Guys, Is he playing me?

[Anonymous]

Been seeing this guy for a few months, when I'm with him it's great, he is affectionate and the sex is good too. When he's drunk he tells me he loves me, and has asked me 3 times now to not see other people. He said I can makeout with people but he doesn't wanna hear about it, but not sleep with anyone or suck their dicks coz that's our thing. He also mentions wanting to eventually be together. We have fun when are together and cuddle the entire night. Only thing is when we hang it's always up to him, and when I'm not with him I won't hear from him for days at a time. If it was established that we were only fuck buddies and he didn't bring emotions into it I wouldn't be so bothered, but it really gets to me because why tell me he likes me and all this crap then I don't hear from him for days. What's the point in stringing me along and lying? What would you do and what is his end goal here?

[RespectfulGuy]

I can illustrate emotional attachment to someone we may have an affection for, like a grand uncle or auntie, and we missed them when we can't visit them and can't wait to see them when there is an opportunity.

This is what I expect when someone says "I love you" and wants an intimate, committed relationship.

During those young and foolish days, we literally met every day and talk over the phone for hours after we went home.

No, sex alone is not enough. It may mark the milestone of the relationship, but it's not the relationship.

I won't want to judge him here due to lack of info. But I encourage you to be open and tell him what you tell here, and more. Then let your gut tells you what to do.

Love is more than sex, and commitment goes beyond distance. Be cautious to avoid being burned.

[strateguy632]

try calling by phone and writing text messages, if he ignores you then dump him and ignore him. get a nice guy.

[RyanK9b]

Basically he keeps it like planed. Fuck buddies. In the heat of the moment ir drunk guys can say emotional things to, but they vanish shortly.

Maybe he has feelings and won't admit that

[Iron_Man]

What kind of a relationship is that you can make out with other people just don’t suck their xxxxx are you kidding me here

[spartan55]

What is it he is lying about?

[Asker]

The feelings he says he has, I feel like he is lying about. Because he doesn't seem to show it through actions, only his words...

[Asker]

Am I over reacting to not have received a message in a few days? If a guy was really into someone, no matter how busy, they would find the time to send a quick text...

Maybe I am over reacting, I don't know.

[spartan55]

Okay, whether he is lying or not is really beside the point. YOU are the one tolerating being treated like this. You don't throw the love term around and then act like he is. And you just put up with it? This WILL NOT CHANGE. I would not put up with that shit for a second.

[boobliker]

maybe your a second