What does it mean when a guy says this exactly?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I do be a bit moody and I go off sometimes

One time I got in my little “mood” and he said “sometimes I think you want me to be rough with you”

I don’t know exactly what he meant by that

[slatyb]

He means "I want to be rough with you but need you to say that you want me to." Do you? If so, you need to ask him EXACTLY what "rough" means to him and then tell him whether you are ok with that.

[Asker]

It turned me on bc he is absolutely right… but he doesn’t love me and we are not in a relationship :(

[slatyb]

That's ok. You can still enjoy the sex. Your choice, but if you are going to get rough, be sure to talk about it first. Tell him what turns you on. Do you trust him to stop if you tell him to?

[Asker]

Yes, I feel that he makes me safe but we have never had sex. I have feelings for him and he doesn’t want me. I can’t handle that

[slatyb]

Them stop seeing him.

[Asker]

We stopped talking. He said he didn’t want a relationship but now he’s engaged

😅

[slatyb]

Sorry.

[Asker]

He said he talks to me out of pity basically. He feels bad for me ig bc I’m so insecure