Is he interested in me? He’s a colleague and I don’t want to make it awkward or miss my shot either?

[Anonymous]

He’s quite awkward around me - stumbles over his words and would shake a little / display nervous energy when talking to me.

He would be distracted when I would past him - he was conversing with a colleague when he saw me and turned to look at me. The colleague then turned in my direction as well. He also turned back to look when he saw me but didn’t say a thing and seemed to be slowing down / hoping I’d catch up with him?

I feel like I’ve been bumping into him more often and seeing him more offed. He’s checked out my LinkedIn profile a couple times now after and before a conversation. He seems to be positioning himself so he’s close enough / within earshot but not facing me when he sees me around.

My gut tells me he is at least attracted to me but I can’t tell if he’s interested? Would guys check out LinkedIn profiles or be that nervous around someone they just found attractive?

He is interested in you for sure

He could just be physically attracted to you

[RyanK9b]

Why do u think you would miss your shot with someone insecure like him? That should be the question.

Anyways firstly guys are always into looks first. We are visual creatures.
He's into you and by simply advancing towards him you would score to 90%

[Asker]

Ah so his shyness is seen as insecure? He’s a lot more tenured than I am Jon position wise but I know that he’s affected around me

I’m not exactly super confident around him which is why I am here asking this question and as to why I’d think I might miss my shot. I did it a couple months back with someone else because I was too shy and they moved on..

[Asker]

Ah so You’re pretty certain that’s he’s into me then?

[RyanK9b]

If he's that obvious different near you.. Then I'm sure to 80%

And yes normally girls don't like insecure guys which act all weird and unsure with a lack of self esteem

[Asker]

Interesting. Should I just engage him / be friendly and wait for him to approach me?

[RyanK9b]

I bet you would wait ages until he approaches you.
So better take the initiative. Friendly are friends, if you want to hook up use that what god gave you.
You know how, let your instincts take over

[Asker]

He doesn’t seem like the hookup type 😂 he can barely talk to me at. It got so awkward the last time that he literally stood up after our conversation very suddenly, said good luck and walk away. I’d have thought he was annoyed at me if I didn’t know better but he ended up looking me up on LinkedIn right after

Should I appraoch him as friends then?

[RyanK9b]

If you want to be friends with him then approach him like this. But if you want more use your body and female charms

[Asker]

Should I reach out virtually or in person?

[RyanK9b]

If you are more secure now try in person. Otherwise via message.

[Asker]

I think I am but my mind’s running rampant with scenarios. What are the odds that he already has a girlfriend if he’s this nervous around me?

We were acquainted at a company social event and I could tell that he wanted to continue the conversation but was just awkard around me and kept rambling on

[Asker]

My gut tells me no but..

[RyanK9b]

If u don't if he has a girl ask friends of him. Or those who might know.

At the end you have to advance. This boy won't do shit.

[SnowedIn]

It doesn't matter. Do not not not not get involved with colleagues. Even if they like you. Even if they shoot their shot. Just don't.

[Asker]

We’re in completely different divisions and will never overlap at work

[Asker]

I actually only got to know him after a company social event and we had to mingle with others outside our departments. We also have a few couples around the office as well so it’s not frowned upon haha

[SnowedIn]

It may not be frowned upon but it's waaaaay awkward. In 35 years in the workplace I have never -- not once -- seen anything with a colleague end well.

[Asker]

Oh wow - even in different divisions?

[Asker]

He’s in IT and I’m in corporate development for a large MNC

[SnowedIn]

Think of it like this: you guys have a relationship and it turns sexual and then goes bad and you have to sit in meetings with him for the next X number of years. That's not awkward or uncomfortable? Not worth it in my opinion

[SnowedIn]

Yeah even in large MNC and different departments/divisions.

[Asker]

🥲🥹

[Asker]

Appreciate the advice though!

[SnowedIn]

Best wishes with it whatever happens. I hope it works out for you.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He could be physically attracted to you, really hard to say?

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing! What would be the giveaway that’s he interested in me?

Would you check someone up on LinkedIn a few times if just attracted?