Is this a bitch move?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend and I had a fight like 1 month ago. We both apologized and said water under the bridge let's move on. But I haven't been able to move on from it. I feel weird when interacting with him and I do feel like that fight soured the friendship for me a little.

I'm not looking to end the friendship but I said everything was cool when it obviously wasn't. I struggled with these hurt emotions for a month trying to get myself to suck it and move on. I just couldn't, I ended up bringing the fight up a month later just voicing my hurt feelings to him.

I know its such an annoying girl move and I'm not trying to be a little bitch. But for some reason I was very stuck on how he acted and treated me during the fight. I never told him that he hurt my feelings, I acted cool when I wasn't. Now I brought it up like a month later lol and I feel like a drama queen and I feel embarrassed.

Is this the kind of stuff that ruins friendships? After I revealed these hurt feelings a month later I feel waayyy better but I also feel like embarrassed that I'm talking about something we said we would move on from and also the fact that I'm not even over it. It's just an uncomfortable embarrassing feeling.

Is this a bitch move on my part? I don't mean to be such a girl about it. But I never told him that he hurt my feelings.

[MementoMori777]

Yes because you brought up the past again, the reason it's a bitch move tho isn't cause you have feelings cause that's normal but because you hid your emotions and lied in the process just to pretend you were okay, if you would have communicated with him when y'all supposedly settled it, you wouldn't have brought it back up and open a fresh healed wound, friendships require communication as well and your lack of it lead to these results so just learn from it and next time don't be afraid to communicate.

[Asker]

Thank you this is a great opinion

[MementoMori777]

Np 💯🙏

[Anonymous]

Did he scream in your face, call you horrible names, spit on you, and/ or hit you during the fight?
If not, then it's probably not something you should still be stewing over a month later lol

[Opinion Owner]

It's not a bitch move, it's just a little petty

[Asker]

No but he did treat me like this enemy that he doesn't trust and was quick to treat me disrespectfully at least that's how I felt

[Opinion Owner]

That's kind of what people do when they fight. But as long as you feel better now and it's in the past, I guess it's all good

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to be the “chill” or “cool” girl. You’re a human being who sometimes feels some type of way about shit and it’s not weak to voice that. The only difference is you should’ve done it sooner, but aside from that stop checking yourself for speaking on how you feel or worry about being some cliche of a woman in an effort to fit in. It’s immature and quite demeaning to even categorize it as bitchy. Men tear us down enough without you chiming in.

[Asker]

I'm talking about myself not other women girlfriend

[Asker]

I'm sorry I'm coming off that way. It's the way my dad raised me.

[Opinion Owner]

Even if you’re talking about yourself, that behavior only adds to a stigma men create that women who share their feelings are “too emotional”, when it’s not. I get that your dad probably raised you like a boy or whatever but it’s never too late to correct yourself. If you are bothered by something, speak up without overthinking. If a guy does a shitty thing then tell him, not worry he’d think it’s some emotional woman drama just for you expressing yourself. Not trying to lecture you, it’s just not healthy.

[Asker]

I understand. Thank you for telling me. I'll work on it.