I met him 7 months ago and he recently got a new job about 1 month ago. There's times he text me but other times he either leaves me on read or takes awhile to respond unless its his day off. Last weekend he called me and asked how come I haven't texted him. I told him I dont want to double text if he hasn't responded to 1st text and he said I can send him as many text. I just feel I would bother him. He does have a 10 year old son. He asked me to visit him at new job so I went and we talked a bit but he was busy answering work phone and calling numbers so I kinda understand but same time I feel he doesn't like me
Why would this guy ask why I dont text him as much, but when I do he either replies late hours or days later or none at all unless its the weekend?
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So back in ‘21 I was trying to give this dude a chance who I thought had potential. He had an 8 year old son, managed a body shop and was a very busy guy. He did the same things, asking why I didn’t reach out more, saying he was interested but his actions didn’t reflect his words. He’d take ages to respond, often flake when we made a plan and basically was more unavailable than he wanted to accept or admit. All this to say — read the room. If he just can’t seem to prioritize you in any way then it doesn’t make him a bad guy or mean you have a problem with him, but you have to stay true to what you want from a guy and let go of the ones who can’t provide it.
Ugh yeah thats true. I dont know why I like him so much. The fact that he doesn't really give me attention the more I think about him. I'm going to try keeping myself busy
Yes, it’s for the better. I was really upset with that whole thing not working but at some point you have to step back and look at it for what it is. If you’re like me then you don’t like feeling as though you’re the only one trying, or that he’s taking you for granted. I don’t even like initiating convos the most so to do that’s as so outside of my comfort zone and my boundaries. I genuinely need a two way road, us both putting mutual effort. If you’re the same then you should leave it alone.
Yeah I dont like it makes me feel desperate if its just me reaching out to him. Its also weird because he never believes I like him or think he's handsome
The guy I was talking to would give similar stories! He’d be like “I don’t dress good like you, you’re so beautiful you can date anyone, what makes you choose me?” “Women never stick around when they see I have a kid, you’d be ready to deal with this?” “Sorry I’ve been taking so long to reply it just gets so busy we get custom orders all the time” “no it’s my bad about last night I got home later than I expected”. Endless excuses, compliments, flattery. The guy likes me I know that much but the effort wasn’t there. I’ve been in a relationship almost 2 years now and he still reaches out.
“I’m ready I promise I can make time for you now”, as if I was going to sit around and wait for him! lol. I’ve also gotten the “I feel like an idiot missing an opportunity with you” “you’re the one that got away”. It’s too bad but sometimes you have to walk away from those men and that situation. Looking back I’m so very glad I stopped getting my hopes up, giving him multiple chances and trying so hard because if I stayed and waited I never would’ve met my current boyfriend and he’s so much better than this other man. He shows me effort I’ve never experienced, works way more hours than the other guy and still drives an hour every day to see me. If he wanted to he would! Im seeing it personally.
Yeah! He always makes excuses for everything! Oh wow thats interesting! Yeah I definitely feel like an option. His job makes him have social media to advertise his job but he doesn't have personal social media. I seen on his work ig he posted 2 hours ago.. im like so you could reply back but you choose not to. He always gives excuses that he forgot to reply back like that shows not thinking about me
Exactly and thats the part you have to keep in mind. No matter what he says, he’s still “choosing” to not even slightly prioritize you and like you said, treat you as an option. With the guy in my case I only gave him about 4 months, because obviously he just isn’t the person he wanted me to believe he was. If you’re like me and got used to disappoints, inconsistency, lack of effort over the years, then it all starts to feel normal and as if men just don’t do better anymore. But the good ones who try are really out there, so don’t waste your time with shmucks who can’t stick to their word. If anything at least find a guy who is willing to do what you know you are as well. Like if you’re the type of woman who responds in a timely fashion, makes effort and does certain things because you wanna do it, I think it’s fair to find a guy who does the same. That way you know you aren’t asking too much because you’re willing to do it as well, you know?
Yeah thats so true. I'm so tired of disappointment. Its true because I knew he wouldn't do as he says so I would try to tell myself to get used to it or expect disappointment but I can't do it anymore. I'm tired of waking up every morning and just to see he hasn't texted me but the person I dont want text me. The most frustrating thing ever
all i got from this is a hunch that seems like he wants you to do the chasing, tell him there's no point is sending more than one message if you have to wait long for a response
Sounds like your a side chick but just an opinion
Damn 😞 but that makes so much sense now that you say that
I’m very sorry but it’s just an opinion I could be wrong just be vigilant