We had a couple shots and I asked if he check out girls and he said yes?

[Anonymous]

We were watching a movie a stripper scene came out and I asked him do you ever check out females when you’re alone and he said “ yes but no “ I’m like how can a guy check a girl out but no. And he said” well I might think she cute but I’m not like omg checking her out 🙄 . So in short words he does check out girls. I got upset and responded with “ I don’t check out guy but I should start too. Should I feel upset. He hasn’t said a word after this

[Anonymous]

I know it’s hard for you not to get into your feelings about this but this happens w most men. Sometimes I feel it just instinctively happens. I mean I don’t go around just looking for girls to check out. Now if he’s starting then that’s different, he knows he’s doing it on purpose. I really don’t see how a lot of women can’t fathom out of the millions of women on the face of this earth that a man would just stop seeing other women as gorgeous because he’s w someone. The difference is he’s w you, not w them. Quite honestly I wish I could tie that part off about me in checking out other women, but I can’t. That’s like asking women to to being emotional. I know my girl sees other men who are handsome, especially Aqua-man and The Rock. Doesn’t bother me. Yes I know these are dudes who chances are she will never be w. Women want honesty but when they get told answer that they don’t like they’re mad. I really would t try to understand it, you won’t really understand it as a female. Just like some things women do that I don’t understand.

[Asker]

Thank you for understanding me

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t take it personal when he does that. Like I said if I could turn that part of my brain off I would but I can’t. Life would be easier for me if that was possible, because there so many temptations.

[spartan55]

There was no right answer, you shit tested him. Guys don't appreciate that. Also, you say you don't look at attractive guys? That's a total lie.

[Asker]

I look but i dont scan them

[spartan55]

Who scans them? He didn't say that. You are embellishing your story.

[Anonymous]

Um, news flash all men check out other women. Literally all of them. Some respectful, some aren’t but they all do. What do you want him to lie? Because if he lied and said he doesn’t, then that’d be even worse.

Why ask a question then get upset at the answer you knew you’d get. It screams insecure. I’m not going to ask my guy if a girl who obviously has a fat ass has a fat ass, then get mad when he agrees that the girl has a fat ass.

[Asker]

Look I been with him 12 years and I’m not a delusional girlfriend. Do I know that he check outs females with out me asking. ? Yes he does but what I don’t like if that he tried to deny it after saying YES I DO
I don’t know if he the type to turn necks for a female but if that was the case I wouldn’t take him serious I guess I will never know 😅 I just don’t like how it becomes awkward after this topic.

[Opinion Owner]

No, he didn’t deny it he meant what he said. Like he said, yes but no, meaning he will look but that’s about it. If he had full on said yes you’re telling me you wouldn’t have cared or what? What’s the right answer for you girl lol. In my opinion “yes but no” is another word for “sometimes”
Also, it sounds like it only became awkward because you made that comment afterward. If he gives you the respect to give you an honest answer, which it sounds like he did, I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise.. also saying stuff like “I guess I’ll just check other guys out” just means he will just lie about stuff in the future that you ask that could make stuff awkward

[Anonymous]

You have no right to be upset. He was honest with you about it. You also said yourself you knew he does this so why are you bitching about it.

[236color]

I'm married, have been for 35 years. But I'm not dead, I still notice attractive women. Be honest with yourself, you still notice other men.

[BigDog1989]

He's just saying, he'll look but, he won't like, approach her or anything.

Why would you ask such a thing?

[Jmmmfi4]

You're overreacting