Why do I attract only toxic men if I love and respect myself and maybe come off a bit intimidating?

[Anonymous]

[ProbablyClueless]

Toxic can mean a lot of different things, so I guess the answer would depend on what exact behaviors you're encountering. In general, I would say that truly emotionally healthy people are at a disadvantage in the dating world because there are so many more emotionally unhealthy people who try to latch onto the healthy person.

As far as intimidation stuff is concerned; there might be some of that. If you truly are a successful and happy person, you might be making other people see how unhappy they are with their own lives and unintentionally making them feel bad or deficient for not having their own act figured. I think some of that might be happening in my relationships.

[Anonymous]

Men aren’t intimidated by women so get that out of your head. Women who say oh they’re I to I dated by me because I say what I feel, I’m a boss bitch or whatever they tell themselves, we choose not to deal w it. It’s not that we can’t handle it, we don’t want to handle it. she's a grown ass adult she should handle herself. To me it sounds as though you have masculine traits, something a majority of men don’t want. When you’d say I to orating it just sounds like you come off as a bitch. I know people get upset when they feel as though they’re the victim but being blamed. But in reality, yes a big part of it is you that’s why you draw those types of men in. Maybe your father was “toxic.” I say “toxic” because man everything men do that women don’t like is “toxic.”

[Yurmom]

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[Opinion Owner]

@Yurmom moron

[DarkWinterNights]

Women who claim they intimidate men because of their jobs or “boss bitch” attitudes don’t understand basic masculine/feminine social dynamics. You’re only going to attract feminine or toxic men because you exude masculine energy. Masculine or confident men are interested in the drama, the competitive or masculine energy you’re going to bring to the relationship. That’s just how evolution and psychology works. You can claim their intimidated or weak all you want it’s not going to change anything.

[Anonymous]

In my experience, women who think the reason they fail with men is because they are "intimidating" are almost always wrong. They have issues with their personalities and attitudes toward men and relationships and that's why they fail. But thinking they are "intimidating" is an easy scapegoat that is an easier pill for them to swallow.

[hello123456789]

You need to work on your feminine energy. You can have standards without be intimidating and unagreeable.

[boggboss]

Where are u dating and are u attracted to traits they likely have

[balyai]

Maybe you avoid the red flags in them

[Anonymous]

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