There is this 26 year old part-time actor and a full-time student that asked me out on a date, I was so scared to go because I was worried he wouldn’t like me, couldn’t even sleep the day before date, because I was anxious. But I wanted to face my fears and still went for it.
So, when we met each other, he was really very handsome and a nice person, I told him right at the beginning that I am moving in two weeks, he must have felt really lonely, because he easily opened up to me and when he started talking, barely gave me any time to speak. He talked for 3 hours, my part of communication was limited into “active listening”,
and even though that I thought when I saw him that “Wow, this man is just as handsome as my ex”, it didn’t help me to get attracted to him. I just appreciated his looks aesthetically but didn’t feel attracted especially that once he started talking never stopped.
He said he feels lonely and wants to find a person he can rely on then went on and complained, I felt like his mother, he complained about his life problems, and I felt more like his savior than a potential girlfriend,
my ex, rarely complained, when I asked him why was he upset, he just said “It’s okay babe, I don’t want to upset your little heart with my problems, I can deal with them, you don’t have to worry.” So I had to try to open him up and make him speak and express his fears, worries and feelings.
This guy though started complaining on a very first date, one and two complaints are fine but for 3 hours… That’s a lot.
Then I asked him if he has any friends here and he said “No, because it’s easier to get girlfriends so when I feel lonely, I usually get a girlfriend.”
He also said, he is looking to get married. I am looking too someday, but I feel that must be a trap, assuming that he gets girlfriends everytime he feels lonely.
Overally the date went fine in a way that I wasn’t scared anymore.
He messaged me “Looking forward to talking with you more and I will let you talk a lot next time.
Sorry I got excited and kept talking…
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Yeah I opened up a lot , never happened before.”
I move away soon but The moving away part is not a big deal because I move very close, just 40-50 minutes away. (15 minutes with railway). He knows about it and said it’s not a problem.
My place is actually part of the place where I am moving, it’s just an outskirt and I am moving in the centre.
