I've seen girls who have the body of an adult woman, but who, if you look a little more closely, are clearly young teens. Many guys would see such a girl and assume that she's 18 or 19, even if she's really 12 or 13, and, for sure, some of them don't CARE to look close enough to see that she's clearly younger than a first glance might suggest.
You can't really prevent anyone from looking, but you CAN set clear boundaries (and it sounds like you do) and limit your interactions with such men. It sounds like you're doing this already, so keep it up.
As you get older, you will probably be tempted (and your friends will likely encourage this, especially those "friends" who have very poor judgement themselves) to get with older guys at a very young age, but I don't recommend it. It's not unusual for girls to date older guys, but I wouldn't consider anyone more than 2 years older than you, at least until you're out of high school.
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if older men are looking, I can guarantee that younger boys are looking too
it's not illegal to look or talk but as long as they don't try to put their hands on you, then I wouldn't worry too much if I were you
you might get some users here that try to demonize these people and scare you into thinking a certain way to invoke fear
if you want to live a long happy life, don't let thoughts that go on in the minds of others dictate your happiness. if you concern yourself with the thoughts of others (when they look) it won't be a happy life for you
feeling good depends on how much you accept the world for what it is
I'm sorry you are experiencing this. I was the same way. When I was 13 and 14 and 15 I got hit on by older men all the time. And you start second guessing everything.
Like I developed pretty fast physically. So at 13 I had a fully developed body pretty much. I understand that would get attention. I understand breasts will get attention. So I thought maybe they think I'm legal age.
I've always looked younger than what I was though, my body at 13 and 14 might've looked old enough but I know for a fact my face looked my age or younger. So I thought, ok, They have to know I'm underage. So eventually I'd tell them my actual age and it honestly wouldn't stop them.
There's honestly nothing you can do to change their mind. People like that, no age or number is gonna matter to them in the end.
Just try to get away from them as fast as possible. Don't ever play into it at all. Just go if you can.
You are at that age you're not a girl and not a woman yet. For creeps and pervs for some reason are attracted to that. Be very careful with these type of men you're a minor.
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Older men started staring at me at the age of 13 too.
Some started messaging me online, some even tried to sext with me.
It caused huge trust issues to me and for a long time I didn’t trust older men and thought they were gross predators.
I hope you’ll stick to talking to boys your age and remember that a 30/40/50 yo man who pays too much attention to you, doesn’t necessarily have the best interests to you.
Take care and protect yourself from such men.
You should feel whatever way you naturally do. Feelings are unnate, they're not a choice. If you feel creeped out by it, that is valid. That doesn't necessarily mean they are being creeps (though they very well still may be), but if you are feeling creeped out about it, I don't think you should question yourself.
But if you do look older than you are, and you are more developed than girls your age typically are, it is possible these guys might wrongfully assume you're a decent bit older. Though, hopefully they're still being respectful and considerate of your comfort and not just gawking at you whether it bothers you or not.There's nothing wrong with what you wear. Many adult men are clueless about the effect their behavior has on adolescent girls, or else they know but don't care. Sorry, I don't have any advice for you.
If you don’t like the attention don’t bother with those people
Well stated, and very sorry that you have been made to feel this way. Stay safe
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