My ex by's wife asked him to cut me off and yet he keeps sending me songs & trying to hang out? what should I do? ?

[Anonymous]

she's very uncomfortbale with our friendship and doesn't think we're just friends. she thinks things might lead on to something in the future. they have 2 kids. she explcitily asked him to stop talking to me and he communicated it 2 me. obviously i cried like hell cuz he means A LOT to me. and has always been very supportive to me. Yet, he seems to not care about what she. says and is continuously talking and sending me. LOVE. songs to listen to. and always trying to grab coffee with me. What should I do? Pls someone help me.

[_Maya_]

I must be missing something here. Why are you two exes if he means a lot to you and he keeps reaching out withove songs? What the heck happened that he is your ex if you are so fond of him and he seems the same of you? Anyways you need to back off. Sorry but it is true. Do the right thing and tell him this has to stop. He's got a family with two kids. Yeah that is on him to not ruin it but you aren't helping. You have to respect he has a different life now. You two had your chance a f things moved on.

[Asker]

we couldn't be together for unfortunate reasons (family issues, unfavorable circumstances at the time). Unfortunately, he saw me crying and upset when this whole thing happened and he told me that this was her wishes. We both know that nothing will happen between us in the future given his love for his kids and the family life. Yet, he can't seem to let me go. I don't know what to do honestly.

[_Maya_]

That takes time but you have to start somewhere. That is a really tough situation and I'm sorry that it didn't work out for you two but the fact remains that his life dictates going on anothet path that doesn't include you. You have to let it go as hard as that is going to be.

[Asker]

You're absolutely right. But what if he still doesn't let me go? And do you think that it was wrong of me to cry so hard to him, given that it validates how much he means to me etc?

[_Maya_]

You may have to go to an extreme and block him but in the end he is also responsible for his actions. No it wasn't wrong of you to cry. It's obviously a very emotional thing letting go. I don't fault you one bit.

[Asker]

thank you for not being judgmental, I really appreciate it. He seemed to be happy or relieved that i got emotional about it... i assume cuz it validates how much i care about him and how much he means to me.

[_Maya_]

Oh you're welcome sweetie. I'm sure you were right that it struck a cord on his emotions too. Super tough situation for you both.

[Emanon25]

You should not let him text you or do anything else.