I met a guy last year on a dating app who seemed just wonderful. He had just immigrated to my country from abroad to start a new life. When we first met, he was unemployed after just moving here but a few weeks later he got a job in a factory. He wasn’t so happy with this, he wanted to be an actor.
he was quite broke but I didn’t mind as he was so nice. on the other hand, I’m a very successful women, progressing in my career, my own car, house and financially secure.
We just clicked and had an amazing connection, loads of laughs and he seemed caring and kind. It was crazy how much we had in common and the early days were just amazing times together. I think because he had just moved here, he didn’t know where to plan dates so I planned everything
but me planning everything continued but I did so as he was supportive and seemed super into me. He showed me off to all his friends, he texted me non stop. He was gentle and sensitive and in touch with his emotions.
but 3 months in, he still never did anything to plan dates, it was all me. I always helped him with his life admin, supporting him to find a new job, but he kept getting rejected so he sorta gave up.
i do t know if it was because his initial excitement of being in a new country wore out, but he completely changed and seemed depressed. He was critical, super low effort, giving me evil looks when I did the slightest thing wrong. He didn’t want to talk about any of my concerns. He kept going on about how he hated children and wants a child free life in future when he told me when we met that he fought with his ex as he wanted a baby and she didn’t. Sometimes he would cry about how hard his life is when I tried to talk about our future goals for our relationship.
I felt so anxious and disappointed. And he left me and said he dated me as he was lonely and never fell in love. He said the kids thing is the main dealbreaker for him but I don’t know if he was lying. Now he’s back on the dating apps
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Whew. Sounds like you dodged a bullet there. So many red flags.
It doesn’t feel like I dodged a bullet there, the connection was so amazing when we met. And even he was the one to say so. He seemed scared to lose me, everything felt easy in the beginning. It’s crazy because he dumped me on the phone and I didn’t know the last time I saw him was going to be the last. He doesn’t even watch my instagram stories, it’s just been radio silence
Well, I’m sorry that you’re hurt. Someone else will come along, someone better. Sometimes, things just fizzle out.
I don’t know what I could have done to make the relarionshop work. Maybe I’m just not good at relationships. Every guy I’ve dated has lost interest in me, I’ve never dumped a guy. Me and him talked about the future and everything. Turns out , and I don’t mean this in a horrible way, but he’s dating a woman who looks very similar to me even though I wasn’t his usual type, and she seems like a plain Jane version of me
Another woman who know how to pick the best man possible.
What do you mean?