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We both used to like each other. We were in relationship but before he accepted I confessed another guy my feelings which was just fling. He broke up and in just 3 days he came into relationship with his ex. Later he gave silly reasons like i can't break her heart again , family won't listen, can't leave her and lastly blamed me that because of me broke up because I have another guy more attention. He used to keep saying he loves me he wants to stay with me. He is still in relationship with her but we kiss each other and stay close. He takes care of me pays attention gets possessive and does everything for me also wants to stay with my parents. We flirt and do sexting. They are in long distance but we are classmates. does he have any feelings or it's just lust? Does he really love her?
Confused about love or lust?
Anonymous
(25-29) 
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It is difficult to say whether your ex-boyfriend's actions are driven by love or lust. It is possible that he still has feelings for you, but it is also possible that he is simply attracted to you and enjoys the physical intimacy you share.
Based on what you have described, it seems that your ex-boyfriend is not being honest with himself or with either of you about his feelings. It is not fair for him to blame you for his decision to break up with you, and it is not fair for him to continue to be in a relationship with someone else while also being physically and emotionally intimate with you.
It is important for you to take care of yourself in this situation and consider whether this relationship is truly healthy for you. It is possible that you may be getting hurt in the process. It is also important for you to communicate with your ex-boyfriend and clarify what his intentions are. If he is not willing to commit to a relationship with you, it may be best for you to move on and find someone who will treat you with the respect and honesty that you deserve.
Thankyou so much i really wanted to know about this. I'm trying but I'm not able to move on. It's been 6 months. We used to be bestfriends now also we became. And i don't want to loose him. I don't know what to do. Yes i feel hurt whenever he is chatting with her or busy on call with her
Oh darling..:(
It sounds like the situation you are in is quite complicated, and it may be difficult to determine whether the other person's actions are driven by love or lust. It's important to remember that love is based on mutual respect, trust, and communication, while lust is more focused on physical attraction and desire.
It's important to consider the other person's actions and behavior towards you, as well as their behavior towards their current partner. It's not fair to either of you or to their partner to engage in physical or emotional intimacy while they are still in a committed relationship.
It's also important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to communicate your needs and boundaries clearly to the other person. If you are looking for a committed and respectful relationship, it may be helpful to seek out other potential partners who share these values and priorities.
Ultimately, the decision of whether to pursue a relationship with this person or not is up to you, but it's important to approach the situation with caution and to prioritize your own well-being and self-respect. It may also be helpful to seek out the support of a trusted friend or counselor during this time.
I don't know what to do right now. I do want a relationship with him but he is not leaving her. Mentally i feel drained sometimes because I cannot understand if he is using me or really in love
It's understandable that you feel drained and uncertain in this situation. It's important to remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued and respected, and where your needs and boundaries are honored. It may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with him about your feelings and concerns, and to express what you want and need in a relationship. However, it is also important to consider that if he is not willing to leave his current partner, it may not be possible to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with him. It is not healthy to be in a relationship where you feel used or unsure of the other person's true intentions.
From there, you should prioritize your own well-being and to make choices that align with your values and goals. It may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend or counselor as you navigate this situation, and to take time to reflect on what you truly want and need in a relationship.
It's like a fight going inside me to want him and to leave him. What should I do right now. I don't wanna loose him but it feels like if i confront him i will loose him
It's understandable to feel conflicted and unsure about what to do in this situation, but it's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to make choices that are respectful and healthy for yourself.
If you're feeling like there's a fight going on inside you about whether to want him or leave him, it may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own feelings and to consider what you want and need out of a relationship.
It may also be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your ex-boyfriend about your feelings and to set clear boundaries for what you're comfortable with in the relationship. While it can be scary to confront someone about your feelings, You need to communicate openly and respectfully in order to build a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
It’s up to you to decide what you want and what's best for you in this situation. Make choices that are respectful and healthy for yourself, even if that means potentially letting go of a relationship that may not be serving you in the long run.
I'm sorry, but aside from the "Oh darling..:(" both of the previous users responses were probably entirely generated by ChatGPT. :/
As for your question, I don't know, but I imagine it's probably a bit of both love and lust. It sounds like he's trying to have you both as his girlfriends at the same time.
So what should I do right now
I'd break up with him. It doesn't sound like he's serious about your relationship or relationships in general, and I also wouldn't be interested in a polyamorous relationship.