There is this guy from work that I used to like but have tried to forget about because I just knew from all his facial expressions that he “figured out” my feelings and they were obviously not returned (he basically just thinks I’m weird). Despite trying to minimize contact (my job is very solitary) so I don’t have to think about him anymore, this has not worked consistently, because we still see each other both at work and outside (in my neighborhood which is near where I work). What makes it even more uncomfortable is that I get very anxious around him (it’s triggering for me), he sees it, and finds it odd We live in a semi-rural area and both work in the same building, but I’ve seen him drive past me a few times in my neighborhood (a couple blocks away from work) during times when I did not expect to see him (I’m in charge of payroll so I have a general idea of people’s schedules). Then I think I might have driven past him when I had to go the ER (which is also near my apartment). Then at work, when I see him it’s always at the most awkward moments, such as when I was called to fix a problem I couldn’t fix and when I stayed late past my schedule one night and he walked by my office to get a mop, probably not expecting me to be there. I don’t want these encounters, because he already thinks I’m weird. He knows that I was into him and awkward around him, and I don’t want him thinking that I’m following him. Last time I accidentally saw him, he looked really nervous and glared at me, probably not even realizing I did not intend this. I want to forget him because he makes me self-conscious and reminds me of yet another guy I accidentally fell in love with who “figured it out” when I acted flustered and nervous, and then started treating me weirdly and displayed social cues that he wanted nothing to do with me. So the last thing I want is to both be reminded of him and him thinking that I’m following him, because he already has a low opinion of me.
Honestly, your crush on him was in the past. And even if you get awkward around him, so what? you're not following him, and if he was to think that, then thats his issue/insecurity. You currently are living your life, and doing your job and he just happens to be bumping into you. Maybe he's following you (I dont actually think so). But you can't work at the same place and not expect to bump into each other. Also, any guy would be lucky for you (or any girl) to have a crush on him, so the fact that he makes facial expressions about it, makes him sound like an ass. I understand why you're uncomfortable around him, but I would honestly ignore him. He doesn't sound worth the anxiety.
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He probably doesn't give you a second thought. Don't worry about it.
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I think you’re overthinking this
He might think you're a stalker, lol.
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