Should I have not threw him under the bus?

[Anonymous]

This guy i was seeing cut me off bc he cannot trust me anymore for what i did to him in the past. we got into a fight and i threw him under the bus to his friend. We both gossiped about his friend but i only told her what he said and not what i said. That was months ago but he has lost trust from me since and decided he wants to stop contacting me. We were fine but its been on his mind that he can't trust me and its been taking up space in his head. But when i did throw him under the bus we weren't on good terms and i was blocked.

[FilmGuy93]

Of course you shouldn't have? Lol I don't understand how this is a question. Not only did you talk shit on him, you lied to the person you were talking to by not explaining the context.

Here's a good rule of thumb; if you wouldn't want someone telling people about how you acted in the situation, don't talk about how they acted either. Best lesson I've ever learned in life is that you don't need to have an opinion about everything.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you may feel regret for throwing this guy under the bus, but it's important to take responsibility for your actions and learn from them.

Gossiping about someone, even if they have hurt you in the past, is not a healthy or productive way to handle conflicts or disagreements. It can damage trust and relationships, and can create a toxic environment of negativity and drama.

Moving forward, it may be helpful to focus on building healthy communication and conflict resolution skills, and to prioritize honesty and respect in your relationships. It's also important to be aware of your own behavior and how it may affect others, and to take responsibility for any mistakes or hurtful actions.

If you feel that you need closure or want to apologize to this guy, it may be helpful to approach the situation calmly and respectfully, and to express your feelings and intentions in a clear and direct way. However, it's important to also respect his boundaries and feelings, and to understand that he may not be willing or able to forgive or reconnect with you.

[inhua]

talking shit about someone behind someone's back is never respectable