I’ve been seeing this guy two months. “Guy” and I had started heavily flirting by texts and he would call me every night. After a while, we took it a bit further (physically). We started cuddling, watching movies, he’d call me beautiful, showering together, went shopping etc. He started asking my opinion on a lot of things like his clothes and haircuts.
Around a month ago, he told me that he really liked me. The thing is, I knew that “guy” was a bit of a player. So I sort of laughed it off and he played it cool. Jump ahead to a month ago, “guy” started acting more romantic. He would bring me hand picked flowers, hold my hand when I got out of the car, hugging/kissing me randomly. And then he told me he loved and that we should date.
I told him that I feared being another girl to him and declined. He then hugged me tighter and told me that he hopes I accept one day. After that, during the two following weeks, he avoided my calls and barely responded to my texts.
So I took some time to sort through my own feelings instead, before sending him a message and asking if we could call the day after. He told me: “he’d see”. At this point, I just thought he was playing mind games.
The day after, I texted him again asking if he was available. To which he responded “Oh f**k, I forgot”. I just wanted to share my feelings with him so I told him that I’d text it to him. But first, I asked him if his feelings were genuine or just motivated by lust. To which he replied “Who knows”. I insisted, but he refused to tell me.
In the end, I just sent my paragraph and told him that if he refuses to talk then I’d assume he hasn’t been genuine so far. And he texted that that’s not what it means “he just refuses to talk about this online”. Then he told me that’d we’d meet up next week to talk about it.
The things is, I feel like he’s playing mind games now. So that doesn’t really motivate me to hear him out. On the other hand, if I don’t go then I’ll never know.
What do you think?
Around a month ago, he told me that he really liked me. The thing is, I knew that “guy” was a bit of a player. So I sort of laughed it off and he played it cool. Jump ahead to a month ago, “guy” started acting more romantic. He would bring me hand picked flowers, hold my hand when I got out of the car, hugging/kissing me randomly. And then he told me he loved and that we should date.
I told him that I feared being another girl to him and declined. He then hugged me tighter and told me that he hopes I accept one day. After that, during the two following weeks, he avoided my calls and barely responded to my texts.
So I took some time to sort through my own feelings instead, before sending him a message and asking if we could call the day after. He told me: “he’d see”. At this point, I just thought he was playing mind games.
The day after, I texted him again asking if he was available. To which he responded “Oh f**k, I forgot”. I just wanted to share my feelings with him so I told him that I’d text it to him. But first, I asked him if his feelings were genuine or just motivated by lust. To which he replied “Who knows”. I insisted, but he refused to tell me.
In the end, I just sent my paragraph and told him that if he refuses to talk then I’d assume he hasn’t been genuine so far. And he texted that that’s not what it means “he just refuses to talk about this online”. Then he told me that’d we’d meet up next week to talk about it.
The things is, I feel like he’s playing mind games now. So that doesn’t really motivate me to hear him out. On the other hand, if I don’t go then I’ll never know.
What do you think?
