Guys, Was I used for sex?

[Anonymous]

That man has been spending time with me regularly during four months. Firstly in a friendly after work hangout format (we work in the same organization) but the attraction was palpable. Then he said that he liked me, but he had a girlfriend. I replied that until he is single, we can't try anything, even though I’m attracted to him too. So he took time off and came back telling me he broke up with the girl. We went out a couple more times, then we had sex.

And he hasn't contacted me since, not even right after leaving my flat, it's been 5 days now.

Have I been used for sex? If so why spending four months orbiting and telling me about the girlfriend? If it was a one-shot, it wasn’t necessary...

Or is it ok to give him more time?

[Anonymous]

Yes he used you. Got what he w acted. Probably didn’t even break up w his girlfriend. But trust me he will probably come back around later down the road w some lame ass excuse just to get a piece of that again.

[Asker]

That was my thought exactly after. Thanks! Still cannot figure out why putting 4 months of effort when you can easily find that on tinder or in a bar. In any case, no regrets for the sex part and fuck him for all the rest! Thank you)

[Opinion Owner]

Well it’s shitty you had to meet someone like that. Hopefully someone else better will come along.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sounds like you were used for sex, and continuing to work with this guy may become awkward for you. Shouldn't date co-workers for this reason.

[OlderAndWiser]

But, when I was younger, I dated and had sex with two co-workers (but not at the same time.) One of them became the great regret of my life.

[Asker]

Why so?

[OlderAndWiser]

I was living in Tampa when we were dating. Everything about her was a good fit for me, but it was a time of transition in my life. I moved back home, 250 miles away, and didn't maintain contact with her. I wonder what might have happened.

[Asker]

I think it goes the way it is supposed to be. Thanks for your opinion!

[spartan55]

Give him more time for what? He got what he wanted.

[Asker]

Got it! :)

[Anonymous]

Yeah you were easy for him. To get sex. I am sorry you feel bad about it, but those are the type of guys you are attracted to.