My boyfriend has this new girl best frnd! he wished me gm text by calling me by her name, deleted the text?

[Anonymous]

• I was insecure about this girl and he usually hangs out with her frnd grp…he has many of her pics in his phone! As he knows I don’t like this he told me that they stopped talking…but yesterday he literally texted me “good morning …….(the girl’s name)” and as I saw it he quickly deleted the text! And he wasn’t accepting it but I had a screenshot…and then he was like sorry I was in sleep! What do I do? I’m overthinking a lot and it’s affecting my health and academics

[Yannae]

Deleted the text... That is an alarm that should be going off. It does happen that from time to time you accidently send a text to the wrong person. Mistakes are human. When that happens I say "Woops! Wrong person!" and move on, but he deleted it... like he didn't want you to see it... That secrecy is not a good sign I'm afraid :(

That to me is a red flag. I'm only now starting to read the description and I find another one. He broke a promise. Red flag number two is that he told you they stopped talking, which was a lie.

Relationships are built on trust and if he can't keep his word, we got a huge problem. You can check his phone for messages, I wonder if he's deleted his messages to her. If you bring up looking through his phone, you need to make sure he can't back out and can't delete the messages behind your back before giving it to you. You can also reach out to the girl in question, if you can keep it civil and not be hostile. Calmly ask her if he's talking to her.

What I would personally do, is breakup because I can not have lies in my relationship. "Being in sleep" doesn't magically form the other girl's name in the message! But if he is telling me the truth, he should have no problem giving me his phone right away. The girl he's talking to might even have more proof because she doesn't have to be all secret, she can't accidently text you. I highly doubt that she deletes messages. But talking to her is not for everybody, "love rivals" might get into a heated argument or worse case scenario, a fight. Unless you keep yourself calm.

[Asker]

Yeah, I know! I’ve told him to tell me the truth Everytime he does some mistake I even said him that just don’t lie tell the truth….. and I did text the girl but while she was replying me they both were literally on a call talking about me…and then she unfollowed me right away…he has even changed his social media passwords 😞

[Yannae]

They were in a call together... after telling you he won't talk to her again. He broke the promise again, strike three. You don't need anymore proof in this case. It's safe to say that he isn't right for you and that you should dump him. End the relationship, for your sake. Staying is only going to stress you out more.

[Ironic_Method]

Sounds like he's saying good morning to her too. I'd personally just cut him out and deal with school... but that's me and I have a low tolerance for bullshit.

[Asker]

Even I’m the same I cannot tolerate it!
It’s just that Because I know what other girls are capable of doing. he calls it “jealousy" but I call it
"fear of losing him”
As he hides a lot of things from me!

[Ironic_Method]

Trust your gut and don't put up with shit like that. You should be glad to rid yourself of someone playing off very valid suspicion.

[ta-ra]

I'm so sorry. It seems he likes her. He thought to text her first thing which means she is on his mind. I could be wrong but I feel like that's what is going on. 😕

[Finchie40]

Umm you need to dump him , if he truly valued you and loved you and appreciated you he wouldn’t be making friends with other girls’ and keeping iclose contact with them , He clearly just likes the convenience of you

[Staximus]

Get rid of that two timing young bum and you'll get a good night's sleep. If he's not fooling around with her yet, he will be soon.

[Staximus]

Your health and peace of mind is more important than some dumb kid that plays games with you