Should I reach out to him, when he doesn’t respond to my text message, which contains question? It’s been almost a week I didn’t hear from him?

[Anonymous]

Hi can you help me with my situation, please? I met a guy 25.4.2022 since then we spent time together, we went out, we wrote a lot. And from 20.9.2022 we were much closer. Suddenly on 29.11.2022 he has a lot a work and studies. I gave him space. So two months we didn’t see eachother. We had seen eachother on 13.2.2023. And now he is again busy with work and studies.
We texted last Wednesday. And my last text message was: “How you’re doing?” “Did you work all day today?” And since then I haven’t heard from him. I do know, that now he has a new project at work and he has to write a bachelor thesis, which he has to handle on 20th of April 2023. So I am aware that he is under a lot of stress.
I kind don’t know what to do? Should I reach out to him again, when he doesn’t even respond to my first text? Or should I just end this by ignoring him, because his silence could mean, that he's not interested in me anymore? I would really like to hear your advice, please. Because I am really confuse…. I do care about him, but on the other side his not responding make me feel frustrated.

[TDILS]

Not all men go to other people if they don't reply your texts.

So keep calm, he might be doing his job and study right now, it might be overwhelming a bit for him, but that's okay to contact him. You may try to communicate whenever it's been possible, but don't force too much, let him be willing to communicate as well

Keep cheering him up, keep supporting him whether via text messages or by calls / video calls, and keep encouraging each other and be faithful for each other, until you both are prepared enough to proceed into more deeper relationship (preparing for marriage if both of you are willing to)

[Vegasrunner]

This again highlights why it's important for men to focus on their drive and mission. You're confused because you've been told that men need to do all this extra stuff to attract the woman they like but you don't understand that that's false. You're obviously attracted to him which means that other women are attracted to him, and now you're in the spot that so many single women are today. Trying decide if you should compete or settle for a less desirable man.

[EclipsedMoonlight]

I would not contact him right now, let him answer you. If he is under a lot of stress and pressure he may be blocking out the outside world to focus and concentrate. He is doing it to ensure his future is stable. If it was for any other reason I'd say he lost interest. But because it is work/school related give him a few weeks. Patience is key. Good luck

[Anonymous]

Why don't people actually talk to each other these days?

[Asker]

How are we supposed to talk when he won't even reply to a text message?

[DavidBibs]

He’s probably messing around with other woman sadly - I’m a man and if I ignored a woman’s text it’s either 1. I’m not into her or 2. I found another woman I like more and don’t want to lead the girl I am ignoring on, so I figure she’ll figure it out if she is not responded to.

If I was into a woman there’s no way in hell I’d ignore her - if you were into a woman would you leave them on read for a week? I think we can conclude our answer…

[DavidBibs]

*if you were into a man would you leave him on read?

[Monalisa77]

U should b honest with them

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@Monalisa77 Most women can't handle the truth. A few girls from my past have done some pretty crazy shit when I tell them I'm not into them.
They take it personal and they get extremely vindictive and spiteful.
One even tried to tell me she was pregnant, and when I called her bluff on that, she told me I have a small dick and continued to harass me until I finally blocked her.
Ignoring them works much better. Because at least they can pretend I still like them

[Monalisa77]

Well its stopping them from moving on. I still intensely think about a guy i liked 5 months ago cos he did just that, suddenly ignored me. I think i made it clear i wouldn't have done that, because i told him my brothers ex was doing it to him and was causing him hell.

[Monalisa77]

I didn't know if i did something to upset him, or he found out i liked him. And didn't like me, even though his acrions prior seemed to indicate he did.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yeah you're right. It's not the nicest thing to do to someone. I've just been baptized by fire, and maybe he has too.
But if you made it clear that you're not gonna go crazy, he should've done the right thing.
I never got that assurance myself

[Monalisa77]

Yeah we really bonded the first time we met, i found out later he was actually married too before and i think she did some crazy shit to him, but i just wish hed said something even just one line to make it clear and he didn't have to do it privately

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I'm sorry he shut you out like that. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, he could've told you the truth

[Monalisa77]

I went more crazy, because he never said anything. Even the last time we spoke he asked if i was going to his party, which made me Think he still liked me, and i know people say it didn't mean anything but walking past my car n looking at me, gave me a similar idea, i need people to be honest with me instead of making me confused

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Absolutely, I don't blame you. Even if I did ignore a girl, I wouldn't give her mixed signals like that

[Monalisa77]

Yup, just before he cut me off he give me a really weird/longing look for ages, so he left it on that which is why I've struggled. Noones ever looked at me like that before

[WanderingLoveWizard]

That's really weird

[Monalisa77]

I keep thinking because i think about him less, i might be over it. But talking about this still makes me upset😂

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yeah that brings it all back up lol. Forget him for good. You don't deserve that garbage

[Monalisa77]

I only knew him for 3 weeks, but id never bonded with someone as much as him and it was like he got me straight away. Things just got too complicated and instead of messing about we shouldve talked properly

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol, I've been there. Without the bonding part anyway

[Monalisa77]

Thats my only chance of ever getting a boyfriend, i dont have the looks at all lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Doesn't matter. Most beautiful women are total nightmares to be around. Your beauty will show through your personality.

I'm not blowing smoke either. I go for girls who are easiest to get along with, not easiest to look at. I'm done with those bitches

[Monalisa77]

Yeah I've really not got anything going for me looks wise lol im being pratical, i just doing what i can to get by each day. I think thats y i was too scared to talk to him. Cos my confidence n self esteem is v low

[TheSpaceGnome]

If he isn't responding as soon as he sees it most of the time, move on.

Rarely it might take like a day, maybe slightly longer of his phone got destroyed.

[Avicenna]

You're obviously not a priority for him, so I would move on

[noohair]

I guess people have different rules on text etiquette. I do not expect a text to be returned. So I don't get disappointed. If people dodge my calls, that is an issue,

[Anonymous]

I think you can try reaching out to him again, then the ball is now in his court.

[TooHot2Care]

Sexy Negecty.

[Anonymous]

I’d think he was ghosting and move on

[In_Trance]

He's seeing someone else. Move on