I can’t tell if the guy I been on two dates is still interested?

[Anonymous]

A paramedic that I’ve been seeing for 2 weeks and knows my mum from work. we get along really easily and the first two dates went so well and he was such a gentleman (candle lit dinner that he made etc) this was during his week off work. after each date he non stoped texted sending photos, long paragraphs and voice note saying can’t wait to see me again/wants to take me here and there. went back to work three days later and usually he send a morning message and follows up a reply to my last response, first day back I didn’t get one but I knew he was busy so I thought I would message morning and say hope he has a good day, he respond after work enthusiastically. The next day I didn’t get a reply back but I didn’t want to bombard him with messages and my mum said she saw him and he looked busy and not his usual self so I thought he would reply to me after work but I never got a reply. I thought nothing of it but no reply the next day either but he was online most of the day, so I sent a message saying hope work wasn’t too bad for him the day before etc, he replied once saying what he doing today and then ignored my last message completely but the message said he was essay writing so thought nothing of it. I didn’t hear from him again and I message the night before I thought he was going away saying hope he has a safe flight etc and he replied he not going away until Tuesday and responded but it was very short and to the point not like his usual messages. That night I saw him in the gym as during one of my text I mentioned I was going gym at this time when he asked about my day and he gave me a cuddle and chatted and a little flirt but wasn’t he really jokey self. I messaged him after a flirty message about what he said to me In the gym and he replied and then opened the next and not respond, I’m assuming it because he going on holiday and is busy. I’m a little confused on the switch up and just let him come to me now and see if he messages after his holiday

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Basically his switch up in communication is huge and now read messages and don’t respond and when he does not his usual self just short. I know it early days and usually I’m fine with not constant communication early on but because he was constantly messaging me paragraphs, funny things and voice note I can’t tell if I’m over reacting and over thinking about the change especially when he seem still into me at the gym

[_Maya_]

I think that you are over thinking things. In the first days both of you are excited and eager to talk and try to see each other. So you make extra effort to try and text or talk as much as you can. Well that doesn't last forever. It also sounds by what you say that he is just really busy. You might be learning that he is just not someone with a lot of free time. That will be something you will have to get used to or adjust to if that is the case.

[BasedBaeBecca]

You’re making the mistake of trying to read into what he’s doing. And you’re getting way too invested in him after two dates.

Take a step back and just enjoy yourself. You should not want this man this badly already. It’s a red flag for you to be that clingy/needy.

Maybe he thinks you’re too clingy/needy too.

Give him space and time. You should be more worried about getting to know each other deeply when you’re together. Not how he spends his time when you’re apart.

[spartan55]

Cut down on the texting and call him if you want to talk.. guys don't like texting.

[Iron_Man]

Don’t give it up on sex you’ll find out if he is sooner or later

[Anonymous]

Let me guess, you are wasting your time with texts, right?

[Onlyhumanbro71]

Yess

[Asker]

Yeah feel like it haha. I assumed he lost interest but then we went to the gym at the same time and cuddle and wouldn’t stop staring etc so can’t tell if it’s because he busy or what

[In_Trance]

Next date is the make or break

[Asker]

So wait for him to contact me and ask me on another date?

[In_Trance]

Why wouldn't you ask him?