Guys, why would you hover around the woman you like, talk to people around her, but now her?

[Anonymous]

What are you hoping happens when you do this and why do you not talk to her?

[DaveJord]

Trying to give her an opportunity to engage with me or show any interest in talking to me. The circumstance and situation matter a lot. There are plenty of times you do not want to directly engage with woman that you find attractive. Like this morning in the office, there is this woman I never met in person, she has been in out of the office once or twice. I have noticed her, but she seems in hurry all the time.

So, this morning she came in and I went up front and started talking to one of the people she was with, because I knew that person. She stood there the whole time, never said a word or gave me an opportunity to directly interact with her or even introduce myself. When they left all the other person said goodbye, and she said nothing... just turned and left.

Obviously, she must not be interested. The fact that I got up and came over there was about all the effort I was willing to put in it. I mean I made eye contact several times with her and she look completely not interested in talking to me. Could I have made a better effort? Yes, I could of, but why should I have to? She literally could of said anything at anytime, to make herself part fo the conversation. But she did not.

[Asker]

So you went up there and never spoke to her. Made her feel she was not worth an introduction. And she was going to recognize somehow that you went up there for her benefit?

[DaveJord]

That is all true... but if she was interested in me in anyway one would think that she would have said something at any time to make herself a part of the conversation. But she didn't and if the expectation is I should have done more, then I am saying she's not the type of woman for me.

I was just wanting for her to give me a opening to start a conversation with her, and honestly wasn't interested. If she was then she should have at least said hello, when I acknowledge at the beginning.

Again, another woman came in yesterday, I was just standing at the front desk talking to my freind. She came in and my freind got up to assist her with her request. At one point it was just me and this woman standing at the front desk. She asked what I did here, I told her in I am the guy that stands at the front desk talking and wasting time when I should be working. I was trying to be funny.

Here response to me was this; "Yeah I try to talk to people as little as possible."

I responded with; "Okay, I guess I will stop trying to talk to you then." Again, trying to be funny I was smiling at her when I said it.

She stood there looking at me for second, but for next two minutes or so in complete silence. Neither of us saying a word to each other. My buddy returned and gave her what she was looking for. She says thank you to him, then turns and leave without another word, or even goodbye to me.

So how much effort do you think a guy should have to put out, when this how half his communications with woman go? Bottom line I don't care how attractive you are, if there is some expectation the guys should have to do more, then you are probably not offering much.

[Anonymous]

Shy and attracted to her

[Asker]

Is the heart beating wildly?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe 😏