining” a text string daily and not working towards anything. You mentioned a movie and he agreed. So pick a day and time next week and say you are going to see a movie and ask if he wants to come with. If he is noncommittal or cleans he is too busy with school you get to tease him a bit and remind him he’s allowed to have fun in school as well. Either way slow down a little more on the frequency of communication so that when you do meet for the movie or do talk to him in class there is something to talk about irl. Don’t just rely on the daily texting to drive whatever relationship you want.

Does that help? You understand why you don’t wanna keep the current pattern?

[Chill_girl1]

Yeah that is true, it's just hard to talk in class as it is a 3 hour lecture and we can't really talk. I have come to terms thatI don't think he is interested, I was thinking since I already mentioned him about the movies I wanted to see if he would ask me what day and time.

[BarryLiverstone]

Glad you came to terms. Now you can move past him right?

[Chill_girl1]

It just makes me a bit sad because after a guy hurt me, I was finding it hard to like a guy and this was the first guy I could after being hurt and never the guys I like are interested in me, it's always the way.

[BarryLiverstone]

So he was a rebound then at best. But remember there are lots of guys out there. If you are picky then consider expanding your type.

[BarryLiverstone]

Sometimes who we like changes over time and it’s related to our past

[Chill_girl1]

No because I don't want to settle for any less.

[BarryLiverstone]

Anything less physically? Ok then that’s your choice and your options are limited

[TheFlak38]

Poor girl. She is not the center of the universe.

[gag37627]

If she is constantly taking hours to reply, then that's the time to ignore her for forever

[Anonymous]

He does sound interested in you, maybe just a bad texter.

[Razp_Sorbet]

He's restricted on Instagram? 🚩🚩🚩

[Chill_girl1]

No he has temporary restrictions so he doesn't go on it as much

[Razp_Sorbet]

Which you get for breaking terms of service... Which isn't very easy to do...

[Chill_girl1]

What do you mean

[Razp_Sorbet]

He's saying his Instagram account has temporary restrictions? Which you get for breaking Instagrams rules.

[DontEvenUnderstand]

no as in he has restrictions so he doesn't use it as much, not restrictions from Instagram itself smh.

[Razp_Sorbet]

@DontEvenUnderstand weird word to use if that's the case

[DontEvenUnderstand]

word ur looking for is banned, that's how Instagram would phrase it

[Razp_Sorbet]

@DontEvenUnderstand nope Instagram also has what is called temporary restrictions or blocks. Which happens when you violate their rules.

[DontEvenUnderstand]

you can "restrict" other people on Instagram but Instagram will either block or shadow ban you. why are we even arguing over this lmao, blocked and restricted practically mean the same thing XD

[Razp_Sorbet]

@DontEvenUnderstand I'm just telling you what I've read, Instagram can temporarily restrict or block your account from performing certain actions like commenting, sharing, liking, messaging and posting. It's called an action block and can happen for many reasons like exceeding the daily action limit which is essentially spam liking, commenting, posting or messaging. Sharing inappropriate links in your bio or in comments etc. Been blocked or reported by other users too many times.

[DontEvenUnderstand]

but op never said block, she said restrict lol

[Chill_girl1]

@DontEvenUnderstand He left me on delivered for two days and so i asked like what had happened and he said that he has put temporary restrictions because of the reels so I assume it's because he would use Instagram a lot and watch lots of reels so he put restrictions so he wouldn't go on it as much. That's when he asked for my number to talk on messages.

[dreamstar72]

Sure some people aren’t glued to 🛜 📱 24/7

[KAYJJAY]

yes, he could just be busy

[In_Trance]

yes they can

[Anonymous]

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