Why did he get offended?

[Justneedtokno]

Oh, so I was talking to this guy and later on like months later, he revealed that he doesn’t want to be in a real relationship right now, but he doesn’t mind the other stuff of a relationship which is a F buddy situation. So I made the comment will I’ll put you on the friends with benefits List since you’re only good for dick anyway. And he got offended and I don’t understand it.

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Is just the same as a guy sending me a dick pic so you just wanna sex. And at this moment in time I don’t want that but I guess you could be safe or later if I get to that filling a moment or want.

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I’ve come to the conclusion that maybe it could’ve been said in a different way but at the same time I don’t think I’m wrong in the situation because if he’s only looking at me for just sex or a fuck buddy situation, then what I said is basically the same thing said out loud that he is only good for that for me because he doesn’t want anything else I have to put them in some type of category and I can’t put him down as oh I can take him to dinner or we can do things together no

[Anonymous]

I'm bisexual I guess but I would consider myself more on the Hetrosexual spectrum. When I'm dating a person I don't really need another of the opposite gender. Although I will say that all of the guys I've dated including my current guy is OK with me sleeping with other women as long as i tell them about it, or they can watch or even get involved. I've actually no real intrest in sleeping with other women. My current guy for instance last week he was super horny and I wasn't really but I wanted him to finish super quick so I start telling him about the time I had sex with that girl at the gym he's always checking out and how I f*cked with a 12inch strapon (more like 5 inches) and I swear he finished within 2 minutes of thrusting, men are so much easier than women. I've also let him watch me with another girl and had threesomes with other girls but to be honest though I enjoyed them it's really only for him, I'd rather we only had sex together.

[Justneedtokno]

Thanks for sharing but I don’t think that has anything to do it what I’m talking about

[Anemone978]

I think you hurt his ego and he got offended because you called him out on his shit lol

[razelove]

I'd think since you said there's a list. No one, whether it's men or women like being "divided" in a relationship, even if they say they're fine with it and enter a relationship on that premise.
I've been with one woman who could handle me being with other women. The amount of women I've been with while I was with her, I can't remember, neither can she, but none of them lasted for more than a month, every one of them except one who left town ended because of an ultimatum driven by jealousy demanding monogamy. That's regardless of the nature of the relationship, serious or casual.
People are greedy for attention, importance, and faithfulness, which is completely understandable as monogamy has been the paradigm of relationships for a very very long time.

[Grond21]

Is it strange that someone is offended when they are reduced to nothing but their genitals? Is it strange when someone is unkindly objectified and belittled that they are offended? Is it not in fact a natural response?

[Justneedtokno]

Lol 😂 well this is all he wanted and look at me for sooo don’t see the problem

[Grond21]

Two wrongs don't make a right

[DizzyDesii]

Nahh karma got his ass 🤣

[Justneedtokno]

I honestly don’t see where I was being wrong honestly

[Grond21]

It would be like going up to a prostitute and saying she is only good for pussy

[DizzyDesii]

@Justneedtokno You weren’t. Your guy tried to play you and got mad that you were playing the same game

[Grond21]

He certainly was in the wrong, and wanted to use you. Then you were in the wrong by how you responded. His was worse, but yours wasn't good. Make sense?

[DermalPunch]

She was absolutely perfect in her response.

[Grond21]

Even assuming she was, the question was, why did he get offended.

[DermalPunch]

Oh because he likes to dish but can't eat what he served.

[Grond21]

I mostly agree with your update. Thanks for the MHO, and thanks for listening

[Genie23]

I think you hurt his ego, lol. He did want to have just fun with you rather than get to know you and be in a relationship but that doesn't mean he wants to hear a girl that she only thinks he's good enough for sex and nothing else to offer. He still wanted to feel wanted, I guess... You made him feel like you questioner his worth or something. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[PhenomenalQueen]

It seems like he’s offended because you were able to be honest about the way you feel about him… it sounds like he thought this way of you, but in his head.. he didn’t have the courage to say it out loud, and because you did just this, it threw him off… Good for you! Keep losers like that in their place.

[Gent207-2]

Because you repeated back to him what he said to you but in your own words. You didn't accept him or giveth pseudo-love thathe needs without the commitment or emotional baggage. if I were you I would have nothing to do with him. The moment hard times arrive he will run away from you

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao you hit him with the uno reverse! A taste of his own medicine 😂 Now he hurt

[Sixgunsound]

He's expecting you to cry and want more like Many women used to. I don't think he was expecting you to treat him the same way. He's treating you and he didn't like that.

[Sixgunsound]

You basically popped his eagle bubble and explain to him that you weren't going to invest in something he wasn't going to invest in either.

[Sixgunsound]

Honestly I don't see anything wrong with you saying to him the same thing he said to you. Ego checks are wild, aren't they? You never know what is going to happen but it won't be boring!

[Anonymous]

You literally insulted him by telling him he is only good for dick and you wonder why he was offended/upset.. Talk about sad.. Grow up.. Learn from this, and move on.

[Justneedtokno]

Lol 😂 well this is all he wanted and look at me for sooo don’t see the problem

[Opinion Owner]

Yes but he didn't reduce you to your genitals. basically unperson him. thats the difference. you can disagree all you like but how would you feel if he if instead of referring to you as a person, he referred to you as "good pussy" and thats it.. That is the difference.

[Justneedtokno]

Basically, it’s the same thing if he only sees me as a person just for sex, then I can look at him the same way that he’s only just here for sex nothing more

[Opinion Owner]

look at him for only sex, fine, but reduce him to a body part, thats just wrong.

[DermalPunch]

He's an ass. Wants you to be committed to him but not committed to you. Typical grown-boy garbage. Don't give him a second thought.

[spartan55]

I think it's hilarious you said that to him. Turn the tables...😂

[Whatisthatname]

He was offended because you said he was not good for anything else. While he didn't say that about you, but that he doesn't want a relationship right now.

[Justneedtokno]

What is up with guys talking about? I don’t want to relationship right now. OK then I don’t wanna just fuck either. Right now. Well that’s all he can offer me if he doesn’t want a relationship I think for me I wanna relationship and then I want to have sex or whatever it just doesn’t work like that for me. I know everybody’s different but no.

[Whatisthatname]

Then you should have told him "I'm sorry, but I'm looking for something more than just sex. I want to meet someone I can have a relationship with" instead of trying to hurt him by saying "you're not good for anything other than sex"

[Justneedtokno]

Lol ok

[Whatisthatname]

Since all you can blame him for is being honest. He didn't say it was specifically you he didn't want a relationship with.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Insecurity

He clearly is. He doesn't wanna commit but he wants sex. Though being stigmatized as a fuckbuddy only is degrading. He doesn't know what he wants yet

[KrakenAttackin]

So, you have a list of guys you are fucking... no wonder he doesn't want a relationship with you.

[Jamie05rhs]

You said nothing wrong. Lol

[Adaeva]

Sounds like a troll to me.

[msc545]

ask him