Is it true no one really cares about men’s feelings we just have to get through things?

[Anonymous]

This seems to be a lot of male advice. No one’s coming to save you, being a man is competitive and your feelings are irrelevant

Yes it’s true

I disagree

[xKayTea]

No because you cannot generalise everyone, However there is an issue with mens mental health unfortunately. This is due to generations of men telling men to 'man up', who made it so women couldn't go to war back then? men, who told my dad he needs to 'man up', his father, who told his father he needs to 'man up' his father.

Sure I have seen women be disgustingly oblivious and insulting to mens mental health, but not on the scale that it is ingrained within men themselves and putting it onto other men.

I think the way forward is to not generalise either gender, attacking eachother will not do anything, and men need to stop pushing this idea that it is weak to have issues, onto their sons, which then do it to their sons etc etc.

Here are some great organisations for mens mental health, remember, talking to your male friend about these topics, can have a huge rebound affect and help them out;

https://www.manup.how/

https://uk.movember.com/mens-health/mental-health

June is also mens mental health month, you need to speak up, do not suffer in silence, otherwise it will not change, if men want this issue resolved they need support, but also to be strong and stand up about it.

[MawofTheVoid]

"No because you cannot generalise everyone" ok? So should we say that women don't face gender based discrimination? Technically not by this mindset, some of my female friends haven't experienced gender based discrimination, so I guess there isn't a problem with our society, everything's fine right? No. That is not how that works, it's not a "generalization" to say that men's issues don't get talked about, or that men's feelings don't get taken seriously, in the same way that it's not a generalization to say that women face gender based discrimination, and are more likely to be victims of sexual assault. "who made it so women couldn't go to war back then? men, who told my dad he needs to 'man up', his father, who told his father he needs to 'man up' his father." This is the exact kind of "you made your bed, not sleep in it" mindset that makes men feel like they don't even have a right to speak, no sympathy, just pointing the finger, you encourage men to speak up, but immediately point at them and tell them that it's their fault, awesome, great way to show how much you care. Also, as a women, you do not get to tell men what they experience, frankly, you don't know what it's like to be raised as a man, you don't know what we go through, the same way I don't know what you go through as a women, you can't tell me that isn't a thing, because me, and literally every male friend I have live this, we live in a world where no one cares, the statistics don't lie unfortunately.

[MawofTheVoid]

Yes, unfortunately this is absolutely true, from a societal standpoint men do not have any help at all, no one cares because men are not valued, we work, go to war and die, you can point your fingers and say "it's the patriarchy" or say "men did this to themselves" which isn't untrue, but this does literally nothing to solve the problem or help. The male suicide rate across the board is close to 4 times higher I believe, and before someone chimes in with "Um actually the female attempt rate is higher so so uh no" yea, ATTEMPT is the word you should be looking at, you know why it's usually just an attempt for women? Because generally speaking, people care, you have help, men do not, when you're in a very dark place as a man it is so, SO hard to get help, to get someone to care, to get anyone to listen, you're not allowed to struggle, to show weakness, you get no attention and no validation. I try to make sure that all of my guy friends know that they can talk to me, and unfortunately this is the situation for every guy friend I have, family included, hopeless, unwanted, unloved and abandoned by a society the sees us at tools. No I'm not saying men have it harder than women, no I'm not saying women don't have problems, I'm just saying that men and women BOTH have a lot of societal problems that they have to deal with, but one gender gets to talk about their problems while the other doesn't, and people wonder why the suicide rate is so high, it makes me sad.

[Anonymous]

Most people don't care about feelings beyond thier own. It's not just guys man. The only difference is men will pretend to care about a woman's feelings to win favor with her. A woman may manipulate a guy but she typically uses feminine wiles to do so. A woman that is trying to win favor with a guy wants him to think of her sexually, not motherly.

I can see why you think no one cares about a guys feelings. But the reality is a guys feelings are just not relevant man. You might have a few close bros you can confide in. But that's really all the support system a guy gets man. Just do the best you can. I'm pulling for ya.

[LazerBean]

It depends on if you came from a good family or a bad family, tbh. People from good families who were raised well will tend to have people who care about them. Bad people won't.

[inhua]

absolutely no one cares about men or their issues. the ones who do get demonized and silenced and gaslighted

the suicide rate amongst men could increase a hundredfold and it still wouldn't ring any alarm bells. maybe parents might be concerned but everybody else? nah

[xKayTea]

Unfortunately it is usually parents who push these harmful ideals onto men (Usually the father). My father got told to 'man up' by his dad, and his dad got told to 'man up' by his dad. My fathers mother once went to cuddle him, at age 5, and his father said 'do not baby him anymore he will be weak.'.

It needs to be shot down from the main source which is unfortunately generational.

[inhua]

@xKayTea the real harm comes from the mix messaging where a lot of men are getting confused on what to do. being told it's ok to express their feelings and emotions yet getting silenced at the same time if what is expressed offends someone else's feelings and emotions

one such example is the MRAs fighting for equality in divorce courts or domestic abuse cases. 3rd wave feminists would silence them and shut down any attempts for progress in this arena. since then the more men's issues get silenced and ignored, the more it bottles up and gets worse

we see this also with victims of continuous bullying. the public would ignore their pleas and even engage in the demonization of the victim and then they wonder why the victim ends up becoming a school shooter. I don't agree with such methods but at the same time it's hard to blame them when all they have heard their entire lives is ridicule and mockery and see no hope

unless some major catastrophe happens like a WW3, it's only when the governments and society realize men's issues. western militaries already have terrible recruiting/retention rates and these countries will feel the full force of an invasion when it happens

[NewgodOmega]

More true than god
You are a guy fuk your problems are your problems alone bra
Deal with it
No one gives a shit specially other men coz all men are designed to block out emotional shit

[Heather06]

I see it all the time at school, girls get upset and they get all this attention. Boys get upset and everyone ignores him. Girls are believed more than boys are when it comes to abuse issues. I've seen girls hit boys, touch them inappropriately and if a boy says anything he gets ridiculed but the same thing happens to a girl and she is treated like a queen. When I see things like that at school I stand up for the boy because it's so unfair 😪

[NewgodOmega]

@Heather06 well you are just lying I know that there is no womeb that takes a guys side. Not one in entire existence. All women are evil creatures

[Fanfare690]

I think men are important and their feelings are too society just ignores them because they are men

[Imsmurter1]

Compared to women maybe but not that extreme

[Emilianorodríguez]

Yes, but I don't care about women's feelings anyway.