Why is it that most guys don't fully respect me even though I have SOME alpha qualities?

[Anonymous]

I admit

I'm a sub 5/10 in the face & I don't have "game" with woman BUT

I do lift crazy weight (I brag about it & show off)

I do crazy reps on many bodyweight exercises

(I brag about it & show off)

I kill people almost effortlessly in a lot of online video games (I brag & show it off)

I have a deep voice & I do have a rugged mug but unattractive

Im very emotional & hot headed too for trifile shit

Are guys just assholes because of my mug?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to say for certain why some guys may not fully respect you, as people's attitudes and behaviors can be influenced by a wide range of factors. However, it's possible that some guys may be judging you based on your appearance or perceived lack of "game" with women.

It's important to remember that true respect is earned through a combination of factors, including character, integrity, and empathy. While physical strength and skill in video games can be impressive, they are not necessarily indicators of overall character or worth as a person.

Additionally, bragging and showing off may come across as arrogant or insecure, which can turn some people off. It's important to be proud of your accomplishments, but also to remain humble and grounded in your interactions with others.

Nonetheless, it's important to focus on developing positive qualities and behaviors that will earn respect and admiration from others, regardless of your appearance or specific skills. This may include cultivating empathy and emotional intelligence, practicing good communication and listening skills, and treating others with kindness and respect.

[richardcory]

Ok, to be honest - your mentioning that you had "some alpha qualities" was a big negative to me. It shows you are worrying /thinking about whether you are alpha enough.

If "alpha" male humans actually existed, that would be non-alpha of you but the whole "alpha" / "beta" thign doesn't fit with sociology for humans, and not ever really for wolves.

Don't worry about it. Respect yourself, and if you can't then don things that let you respect yourself. That is the only respect that matters. (but usually if you respect yourself, others will resepect you as well)

[b-river]

Confidence and ego are not the same thing, they are opposites. Humility and insecurity are not the same, they too are opposites.

You have a high ego, and are insecure. You think a lot of the things you do, and worry so much about why no one else does.

Accept yourself, and come to peace, and let go of your ego. Then people will respect you.

[Asker]

Bot how does that explain why many guys scorn at me or treat me with a patronizing attitude

It's passive by the way

[b-river]

There's a good chance you're doing two things in some amount.

1. Because you're worried about other people's respect, you try to take it by talking about how good you are, and showing off. No one likes that, it's annoying and makes people see that you're insecure.

2. People aren't even scorning or disrespecting you as much as you think they are. You're caught up in your head man, and seeing things where they're not there. Not to say it never is, but you're making it bigger.

Just worry about being happy with yourself bro, you're a really great guy, and you have a lot of great traits here that you can use to build a solid life.

You getting caught up on what other people think is what's making them think bad things about you, in whatever degree they actually are.