How do I stop worrying and go on about my day when a guy at work won't take no for an answer?

[Anonymous]

There's a guy at work whose leaving on Friday.

He's 23 & I'm 38. Big age difference. I just chat to him mainly cause he's next to me.

I went overseas last month & before I went he asked me out for lunch but I said no.

On Monday he said to me "Do you want to have a drink just us, it will be the last time we see eachother."

I said no & he left it for the day.

Tuesday he asked again for a coffee just us again.

I said no but will come to the teams farewell and then he goes "so you don't want to do anything just us?"

I said "I'll just talk to you here at the desk."

He keeps asking and I've already told him no.

It's a huge age difference and I don't know what to do if he asks again?

It's making me uncomfortable and one woman who sits on the otherside of me who heard asked if I was ok.

I've had anxiety these last few days because of it & Im just counting the days till he goes. I don't even want to go to the group coffee now.

If he asks again should I go to my manager and decline the coffee invite?

[_Maya_]

I think you need to talk to whoever is your supervisor or manager and have him/her put an end to it. It is now harassment if you have declined multiple times and he won't quit. It is one thing to ask and be rejected and take that as a loss. It is a whole other thing to continue to pester you after you are clear you want nothing to do with him outside of work. I think you need to take this to someone above you.

[Asker]

Thank you. I'm going to go to my manager tomorrow and. talk to him about. Hopefully I can sit somewhere else as well for the last few days. Don't know why he can't seem to get the message.

[_Maya_]

Some people just can't take no for an answer. Annoying.

[Anonymous]

next time tell him you’re not interested in going out with him and if even after that he keeps bothering you like that go to HR

[DextroShade]

I would say to go to HR, but if he's leaving anyway you can just wait it out or shut him diwn very harshly and publicly.

[Anonymous]

You gotta complain